Advice needed please help?

[Anonymous]

I have past trauma and struggle with trusting men, even though my current partner hasn’t done anything to hurt me. He is very understanding and does reassure me but I don’t know why Instagram in particular is the big charger for me because my ex-boyfriend you should subscribe to like naked girls on Instagram and that really messed me up because every time I used to go on Instagram I saw something very disturbing that just apart from all the things that he used to do this was one of the things and now instead of us become a really big trigger for me. How can I manage my insecurities with my current partner without harming my relationship? Any advice from other women about having you cop with your office his name after his been destroyed in the past and how do you trust again? I know a lot of us do with me working on myself which I have. The last relationship was very dramatic and abusive. It’s taking me some time to still heal from it.

Thank you for taking the time to read and respond to this

[Abbycado]

"Any advice from other women about having you cop with your office his name after his been destroyed in the past and how do you trust again"

What does this sentence mean? Yes, English is my first language and I haven't a clue what you are saying there.

[Asker]

Oh my god sorry i was using text to speech and there is a typo. I was seeing if there’s any advice from other women about how you cope with your feelings after they have been destroyed in the past I’m so sorry.

[Abbycado]

Okay, that makes a ton more sense.

You have to keep working on it. No one can do that but you. It may just take some time. Remind yourself to be patient with your current boyfriend and that unless he is giving you a reason to not trust him, you need to give him the benefit of doubt.

It isn't easy, but he deserves it considering he has not done anything to make you the way that you are.

[Asker]

Thank you Abby. I will take this into practice thank you for your response

[Abbycado]

You're welcome and best of luck to ya both.

[Anonymous]

You should be patient with him, the key is in good communication. If the relationship is not working well, maybe you actually need another boyfriend.

[Asker]

The relationship is going really well and you are right i think patience is something i can definitely improve on thank you

[Opinion Owner]

You're welcome.

[Opinion Owner]

Thanks for MHO

[AI Opinion]

Fancy seeing you here! 🎉 Trust is like a delicate plant, hard to grow and easy to stomp on! Your past relationship was a hurricane, but you've found a sunny day in your current partner. Communicate with him, keep him in the loop about your Instagram jitters, and maybe even set some boundaries together. Healing takes time, and you're already on the right path by working on yourself. Remember, your partner is not in the same nightmare as your ex. Trust isn't a sprint, it's more like a lazy afternoon stroll. Hang in there and watch that plant bloom! 🌱❤️

[slatyb]

See a professional counselor.

[Asker]

Definitely. Therapy is so expensive.. in Canada at least

[slatyb]

I'm sorry. Some employer funded plans partially cover counseling. I wasn't aware that it wasn't included in Canada's national health services. You might contact local mental health organizations to see if you can see someone for a reduced fee. Best wishes.

[Anonymous]

Be very open and honest.