I’m having a hard time trusting my boyfriend and I keep pushing him away. Should I just allow myself to trust him completely?

[Hello4242]

Or would that be dumb? Part of me wants to let my guard down but I’m afraid to do that. He hasn’t given me any reason not to trust him. I think I’m just messed up from my last relationship.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

If you can’t trust him why is he your boyfriend?


What makes him different from the rest of the men you don’t trust?


What if you trust him but find it hard to accept that you do? Think about the reasons your problems come from and then try to deal with them slowly.

[Nerdvana]

Unless you are willing to get therapy, I don't think you are ready for a relationship. And it's definitely not fair to your boyfriend. Trust and respect is the foundation for long, healthy and loving relationship. It's very hard to love someone who has respect and trust issues.

[Hello4242]

This narrative that one must be healed before entering a relationship is not always true. It’s definitely possible to heal within a relationship. There has to be great communication, lots of reassurance, grace and understanding.

[Nerdvana]

Yes, you are right it is possible. But then again, anything is possible. But it is evident, by your own words, you are dealing with unresolved trust issues. The guy you are dating, at times, is going to feel like he did something wrong or you not trusting him, is his fault.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

You're not healed from your last relationship.

You're going to end up causing this man nothing but stress and pain he doesn't deserve.

Either you fix yourself quick or end this relationship before it goes seriously wrong for both of you because of your insecurities.

[Shamalien]

Can you even trust yourself completely? Sometimes we must take risks. If he is so untrustworthy that you cannot take the risk, and it stays that way for months, break it off

[bowenw]

Take it slow and allow the trust to build over time.