Can a guy of 20-21 date a girl of 16-17?

[Anonymous]

[Anonymous]

I suppose he could. But why would he want to? I don't think 17 is as bad as 16. I think there are a lot of factors to take into consideration. When I was 21 I had a 17 yr. Old girl ask me out. At the time I thought our age gap was too big. I thought to myself at the time "if I was her parents I wouldn't allow her to date me". But now if I had it to do over again I would have dated her. I think the assumption is a 21 yr. Old guy is going to take advantage of a 17 yr. Old girl and that the 17 yr. Old girl is only attracted to the fact he's college age. And both MAY be true. But it's equally likely neither is true.

Bottom line: this is not clear cut easy question to answer because it has many factors.

[AaronKrieger]

I really don't think it should happen even if you live somewhere like Finland where the age of consent is 16. There is just a huge maturity difference and gap in experience. The power dynamic between the two wouldn't likely be balanced.

[jennifer_bloom]

I'm not sure what the laws are in your state in country. I think in most countries, you are allowed to date somebody under 18 if you are close to their age by 1-3 years. So an 18 year old can date a 17 year old or a 16 year old. And a 19 year old can date a 17 year old.

[Anonymous]

17 & 20 is totally fine. 16 & 20 is a bit much but its okayish i guess

17 & 21 is a bit much but its still sort of okay i guess, 16 & 21 is weird and yea dont go there. if your above 20 you dont want to be dating anyone who isn't at least 18 or almost that

[Opinion Owner]

all this is assuming you have romeo juliet laws or that your country/state has 16 as the age of consent. if its 18 and you'd get charged for it then nope, stay away

[Levin]

Well, is it legal where you live?

And is it worth the social approval?

If so, go for it. You're working with the 'morality' *coughs* of the great mass.

[Asker]

I ain't talking bout me bro but in general

[Berethor]

Yea but it's not legal in some places, what is the age of consent where the guy and girl live?

[ProbablyClueless]

He could, in theory. It's a terrible idea, but he does have the ability to do it.

[exitseven]

Yes, but you really should not plan on having sex with her.

[clampfan101]

4 years isn’t a big difference, but I think maybe they should stay friends until she’s 18.

[Asker]

Yup great idea!

[DaBiggestBird]

Yes if you pull off a 2014 Transformers and get one of those Romeo and Juliet law cards

[mommymommymommy]

He can, barely. So, you have to question why youd want to, and if their parents would even allow it

[jjj101010]

Depends on the country, perfectly legal here

[gothbxtch]

no, that is pedophilia

[gothbxtch]

until she’s 18, and then he could

[Asker]

Great opinion!

[Nikki1989]

That is so creepy.

[JayBfencepost]

Don't do it. Danger Danger!

[Asker]

I ain't talking bout me bro but in general!

[FunkyMonkee]

Yeah, if she's legal.

[RyanK9b]

Sure, we date always down amd girls up

[Apple1996]

Bad idea

[Asker]

Ikr just wanted some opinions about it?

[Apple1996]

Yeah its just two different maturity levels. Women don't actually mature fast like so many people like to think

[Drewtate]

Yes he can

[In_Trance]

sure