How to know if my date wants to just hook up and not something serious?

[Anonymous]

I’ve a date tomorrow but I’m really nervous as I’m afraid he’s going to just play me and use me and yes I know I can say no to s€x.
But I don’t want to be saying no and hurt as I was made believe my him that he wasn’t like that as in he told me wanted soemthing serious
But I just feel texting him he’s so emotionally distant and when he suggested something to do for our first date it’s near where he lives so I have to travel more to him it just seems he’s making me put all the effort in if you get me.
Like I said he was romantic for suggesting the walk and pizza by the lake and he was like being sarcastic oh yeah I’m very romantic..
I just hope he’s not a jerk but he’s giving the vibes over text..

What do yous think?

[MementoMori777]

if he y'all have sex on the first date then thats all he was seeking because a man thats serious never goes on a first date expecting sex, thats a dead giveaway on its own

[Asker]

I’ve been on dates tho with my exs who I had sex straight away tho..

[MementoMori777]

thats clearly not the healthy way to do it, they are exes now for a reason im sure, you are way too easy no lie

[MementoMori777]

being easy means you are easy to play and manipulate

[Asker]

Maybe I am I need to just be like no and that’s it

[MementoMori777]

well of course, you grew your body count to be single again the more dates you go on that end in sex, the more bodies you count and the less dating material you become, its self sabotaging, no one wants to cuff the easy girl, these guys can use you for sex and then realize you are too easy to go out with because you had sex with them and get turned off by the whole idea after they bust their nut and throw you away, the way guys see easy girls, they see them as a higher chance of cheating, even if it may not be true, if you really end ever date with sex you are just sabotaging yourself at that point and possibly even being used in the process.

[Asker]

I understand but I want to meet this guy to see how I feel but I’m not gunna sleep with him is that okay?

[MementoMori777]

well dont stop having a dating life, you chase love anon but dont be easy is what you should focus on and its what im trying say here, you can say no and its totally fine to say no to sexual intercourse when you are dating, dating is to read someone out for a further and deeper connection, its not for hookups so if thats all he wants then its perfectly fine to say no, good luck on youd date anon 💯

[MementoMori777]

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[RavVid]

Well if you don't just hook up, then say you don't and wait till you have confidence it is a relationship you like.

If you do just hook up then it is just another hook up.

[KrakenAttackin]

If you chase fuck boys you get fuck boy results.

[Asker]

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