Do most relationships happen naturally/without much effort?

[Anonymous]

28F, I’ve gone this long without ever meeting someone I genuinely like or ever falling in love. I get matches on the dating apps, if I want to score the dates that hasn’t been the issue. It’s always the ghosting, fizzling out, lack of interest from either person etc. I use the apps very casually but it seems like dating happens so effortlessly, regardless of their looks. I’m pretty reserved & far from being too eager so the “love will find you when you’re not looking” cliche isn’t working. I game which can be social, I don’t really have friends but the apps or even just running into someone outside (never organic) hasn’t happened

Yes

No

[DaveJord]

I wish they did, but I got more action when I used to try. But I have given up mostly on chasing, and nothing has just fell out of the sky yet... but maybe someday.

[DarkWinterNights]

A good relationship should progress naturally, but initiating one most likely won’t just land in your lap- especially if you’re reserved or quiet. It only gets harder to meet people as you get older.

[Molly1997]

I don’t know but I’m my relationship very little effort was required it flowed so smoothly

[anon1903]

Don't focus on dating. There's more to life than that.