Why do you think men in today's times are not approaching women, is it due to women win big in divorces?

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Men probably know if women want a divorce, she gets the house, and kids, plus he has to pay spouse support. Men have more to lose in divorce, so therefore they don't even want to start talking to a woman because he knows if what he would get himself into if he gets involved with her.

hahahmm · Accepted Answer

That would only apply to guys who think every woman they meet is even worth marrying but sure, it is part of what's going on.

1. Women have too much power now. She can accuse him of rape or attempted rape with zero evidence and the legal system will believe her unless he has video evidence and 3 witnesses, a great lawyer and media coverage... he can kiss 8 years of his life goodbye plus be on the sex registry for life. Smart guys don't want to bet their lives on random women.

There's a video on YouTube of a guy who is moving furniture on some random neighborhood street. A woman is walking down the street & making a video. He says, 'hello' in a non-threatening, non flirty/leering way. She flipped out and completely lost it. Accused him of sexually harassing her. This is what men are seeing today.

When I was younger this wasn't how things worked at all. I mean, both men and women understood if you go to a guy's home alone after flirting it wasn't to read the newspaper. Now a guy could get 100% "go ahead" signals from a woman and she could even verbally agree. And even physically go along with everything. But if she changes her mind a year later or 5 years later you're still going to prison.

2. Some guys are actually into finding serious relationships. Today's average woman doesn't have anything to offer in a serious relationship. Sex? he can get that anywhere, really. It's not special/valuable like that. Her having a career/money? Real guys don't pick women for that! The stuff that is valuable is what she doesn't think is important enough to have/build: loyalty, respect (for him & herself), trustworthiness. And worse, these women today try to make a virtue out of being lazy and unattractive to normal men (fat, weird hair colors, extra body hair or have muscles like a dude).

3. Typical woman today feels entitled to treat men like they're nothing, make demands but have nothing of value to offer men. If women were cars, they used to be mint condition, even if they had 1 previous driver. Now they're like broke & busted 30+ year old cars with 150 previous drivers that can barely run right. Some have mint condition exteriors but the interior and engine is definitely shot and worthless. Who is going to sign up for that? You'd have to pay me a lot of money. Millions of dollars.

Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

Social media is definitely part of the reason with the nonsense that’s fed in our brains about how most women can’t stay faithful , most women always have another guy lined up ect… and statistics proving that 75 percent of divorces are initiated by females , So most men aren’t going to put themselves in that situation. Why be in a committed relationship with someone that is more than likely going to back stab you or betray you? From my experiences with girls, most girls in general are selfish people, that only really
Care about themselves, I am not saying all females are this way, but sadly a lot of them are , and the same goes for a lot of guys as well. I believe social media definitely played a big part in the reason why most relationships hit crossroads and end up turning to shit , Most people including myself our glued to our phones without really realizing we are , When I am bored or just relaxing I automatically reach for my phone , I do try to limit myself but it just comes natural to me it helps kill time I try to think back when we didn’t carry around these devices and would think what in the hell did I do when o was waiting for something like a Dr Appointment , Dentist appt. etc.. come to think of it I was bored as shit lol So times are definitely different now compared to how it was back then , Most people aren’t content anymore , they feel grass is greener on the other side , instead of fixing what is broken in a relationship, people tend to latch on to someone else thinking they will save them because most people can’t admit to themselves that they are wrong , it’s always someone else’s fault. Me personally doesn’t jump into a committed relationship fast with a girl anymore , I made that mistake plenty of times until I realized most people are just infatuated with each other when we meet someone new and exciting , but once that infatuated period fades away usually the relationship does as well. So I no longer rush into committed relationships because most people today are selfish people that only really care about themselves , it usually takes time to see someone’s true colors , most people do not look at the big picture before entering into a committed relationship and that’s why so many relationships fail

Smiling_Baby21 · Accepted Answer

There is one thing I know about predicting and consequently preparing for the end before anything starts, It will end...
If you walk to a woman and your mindset is one navigating the end, then you're entering into a relationship or even marriage with one leg and the other outside. Any time you feel the heat, you're ready to run. And that's why most of the marriages end as fast as they started. People want the easy things, effort or patience is hard work.
So men are not approaching women because of the favour of a woman in divorce, they are scared of the end they have surrounded themselves with... In form of a negative mindset.
Marriage and relationships are not for those who want the easy way out, but for those who are ready for the bumps, for the experience past the wedding

FictionalCharacter · Accepted Answer

Guys are just picky nowadays. It’s not necessarily the money issue or girls cheating. (Even though guys cheat more, but will never admit to it.) Guys just want casual sex and don’t want to be tied down. Because of their jobs, traveling, buddies and their exes children.

Guys settle down early in their teens and early twenties. Then get a divorce in their 30s/40s looking for sex.

I mean yeah, teenage guys want sex too. But they jump in a relationship blindly just for sex. That over the years they don’t like the responsibility of the relationship. Which leads to divorce and hookup for the next girl.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

1. A man can date a woman without getting married.

2. A man can insist on a prenuptial agreement before marriage.

3. Everything you know about divorce seems to have been gleaned from the internet or from listening to butthurt boys explaining why they got screwed in a divorce. Divorce laws are not as draconian as the picture you paint, but your friend didn't want to tell you that he didn't get custody because of his drinking problem, so he either blamed the judge or the law. . . and you believed it.

4. In Florida - my state - she gets the house only if there are minor children and only until the youngest reaches age 18. Then the house is sold and the net proceeds are divided between the two of them.

