I've only kissed one guy so I need help. What makes a kiss good?

[kareenakapur]

I've only kissed my ex. I'm a grown woman. I should know how to kiss but I've only kissed him so I prob am a bad kisser. How do I even use tongue I would just pop it in and out and my ex loved that but I dont think that's right lol.

We dated for 7 years since I was 17.

[zeitgeist057]

oh damn the worst kiss I ever had was exactly what you just described "popping the tongue in and out". I'm about 95% certain I was this girl's first kiss because it was so bad.

Anyway, to your question. Hmmmm. What makes a kiss good is that your partner (and you) enjoy it. So far, you've been a good kisser it sounds like. But there are definitely people who won't enjoy that technique.

I will try to describe a kiss in detail as I experience it. I start with touching my lips to hers, with a exploratory sort of grabbing of her lower lip with my lips and pulling it to my teeth where I give it a soft and tender bite, just enough to feel how firm her lip is and get some resistance, but not enough to hurt.

(you can bite your own lip experimentally to see how much pressure I am talking about)

I may also run my tongue across her lip at this time while it is quasi-trapped in my teeth. The specificity is not important here, what is important is the exploratory and sensual nature of these movements. You could nibble or lick, go ahead and let your tongue enter his mouth but not quickly and forcefully, make it slow and cautious. Discover his tongue with your own, and let them rub gently along each other. Feel the pleasure of the sensation, realize that he is also feeling a similar sensation with his own tongue. He might like if you (again, not too quickly or forcefully, but cautiously at least at first) suck his tongue into your own mouth using a bit of vacuum force and fondle it there with your own tongue as it's trapped.

This is also a good technique to use on a finger or thumb, to emulate and bring to his mind you performing fellatio on him.

Wikihow's Art of Kissing

I've never tried describing kissing technique before, I hope it was helpful. Good luck!

[slatyb]

I can't answer that, but I can tell you what makes a kiss bad: thinking about it. I was lucky to be taught by a slightly older woman when I was 17 or 18 (she was 19 or 20). When you are with a man you would like to kiss, you can kiss him yourself, or you can show him that you are ready by getting close to him face to face so he just has to tilt his head to kiss you. then just relax and go with it. You'll quickly figure out the rest. If the first time is a bit awkward, so what? If he likes you it won't be a problem.

After my wife had just had a couple of dates I was sure she wanted to kiss me but somehow it didn't happen. She had been through some trauma and she was pretty anxious and I think she panicked. The next time I saw her, it did happen. For over an hour.

[DizzyDesii]

If your goal is not to go around kissing a bunch of people then you have nothing to worry about. I kissed very few passionately and with tongue. Its my favorite thing to do but takes a certain person to want to do it with. Anyone else can get a peck or a kiss on the cheek. Not everyone has earned a kiss. I’d say kiss at least one more person and if they don’t like how you kiss, they can always teach you how to do it better. With my first boyfriend, I only believed in pecks but he taught me how to tongue kiss. I’ve since stuck to that same technique with others. But so far, I have not liked how others kissed in comparison to him. One was trying to eat my face,, another kissed like a snake slithers his tongue in/out, another had dry lips and a pokey mustache. I could go on but yea, just no. All you or they can do is end it if y'all don’t like it or teach each other to kiss better

[princesssnowflake]

I think it's something you gotta feel in the moment. When being with your guy, allow yourselves to play and find what you enjoy. The most important thing I'd say is listening to body cues. It's not what they're telling you but how they're responding. A general place to start is taking it slow, and less is more. Your tongue doesn't need to be all over the place, and you don't have to suction his mouth. Slowly build it up to be as intense as you'd like, but start soft because this allows the kiss to evolve. Also, pleasure points such as the neck, the ears, etc. They might not all be winners, but you figure out what works for y'all.

[Pinay_ako]

A good kiss doesn’t have to involve some serious tongue action. Set the mood. Sit on his lap. Cradle his face. plant a light kiss on his lips! Run your hands through his hair. Kiss him again. Let him taste your candy lips! Take his breath away

[Lliam]

Part your lips lips slightly and keep them soft and relaxed. Keep them relaxed and open your mouth (not wide) when he does. Don't thrust your tongue in and out so much and don't try to stick it down his throat. Just use the tip and sort of gently lick his tongue and lips. Tongues sliding against each other feels really nice.
You can close your lips around the tip of his tongue on occasion and he can close his around yours.
Keep it sensual. You don't have to try to eat his face unless the passion and urgency increases. Don't be too aggressive. Follow his lead.

[Apple1996]

I don't think anything can actually make someone a good kisser since it's more about the vibe between two people. You could kiss one person and have good chemistry and the kiss is amazing but then kiss another person and the chemistry is totally off and it doesn't work that great. So it is really more about finding a good partner to kiss then being good at it.

(Also love this question! Its making me think of all the people I've kissed in the past. Too many memories coming back right now)

[twotofive]

I like teaching each other of we like each other. For a guy we judge on blowjob skills and how naughty you are. I remember one girlfriend she asked me what turns me on at the time I was into deepthroating and Cumming in girls mouth. I'd spend 2 hours laying there instructing her to take me full

[Apple1996]

@twotofive I'm not sure blowjob skills are a thing either tho. Still depends on the vibe between each other. I'd rather just read a man's body language then be instructed like that

[twotofive]

Do you enjoy sph

[Apple1996]

@twotofive you gonna get in trouble with these cock pics

[twotofive]

Is it small

[twotofive]

You was correct about trouble a few girls inboxes me with laughing faces and can't wait show there work colleagues

[TheorionMage]

