I think my boyfriend is too trusting with me. how can I let him know without saying directly, that he should not fully trust me?

[Anonymous]

[FTnWo]

I was like that with my woman and she showed me by not erasing her messages to "Crystal" that said "last night was so good" and "when can we do it again?"followed by " I told my husband that I need a few days to get sober at my aunts, hint hint" and then her friend showed me her Facebook account that she said she was locked out of and couldn't unblock me and so I was able to get into it and found her secret messages to a different guy saying " I can't stand being here with him (me) anymore" and "I want to boof your cock" and a bunch of other dirty shit... oh and I almost forgot to mention the strange guy that came to my door with 3 other guys and says "so you wanna talk shit about me?" And I say I don't even know who the fuck you are bro, he then says "so you like to beat on women huh" I say I've never hit a woman in my life and then they pull a gun out and he says shoot this motherfucker to his buddy as I jumped over the rail of the porch and walk away as they enter my house and my my woman that I trusted 100% that she would never cheat on me leaves with these gangbanging scumbags.
That was how she showed me that I shouldn't have ever trusted her... yeah I hate that fucking cunt for that.

[Asker]

Damn that was deeeep. So before she did all the sketchy shit you literally believed her every word?

[JacobRogers]

Send him a message like you're telling one of your friends a secret between you two and tell him you accidentally sent it to him. That will keep him on his toes

[Asker]

The BEST answer here. THANK YOU

[JacobRogers]

Also, some guys just aren't jealous and could just care less. More of a lover, not a fighter.

[Asker]

My boyfriend definitely comes off that way

[DaveJord]

I'd tell him that you want a causal relationship. Leave it at that. Of course he's going to want know why, and obviously because you want other guys. So just be honest, he either flips out or is cool about. Either you should not lie, or stress over it.

[Asker]

It’s not even that. It’s just that I wish he had somewhat of a guard up. He has none. It’s almost reckless with how trusting he is with me and really anyone in his life.

[DaveJord]

Yeah, I don't play games... so I am pretty open cause I got nothing to hide and don't care how people want to judge me. So it bites me on the ass all the time on relationships.

I don't hold back, my partner does and sows mistrust and eventually relationships ending anxiety.

Let me ask you this, why should he have to be less open? Is it only because you think he should?

[Asker]

Honestly, with how sensitive he is I know he would get VERY hurt by him trusting too easily biting him in the ass. And I don’t want to see him when he’s really hurt, again, because of how sensitive he is. I know it would be BAD.

[DaveJord]

Well it I am that type of guy. So I would tell you to be honest and accepting of him. Open up with him in stead trying to change him, embrace him for who he is.

For me its mistrust of not being honest that hurts, not actual facts... its only wrong if you got to hide something.

[RichSD]

Tell him, "I'm a horrible person." Because it sounds like you are.

[Asker]

No, he is just too trusting. And he doesn’t even realize it.

[Asker]

Not even in the relationship but in life. Poor guy.

[RichSD]

Then prove his trust worthwhile for a change. By you know, being trustworthy. There's nothing wrong with being trusting if you pick the right people. So did he pick well in your case or not?

[Asker]

Of course, I just wish he had some type of guard up. He’s recklessly trusting with me and anyone in his life. And he’s overly sensitive in terms of his feelings are hurt easily. I pity him most times.

[Asker]

I could legitimately be like “I’m going on a date” and he would be like “awesome have fun be safe” lol I kid you not.

[RichSD]

He sounds normal, you sound paranoid. Maybe you've been mistreated and hurt a lot in your life, but a person shouldn't be as paranoid as you seem to think.

[Asker]

So it’s normal for my boyfriend to be cool with me going on a date and not asking any further questions? Lol

[RichSD]

It is if he trusts you. If you can't believe in trust, that sounds like a you thing.

[Asker]

My mind is truly blown. Lol. One time I tested him, I work an office 9-5 job, I texted him at 8 at night saying I got called in the office, and he was like “damn that really sucks!” Lmao like I can’t make this shit up he’s so oblivious and naive its sooo reckless.

[RichSD]

Trusting someone is not a sign of weakness. If I had a girlfriend who questioned everything I did, I'd probably dump her eventually. Keep in mind you may be heading that direction with him and others in the future if you don't learn to be a little less negative.

[Asker]

No trust me I don’t have these conversations with him at all. Neither do I question him about everything. But I’d definitely question him if he’s going to work at 8 pm lol, from a logical standpoint it doesn’t make sense or add up. That’s why I’m so confused with him and how easily/recklessly he trusts and believes. It’s like, st what point is he going to look at things logically and realize it doesn’t add up lol.

[RichSD]

The problem isn't the logic, it's YOUR logic. You have become WAY too jaded especially for someone so young. You shouldn't even DATE someone you can't trust. By your logic, he should dump you right now.

[Asker]

It’s not even that. It’s the fact that he will literally believe ANY story I tell him, even if it doesn’t make sense. I’ll be like, “babe I’m 3 hours late getting home because I got stuck waiting for a chicken to cross the road” and he’ll be like “wow that’s funny! I wish I was there to see it” lmfao like it’s almost unreal.

[Asker]

Meanwhile, we live in a religion where there are no chickens roaming lmao

[RichSD]

The thing is, when it comes to someone you trust, you SHOULD be able to believe them even if it's a strange story. Have you never actually been with someone you could trust before?

[Asker]

Nah I’ve definitely trusted plenty of times but I am also not gullible, oblivious or naive. Lol. Honestly I’m kinda tempted to not communicate with him for ONE whole day and just come back the next day likes shits cool and then tell him that I went out of space and just came back lmfao he’ll be like “oh damn, because I was getting really worried” or some goofy shit like that lol

[RichSD]

Then why do you even want to date him if you don't want to get to the point you can trust each other? There's no way a relationship can work without trust. I guarantee it

[Anonymous]

If you feel that this guy shouldn’t trust you than why are you with him when you are with someone shouldn’t you have 100% trust in the person you are with

[Asker]

But he is way too trusting. I can’t tell him “I’m going on a date” and he would be like, “awesome, hope you have fun!” And that’s it 😂

[Wise4myage]

I leave that alone if I were you.

[Asker]

Why? Lol

[Wise4myage]

Do you really want to open that can of worms?

[Asker]

Just to the extent of him having some type of boundaries yes

[Jamie05rhs]

Why shouldn't he trust you? What's wrong with you?

[lycanthrope3]

Why should you not be trusted

[Asker]

I guess I worded the question wrong he shouldn’t really trust anyone as easily as he does

[lycanthrope3]

Then honor him

[Asker]

I do, but like. Why does he believe literally anything?

[lycanthrope3]

Would you feel better if he did not trust you

[Asker]

Nah, I’d feel better if he had boundaries at least lol

[lycanthrope3]

You are not a child anymore,

[Asker]

So only children have boundaries? Lmaoo

[lycanthrope3]

Children have to be given them, you should now yours