Girls, do you have a go-to technique for rejecting guys?

[Nikki1989]

[DarkCarousel]

Whew. Go-to technique! I don’t have one of those.
It bothers me a bit to read a question worded like this because it lends to the idea that rejecting guys is a sport, or job, or something else that requires technique.


If you’re in the sport of rejection— I’m not the person to answer this.


In answer to your question though, every person is unique and situations can’t be treated as a exactly alike. The best thing you can do is be tactful but firm. Not everyone in the world is owed an explanation— while others, depending on the situation, it may be courteous to give them one if they ask.

[Billlewis]

It *is* a sport, and a recreational activity ❤️

[Jazzy54]

I’ve only rejected two guys in my life thus far:


Guy #1: He was 32 and I was 18 (we were co-workers). It’s a long story, but basically, I chickened out due to the big age gap. I initially agreed to be his girlfriend but, as I thought about it, I got scared and told him I changed my mind. Thankfully, he was nice about it and we both moved on with our lives.


Guy #2: I met him when I was in college. He and I eventually became friends on Facebook. One day, we were chatting on there and he expressed his feelings for me. I told him that I only saw him as friend and that was the end of the conversation.

[AaronKrieger]

For both guys and girls, it depends on the situation when rejecting someone. If they just keep bothering you, yet don't ask you out, then you need to be boring as shit. Don't be rude, but just don't ask them questions back or try to have an actual conversation.

If they've straight up asked you out or are just being obvious about it, then be upfront. Do not let it run on for a while if you see them often, since I've done that and it sucks. You will be put in awkward situations and dread seeing them.

[Mansearching]

The worst rejection I've ever gotten was being laughed at in my face. I thought she was cool and pretty. Knew her for awhile and thought wth... you know.

The worst thing she could have said was no. The usual standard. Of course the other usual standards: not interested, i have a boyfriend, thanks but no thanks, etc...

After what she did, now i think she's cruel and ugly. I saw her a week ago and boy am I glad we didn't go out. She's a gold-digging whore. Looking for the next sugar-daddy.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

A simple thanks but no thanks usually does it…

[Bklynbadboy12]

Or the classic it's not you it's me I'm just not ready

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

@Bklynbadboy12 😁😂 seriously tho I’m really not so it wouldn’t be a lie or excuse lol

[Bklynbadboy12]

That not gonna stop a brother from shooting his shot though 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

@Bklynbadboy12 but can you slam dunk it 😁🤣

[Bklynbadboy12]

Nope I got rejected 🤣🤣🤣🤣

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

@Bklynbadboy12 🤗🤗🤗

[Pinay_ako]

My go to would be I’m a lesbian.
It always worked in college having hot friends 🤣. I’m in a relationship with one of them. The guys backed off. They even said you guys are always together 🤣.

[mandyfire98]

About a month ago I had a guy approach me at the grocery store and we talked and he asked for my number. I told him I thought he was cute but I wasn't looking for a relationship or dating right now but I thanked him and said bye and I left.

About 3 weeks ago now a guy that I've flirted with at my gym asked for my number and I gave it to him. We are going on our third date tonight.

[Extraterrestrial1999]

What was the difference between the two guys? Did you just have more chemistry with the second one, did something about his vibe just turn you on?

[mandyfire98]

The guy from my gym I had more chemistry with and I've known him for a bit and we flirt often.

[Joey718]

Have you had sex with him yet?

[mandyfire98]

I have

[Mansearching]

@mandyfire98 I didn't have to wait for second date. First date my girlfriend and I did the deed.

[mandyfire98]

It was the first date as well

[Mansearching]

Felt that much attraction, huh?

[mandyfire98]

Definitely

[Mansearching]

I hope it works out for ya.

[mandyfire98]

Thank you. We aren't currently exclusive but we'll see

[Mansearching]

Just friends with benefits right now?

[mandyfire98]

In the process of dating but we are only 3 dates in lol.

[Mansearching]

Yeah I see that. Still hope it works out.

[mandyfire98]

Thank you

[Joey718]

What did he say to get you to go back to his place?

[mandyfire98]

It wasn't like that. He got my number at the gym. We texted an entire week before our first date. So all the formalities and flirting and setup happened before we even went out on the date.

[Joey718]

So it was just a simple “want to go to my place” after the date?

[mandyfire98]

We had already discussed through texting that we were going to hangout at his place after eating. So after the date nothing had to be said. We just went to his place.

[Joey718]

Oh nice. I struggle being that direct. I’m always trying to come up with something like “want to come over and see my pet rock?” or something stupid lol

[mandyfire98]

I prefer direct honestly. If the date went really well and I'm really feeling the guy then the best approach would be "hey you wanna come back and watch a movie and hangout?" Or something along those lines.

[Joey718]

What does it mean for you for a date to go well enough that you want to go home with the guy? None of my girlfriends have ever been comfortable coming back to my place until dates 3-5.

[mandyfire98]

The sexual chemistry has to be pretty high. You just feel it when it's right.

[Billlewis]

Oh my goodness... you just made my whole day with that response, goddess... but what turns me on even more is reading about the various techniques women use to reject the amorous males who pursue them. Every guy should always keep in mind that who a woman *doesn't* have sex with is often every bit as important as who she does :)

[Joey718]

Right. Did your guy use a condom, or did he cum in you/on you?

[mandyfire98]

He used a condom the first date.

[Lis-the-librarian]

Not to be a mood killer here, but i don't think it will work out. You should be exclusive after having sex, and first date is too soon.

[mandyfire98]

😂😂 I'll take your advice into account gram gram.

