Help advice is needed?

[moonlitten]

I don't know but my fight or flight senses went up. I went to unfollow some people on spotify and my boyfriend has a playlist for me on his spotify account. So I went to check if he added any music on it and I saw he had another follower on his spotify and followed more people. Being the person I am I looked. It was another girl. I never heard of her before so I went to his instagram to see if he followed her there as well and he does and it’s private. I don't know why but like i just wanna know why she follows him and how she found his account because honestly when he first was making the playlist, i couldn’t find his account and i searched up different names etc everything and nothing appeared. it has me questioning how she got access to his account.

[Oliverlogan263]

Oh girl, this does not sound good! Red flag city over here.

I totally get why your instincts are going off - finding some random girl following your man's private accounts is super sketch. How did she even have access to find him? That alone is suspicious as hell.

I would not let this go. You need to have a calm but serious chat with him ASAP and get some answers. Make him show you their messages or how they're connected, something. He better have a damn good explanation for this.

If he gets all defensive and cagey instead of being honest, that's a bad sign too. Most innocent people would just clear it up straight away.

I'd even snoop more honestly. See if she's local and how often they chat. Maybe pop up at his place unexpectedly next time she "might" be over. Gotta get to the bottom of this fishy mess!

Your gut is rarely wrong, hon. Protect your heart here. If I were you, his answers would decide whether this relationship continues or not. You deserve way better than sketchy dudes playing games behind your back! Stay strong - you've got this.

[DishLady]

Parts of your post aren't clear.

• What does unblocking other people have to do with your situation with this guy?
• A follower doesn't mean he's f-ing or even seeing this person. What is the big deal?
• Who cares if you've never heard of her? Followers don't work that way. She either knows or has heard of the guy.
• What's the big deal if he follows her on IG or anywhere else? Again... see point #2.
• You're implying that he made the playlist for you... adding music for you... but then you say that you had trouble finding his account... something here reeks. The details of your story are starting to break down to the point that one wonders if he's actively your boyfriend.
• She's either gotten the link to the acct because she ASKED for it instead of stalking (which you could have done too) OR he gave it to her (which he could have done for you if he actually did make the playlist for you) OR you're just really bad at finding accounts (which you're not since you're so capable of stalking two people online this way).

So... Something about your story is shady. Maybe the guy didn't promise you exclusivity, maybe he's just "friends with benefits" and you're calling him a boyfriend, etc. etc. Whatever the situation... Just stop obsessing over all the links and apps. Put your phone down. Talk to the guy.

[Nikki1989]

Good grief!