Consider where kissing originates...
Once upon a time, as in Nature there was NO 'baby food' and providing sustenance to YOUR spouse or young necessitated passing food ORALLY. Your lips (BOTH pairs) are extremely tactilily sensitive... a kiss can be tentative & gentle or demanding & passion-filled. You either PROVIDE or hungrily RECEIVE the sustaining 'affections'. Relatives degrade this back to a societal shade of its intimate origin by kissing a cheek or demurely a peck on the lips or forehead... bystanders would be scandalized if an adult passionately tongue-kissed a minor especially if NOT their own, these days~

[CaptainOverthink]

Hahaha omg.. I always wondered wherw it came from, but that makes sense!
And I used to think it was funny compairing us to birds when they puke into their babies mouths.. but I guess I wasn't far off!
Hahaha

[TheorionMage]

@CaptainOverthink Before infants grow teeth, humans used to pre-chew their infant's sustanants. LITERALLY, "I would take food that I had caught and INSTEAD give it to YOU to prolong YOUR existance over my own! YOU are THAT important to ME!" Kissing is simulating your desire to nurture or BE nurtured. (Y)

[CaptainOverthink]

That is incredible! 🤔
It's just funny how it has become as mundane as it has.
This is a delightful piece of information.

[Anemone978]

It honestly doesn't really matter I kissed 2 dudes, one was my husband and the second was some hot guy I hooked up with, they were both virgins and couldn't kiss that well but I taught them what I know lol My husband kisses like shit.. and still does because he doesn't take what I teach him... the other dude said I was really good at how I kissed and kissed me really deep and hard.. it wasn't super good but it was still hot and fun. Just don't fight with the other persons tongue, be sensual and don't do in and out LOL

[ohsheeT]

The moment you touch think sensual think soft think slow motion think passion as you move together every part of you body that starts to become one it's going to you h as one of the above I just said every single body part has a job to do as 1 of the above as you lips touch feel it from your inter core starting to feel each one of those feeling relax your whole body as your lips touch you can feel his breath enter in to you your hands on his back or hips pull him into you become one with his body where ever your body you he's his half way through your kiss release softly and back again for another kiss as your lips touch release slowly dragging your lips from his down his cheek to his neck pulling him even closer

[ZackBan]

One word : tension

A good kiss is a kiss loaded with anticipation. Meaning as you're building up for it you lean in but then tease a little by not going all the way, look at the eyes or even the lips of the other person. Put a hand on his chest or neck or cheek...

Once you go in for it (or he does) then you just do what comes natural but avoid big motions. There is no wrong way to kiss but a great kiss is one that felt throughout the body not just the lips.

Also practice makes perfect. If you have the opportunity to kiss someone in the near future go for it, no time like the present

[madhatters4]

i feel like good kissing is about responding to the partner. make it gentle to somewhat firm depending on the passion of the moment. it shouldn't be dry but it also shouldn't be sloppy wet. tongue should be more of used a massage type tool rather than, like jamming it in someone's mouth.

[WanderingLoveWizard]

Here's a coop trick that's fun and feels good to the other person:

(First of all, focus on one lip, not both), then take his bottom lip and suck into your mouth like a straw, then pull back and snap it. Trust me, he'll love it and think you know what the hell you're doing

[WanderingLoveWizard]

*cool

[WanderingLoveWizard]

But yes, typically the tongue should go in and out quickly.
Personally, I don't use tongue. It's too hard to time just right and I suck at it

[WanderingLoveWizard]

I've kissed too many girls who have kissed too many guys. It's not good

[Andres77]

Don’t kiss like an ex girlfriend who poked her tongue in my mouth like a snake…I think just to check the block to say she used tongue…🙄.

I’m a good kisser. With every other girl I took over and made it good. She couldn’t adjust. I couldn’t steer her. She didn’t follow my lead. She just closed her eyes and hoped for the best but was shit at taking any constructive criticism.

[19magic]

Ha damned if I knew, though if something feels good your end it probably feels good in reverse. One thing that was good was when he kind of sucked my tongue and then kissed me and immediately pulled back, it was as though there was a haze on my mind.

[Anonymous]

It’s about chemistry. It will come naturally if you have good chemistry. If not it will feel weird or even bad to kiss the guy. Also no you shouldn’t just pop your tongue into anyones mouth. You can use tongue but just sticking it in like a lizard is a big no. If you can’t get into a groove and go for it confidently just wait for them to initiate tongue until your comfortable doing so on your own.

[WhitneySnow]

Kissing is amazing. And what you’re doing sounds fine. Also sort of swirl your tongue around his.

[Anonymous]

Not over thinking it. Relaxing. Let your instincts guide you.

Don't over think it. Enjoy it. Have fun.

Don't over think it.

[jshm2]

Probably best you don't start, at your age.

[roy_ricky09]

Ewww... Lol
It comes naturally. Don't try tricks, it makes it worse.

[andreasderjuengere]

I perceive a ''good kiss'' as one where the tongue becomes an exploring finger tip :)

[kappasan]

At the very least:

Do a kiss in a way that it really REALLY shows you want to kiss right then and there.

[Adogdog]

Nice question, but I don't have much experience either lol

[Raaj4you]

You have to kiss more guys then you'll become expert by practice not by theory.

[DizzyDesii]

Not true. You can become experienced without having to go around kissing everyone. You can keep practicing with the same few people

[MackBoy]

You can go and learn that from any universities

[manthan_5545]

I think you should watch YouTube for this. That will guide surely. I guess.

[MementoMori777]

im sure you'll figure it out

[exitseven]

do not overthink this. You will do fine.

[FunkyMonkee]

Either the passion or the sweetness.

[SteveMutphy]

Caring would be a good start.

[Farukhn]

Hyy I guss more you try more you a good kisser

[Christoff92]

Mouth kissing 🥰