Does the woman who cheated on her guy get to be angry with him if he cheated on her after?

[Light_beam]

[noamazia]

generally, of course, she can be mad about it. but she doesn't have the right to complain to him about it anymore.

now obviously there are caveats. if she got drunk and did something on impulse, while the man later did that on purpose to "show her" then yeah, she should complain since it's childish.

but if she did so out of her free will while fully in control, then yeah. the best she is allowed to do is sincerely tell him "ok, that hurt me" and "let's start anew or make ground rules" and that's it.

[OlderAndWiser]

There actually aren't rules for when you are allowed to be angry. If you're mad, you're mad, and it doesn't matter whether anyone else thinks it isn't justified. And if others think you should be angry, but you aren't, so what?

[SarahS98]

Well yes because it's still cheating. Though I have mixed feelings about this because then that would make her a hypocrite.

I read dad's journal last year. My dad had a revenge affair way back in 2000, actually confessed to it himself and got forgiven quickly. Mom acted more lenient on him. Though I don't know if it's the same. Mom cheated on him when they were just boyfriend and girlfriend without kids while dad cheated back after they got married with a child; me.

[Light_beam]

so she thinks that she can sleep with other people but he can't?

[SarahS98]

Nope, according to my dad's journal she thought it was deserved and was very lenient towards him, forgave him immediately. Dad still took responsibility for his cheating though; the revenge cheating still didn't make him feel good.

[SarahS98]

So they basically made a permanent pact afterwards; she doesn't mention his cheating and he shuts up about hers... that's between them only and no one has to know it. I'm the only that accidentally knows it by now.. it was stupid of me to read that journal.

[Light_beam]

yea, very stupid actually!

[SarahS98]

and now my image of them has changed. It's no longer the image of the ideal, perfect family with the best example of what I thought love and marriage was like.
Ironically all my morals and values came from them. I have to admit yes they did a good job raising me and my twin sister but damn, I wish I never knew their past.

[Light_beam]

would you cheat?

[SarahS98]

No. I wouldn't revenge cheat. I wouldn't want anything to do with the cheater.

[provokeesmokee]

Yeah, you're both shit.

You should've broken up with her after she cheated. Instead you try to keep her? That's stupid as shit.

I feel sorry for your side pieces.

[Light_beam]

stupid as f.. this a hypothetical question !

[Anonymous]

A woman gets to be angry about whatever crosses her mind. Because she thinks she's got the get out of jail free card of PMS. Anytime she's slightly annoyed about anything? PMS! Anytime she doesn't want to take responsibility for anything? PMS! Don't get me wrong. I don't think the tradeoff is worth springing a bloody leak for a few days, but women definitely get thier money's worth out of it. And they all have gotten together as a gender and agreed to perpetuate this as somehow debilitating do to overdramatic nature.

[ohsheeT]

In a relationship it doesn't matter what that other person does what somebody does something they cannot be angry at the other person for doing it you can't go out and cheat and then when the other person does it call them on it you have no more say once you do something that you're not supposed to be doing you have no more say about it when the other person doesn't I don't care what it is you cannot have your cake and eat it too no matter what the scenario is

[Finchie40]

If the guy was smart he wouldn’t of taken her back after she cheated on him in the first place , So by him cheating on her makes him a piece of shit as well , 2 wrongs don’t make a right

[bolverk]

No she doesn't, she already stepped out on her husband, hence she has no right to be angry if the husband has had an affair of his own.
Personally if I'd been the husband I'd have divorced the wife Immediately that he found out about her affair.

[EmyyWolf]

NOPE!!

This is exactly what I would do to him. If he does this to me

[BCA6010]

They both get to be mocked for their stupidity.

[e232bm]

I would think so. People that cheat usually don’t also want to be cheated on they are just selfish

[Light_beam]

so she thinks that she can sleep with other people but her husband can't?

[SnowedIn]

Get to? Yes. Her choice.
Is it right? Eh.
Who cares?

[Nikki1989]

Cheating is cheating. In both situations, the victim should be angry.

[Light_beam]

so again , she gets to sleep with another guy but he can't?

[magiusX26]

duh! yes. it was still cheating. he should have dumped her and then moved on instead of cheating.

[Light_beam]

so she thinks that she can sleep with other people but her husband can't?

[magiusX26]

incorrect. cheating is wrong period. she is wrong for cheating and so are you (assuming you are the he reffered to) . seems you are thinking it is a kind of cause abd effect thing where it actually is not that. it is instead a case of both have every right to be upset/angry at the other for cheating regardless of who cheated first.

[LiamJHayden]

Yes. Just because he was enough of a sucker to stay with her after she cheated does not mean she will be gracious if he does the same.

[hbg84]

Absolutley not. That would be a huge double standard

[Anonymous]

Yeah. Revenge cheating is still cheating. If he couldn't forgive her, he shouldn't have stayed with her.

[shades777]

I don't see why either of them would care, better to break up

[Anonymous]

No, if any girl does do that, then it makes them a hypocrite.

[strateguy632]

obviously yes they do.

[tfan1]

Two wrongs don’t make a right

[DextroShade]

Absolutely NOT!

[In_Trance]

sure

[SpaceGalaxy]

She can