5. In Florida, it is also extremely common for parents to get a straight 50/50 split of time with the kids - but ONLY if the father wants that much time. Unfortunately, many of them don't really want time, even though they later complain about it.

6. In Florida, alimony is awarded ONLY in long term marriages in which one partner clearly makes more than the other and in cases where one of them left the job market to stay at home and raise the children.

7. Your generation doesn't approach women because all you know how to do is to send texts and many of your contemporaries are socially inept. Most of your generation don't know how to engage the opposite sex in a flirtatious conversation.

inhua · Answer

you can throw in the MeToo movement and paternity fraud in their too amongst many other things

expect to be gaslighted and shamed as a coward yet these same hypocrites will automatically side with a bad woman for falsely accusing you of rape and praise her for cheating on you and defending her for domestic violence towards you

these same hypocrites will say "there are good women out there" or "just find a good woman" which while true and sensible completely misses the point of the wider issues that society presents when they incentivize women's bad behaviors.

women don't have this issue that feminists claim they have. men's bad behaviors are not incentivized, actually it's shamed and ridiculed even when it's not a bad behavior. wanting a virgin woman apparently is something to be shamed about but everyone stays silent on short women wanting tall men only.

since school, boys are taught to respect women/girls and not to rape but what are girls in school or homes taught about respecting men/boys? the answer is simple. nothing. absolutely nothing.

Anonymous · Answer

This is impossible to say without making women mad because they take the answer too personal. The answer is simple.

"There just isn't anything in it for a man anymore".

The status quo has changed and has been changing for decades but no one gave men the memo so many have learned the hard way through costly divorces and broken families. Most women today simply do not relationships with men. If they do it's entirely on thier terms (and this is not written in any kind of bitterness it's just a fact). Women do not need men to support them anymore. There has been a great social shift. Women can pursue whatever they want when they want even if it's not the best thing for her. Most women today choose friends with benefits's it allows her the connection she craves from time to time with any real commitment. Likewise men can now just be that "boots call". Up to this point in history it's always been a man's role to serve women so to speak. But women do not want nor require that anymore as such men have Bern forced to design new roles for themselves separate of women.

I do think this is still bad overall for both genders I do think deepdown women still want to be with men and women with women. But it only works when both work as partners. Most people today simply want everything on thier terms. So with the gender war in full swing I think this is only going to get worse before it gets better.

Yannishka · Answer

Bad news sells easier. It always has. I usually see bad things in the news. This is also the case with everything bad in dating. I've seen way more videos of women being horrible to date than of good women.
Just look up "Modern Women". The good ones go with the times too, but see that term and you'll find just the red flag ones. Watch a couple and you probably wouldn't want to date anymore, scared shitless to only find that kind of person out there, while there are so many good ones too, but media prefers showing the bad. The bad sells easier. Drama sells.

FunkyMonkee · Answer

1. Women accuse men of ALL SORTS of shit they never did or intended!!
2. Nearly every woman is spoken for so, there's no point in even trying!
3. Women ONLY want complete assholes!!
4. Some guys still figure that, if she's drop dead gorgeous, she MUST already have at LEAST ONE boyfriend and wouldn't even look twice at you so, no point in bothering!
5. Guys can't take rejection very well so, they don't want to risk getting shot down in front of their friends or even total strangers!
6. Once bitten, twice shy.
7, Girls think that if he so much as TRIES, ALL he wants is her pussy!! Once she gets that idea in her head, they could end up being the best of friends for a couple decades and she STILL won't give him a chance because she thinks he just wants her pussy!!
8. Some girls are known golddiggers!!

Shamalien · Answer

We are taught from a young age that we are evil little would be rapists who should never pressure a woman in any way. As a practically minded boy I thought it best to just avoid them. I’ve had women come onto me, then accuse me of rape when I rejected their advances because they were fking butthurt they didn’t get any.

But not all women are like that. I still have hope. They are all kind of unstable though so do not put them on a pedestal, the man leads. If she tries to lead, let her lead her way straight to singlesville lol

Adaeva · Answer

Women in their teens to mid-twenties, have oodles of choices. Typically all they need to do is smile to be approached. In that case they can be approached hundreds of time. However, not very often by guys they wish would approach.

Anonymous · Answer

Marriage has historically been the "carrot" that motivated men to seriously date women, but marriage is no longer the prize it used to be for men. Divorce benefits most women and harms most men, and today's women have little to no sense of commitment. Men know all of this. That's your answer.

MzAsh · Answer

Men only have more to lose IF they actually have more to their name. These 23 year olds, living in an apt with roommates, car in momma name, and no credit don’t count.

Billlewis · Answer

No, I think it's more a case of many guys knowing that the vast majority of women are out of their reach.

ProbablyClueless · Answer

I always thought it just boiled to women just not being worth the effort and headache they create for men.

Anonymous · Answer

You make it sound like every man has a house, and money, lol.

BarryLiverstone · Answer

A lot has to do with guys not used to being in social circles and spending more time at home and playing games on their own.

Anonymous · Answer

Did you really have a question, or did you just come here to complain?

DextroShade · Answer

In some really fucked up countries like the UK they have criminalized approaching women.

LiamJHayden · Answer

Just approach without ever thinking that marriage is an option.

barn_stormer · Answer

probably divorce rape, cheating, high body count, feminism, etc

BLP11520 · Answer

Possibly my state is 50:50 divorces split up all assets

Sour-rose · Answer

Yes... and bitches be bitches. :D

shades777 · Answer

i approach when im good n ready

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