ADVICE NEEDED ?

[Anonymous]

So let me start off by saying. This guy and I have known each other since middle school through high school. We lost contact for like 6 years and then we started speaking again. Fast forward we are texting and calling every day. After like a couple months we go on a date. It was sunshine and rainbows. The best date i’d been on. I felt so comfortable and happy and he felt the same. See, we are usually very open with how we feel for one another. Everything was going well. We were still talking everyday texting and calling way after the date. Then all of a sudden I don’t hear anything from him. I’ve called a lot and texted as well and it’s been radio silence. I created his bio for him on Instagram awhile back and he hasn’t changed it. I don’t know what’s going on. I thought everything was going well, there were no signs that it wasn’t. He’s told me that he goes through tough mental days sometimes, so it could be that but I haven’t heard from him in a month. What is happening? What should I do?

[kylee2437]

A guy that I truly liked used to do this, and in the end I think his reasoning of why he chose to go days without responding started to be invalid excuses regardless if they seemed innocent because in the end it was extremely unfair for me to be putting myself through roller coasters are emotional highs when he would text me but then be in emotional lows when he would go days without responding. People have their phones on them 24/7 and if he truly cared for you, he would check in at least once a day to make you feel at peace because he knows that texting is important to you. He knows texting is important to you because he used to text you constantly. You need to move on and free yourself from someone that uses “innocent” excuses to not give you what you are looking for.

[Asker]

So you don’t think he’s telling the truth about his mental struggles?

[kylee2437]

So what I’m implying is at this point it doesn’t matter because meanwhile you are caring too much, he isn’t caring at all

[SnowedIn]

There's only two things you can do.

You can do nothing and eventually he'll resurface and you move on until he does it again. Because he'll do it again. This is clearly his way.

Or, you can end it with him and move on with your life.

But you seem to like him. So, it may be worth waiting and talking to him.

[Asker]

What do you mean it’s his way? Do you think this will become a pattern?

[SnowedIn]

I was responding to where you wrote that he goes through some tough mental days. I'm extrapolating that he goes silent during those times. And yes my gut tells me this will be a pattern.

[boggboss]

He is probably talking too or entertaining other women atm

[Asker]

You think so? I didn’t really get that vibe from him

[boggboss]

So what "vibe" are u getting

[Asker]

That he might not be in the best mental state. I just want to know that he’s okay, but he’s not responding at all, but yeah

[boggboss]

Nothing u can do about that tho unless he decides to respond

[Asker]

do you think he will?

[boggboss]

Probably if he gets bored again

[Asker]

Damn… how long do you think that will be?

[mommymommymommy]

Wait, you created an instagram for him, why?

[Asker]

No, he didn’t have a bio, so I told him what to put & he did. And what I told him to put is still there

[In_Trance]

move on