Why is it the guys I don’t like ask me to go out and the guys I would go out with don’t ask me so what do I do?

[laurlaur101]

This has been frustrating for me for a while the guys I don’t like or interested in ask me out and the ones I would go with don’t even think to ask so I don't know what they’re thinking or why they’re doing that it. I just feel that I won’t ever meet someone that can reciprocate the same feelings back to me I just want it to be equal and it seems like it never is I’m tired of this cycle so please help!!!

[jennifer_bloom]

I used to go to a church where I was not accepted or acknowledged for a few months and its not because I was misbehaving, its because I was new and nobody knew me. After a few months people began to open up to me and one popular girl that I wanted to be friends with began to talk to me. But shortly after we became conversational with each other, I realized I did not like her and did not think she was intelligent enough to have deep conversations with.

When somebody does not yield to your request for attention, there is an aura of mystery and you imagine positive traits about the person they may not have or may have but only sporadically, and you may not witness their bad or neutral traits that modify how desirable their good traits are. When I chased down somebody that was avoidant, whether as a family friend or as a date, they were never as interesting once I got their attention as they were when I did not know their weaker qualities and thought they were exclusively high value.

[kylee2437]

It’s typical and it’s because there’s tons of women that would rather throw away their dignities to fuck boys instead of giving the men that actually want something with us a chance.

[DextroShade]

Your standards are too high for what you are offering. Are you fit, feminine, friendly, cooperative, submissive, and childless? Get your fitness up and remove any danger hair or piercings other than earrings. If you are fat, covered in tats, or a baby momma the men you want aren't going to want you and you will have to settle.

[Billlewis]

I've often had the same problem -- the women who are interested in me don't do anything for me, and the ones who I'm attracted to won't give me the time of day.

[laurlaur101]

Yep that sucks so bad

[Truthatanycost]

Often this happens when women over estimate their physical attractiveness in relation to their 'league'.

[laurlaur101]

Wym?

[Truthatanycost]

There are many women that would rate themselves an 8-9/10 but the majority of guys see them as a 5/10. Thus when they seek a partner they are seeking men that see themselves above them, so those men often go for women they consider to be on their level.

In a similar sense, a lot of women under estimate the attractiveness of men so think the ones they 'don't like' aren't on their level, when often they are on the same, or above. Sometimes this can happen when society is never honest about the perceived attractiveness of women, or when mass levels of simps on social media are inflating their egos.

[Likes2drive]

Same thing for us guys, can’t seem to find one we like that likes us but ones that like us we don’t like, I guess you have to keep trying the numbers until you finally get a hit. Just seems to be like that for all of us

[laurlaur101]

I know everyone goes through that it’s not fair I like athletic type of people muscular type I guess is my type

[laurlaur101]

I like car guys too

[DextroShade]

Are you athletic yourself?

[Likes2drive]

I’m definitely into cars and somewhat muscular not exactly athletic but I’m not in bad shape, I do a lot of bicycling on the weekends or walking

[Likes2drive]

@DextroShade I think you were asking if she is right?

[DextroShade]

Correct

[laurlaur101]

Feels like gambling win some or lose but I feel like I always lose never hit once meaning getting the guy and having the same reciprocated feelings

[Likes2drive]

It takes time finding the right one, took me years before I got married, but now I’m divorced and still looking for someone for almost 8 years now

[SnowedIn]

How do you know you don't like the guys who ask you out?

[laurlaur101]

Bc I don’t I’m just not feeling it I don't know why

[SadyConfused1998]

Ask the ones out you like, why wait for them

[SadyConfused1998]

See this is not 1800s anymore, its the 2000s. Girls can ask guys out now

[DamianJ97]

I say try to ask them out. Not whole the time but you never know.

[laurlaur101]

I don't know I feel like I’m chasing them

[Anonymous]

You overestimate your market value. You'll eventually adjust it to fit reality or you won't date and you'll just eventually become bitter.

[laurlaur101]

What do you mean?

[Opinion Owner]

Don't worry this will eventually resolve itself. Or you'll just remain single. 👍

[Twalli]

Maybe they don't find you attractive

[Adogdog]

Hahaha, What kind of guys do you like?

[strateguy632]

go ask those

[Anonymous]

Lordy

[connectingisgreat]

Stop being so picky.