[Billlewis]

Ms. Mandyfire98 has made my whole week... and her comments on this thread are a big part of it... from the bottom of my heart, thank you so, so much for your unbelievably erotic contributions to this discussion, as well as practically everything else about you 8><3

[mandyfire98]

You're very welcome

[Billlewis]

I swear this is one of the hottest discussions I've ever read:)

[Joey718]

Are you two still together?

[mandyfire98]

We are together still

[Billlewis]

He's now officially known as 'The Luckiest Guy In The World' :)

[EmmaMary]

A simple fiddling with my ring finger was usually enough.

Nowadays with having children in tow this isn't necessary anymore!

[Irishgirl02]

I dont find this to be the case. My ring and my kids don't seem to stop guys hitting on me.

[EmmaMary]

@Irishgirl02

Could this possibly have something to do with the fact that I am some ten years older than you, so perhaps I'm naturally putting out an entirely different aura than you.

[Irishgirl02]

Maybe I just give guys the impression that I came up the Shannon in a Bubble

[EmmaMary]

@Irishgirl02

You just given me an absolutely wonderful description of yourself! lol... Thank you so much. xx

[DizzyDesii]

I don’t intentionally seek out rejecting someone so no 😂 I used to use the excuses of “I already have a boyfriend” or “I’m just looking for friends” but now I just keep it real and say “You’re not my type” or “I like someone else” or “I don’t like you like that but you’re attractive so I’m sure you’ll find someone better suited for you.”

[provokeesmokee]

"No, thank you, I'm gay."

Used that once when I was chatting to a friendly guy (talking about his climb, not flirting) and his cocky friend tried to butt in out of nowhere with "he's got a girlfriend" - it was clear he was gonna follow up with some proposal of his own, so I cut him off with "oh, no, I'm gay" and he floundered so bad as his friend I'd originally been talking to laughed with me.

I still see that loser around the gym and he has the good sense not to talk to me, lol.

[RavVid]

From experience, girls mention their boyfriend pretty damn quick. "oh my boyfriend does/is like that too". It is sort of approving of you but with an implied NO.

It is suspicious of me but I think as soon as they detect interest from me (and they aren't) there will be a boyfriend even if they don't actually have one.

On the other hand if I am not interested boyfriends are seldom mentioned in social chats

I actually think this 'No thank you' is a good way of doing it because it is a less personal rejection.

[slatyb]

As a man, I will say that you are free to give any reason, true or not, when declining advances. "I have to wash my hair that night", "I have a boyfriend", "I'm too busy to date", "I'm not looking for a relationship right now", "I'm moving to Antarctica next month" are all fine, whether true or not.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

I think if a girl wears a ring on her ring finger is enough to tell a guy whether she's taken or single, if the guy still makes approaching to her, all she needs to do is show off her ring finger and that should be enough to tell the guy she is either taken or not interested in him.

[Billlewis]

This has got to be one of the most exciting things I've ever read... beautiful, sexy ladies discussing the most suitable, convenient methods for gently dismissing the starry eyed beta males who dream of the improbable possibility of being intimate with them.

[Billlewis]

I swear I will never, ever get tired of reading this piece...

[Enlightenme21]

Did something happen for you to ask this question or you just curious?

[Nikki1989]

A friend of mine has a guy stalking her for a date. He won't take no for an answer.

[Enlightenme21]

@Nikki1989

Is the person someone she knows or associates with?

[Nikki1989]

Nope. They met at a sporting event, and he has been chasing her ever since.

[Enlightenme21]

@Nikki1989

What is the nature of the stalking?

[Simslover92]

I say I have a boyfriend which I do now but even when I didn't I would still say that. Was hit on recently and I had to tell a guy that. At least now I don't have to feel bad for lying since it's the truth.

[Pink2000]

No not really. I’ve learned that saying i have a boyfriend doesn’t work. For safety reasons, depending on the setting (like if I meet them at a gas station and I’m alone) I’ll go ahead and take their number or social media and then just don’t talk to them because I’ve heard too many horror stories about girls rejecting guys politely and they end up getting hurt or worse.

[4ngelic]

if they're the same age, i'll just say that i have a boyfriend or that i dont casually fuck people

if they're younger, might bump up my age a bit and say they're too young for me

if they're older, will just tell them i prefer guys my age. can also lower my age and sometimes even say i'm a minor

usually i just say i have a boyfriend though

[4ngelic]

the boyfriend think is regardless if its true or not by the way

[MementoMori777]

oh im definitely gonna sit back and see the secrets of rejection here

[Boomchakalaca]

Lmao

[glennos89]

😂😂😂

[purplepoppy]

Never do it in a nasty way because then their hot mate won't approach you.

[Blackcupcake]

I actually don’t… but it is something I try to be careful with because if there’s feelings involved, then it’s something that should be handled with care.

[Christoff92]

If they're not showing interest then not showing interest. Leave them alone. Let them be the way they are. Stop being obsessed with pussy and start seeing who she really is based on her honesty and personal traits 😊

[Anonymous]

Talk about how great my husband is. They get the picture eventually.

[Billlewis]

Oh my goodness... that is so incredibly hot! It makes sense, though; why settle for just rejecting him, when you can make him jealous as hell, too... I have no doubt that your husband is every bit as great as you say he is.

[Billlewis]

I just can't stop reading this discussion... you know a woman is drop dead gorgeous when she actually has to develop ways to reject guys easily and comfortably... and I'm just awestruck by your very presence, ladies.

[Chrysantenum95]

Im not into relationships rn and still enjoying by myself

[andreasderjuengere]

I like that picture and text :)

As otherwise I'm not addressed here, I abstain from puking out an opinion :)

[genericname85]

wow the entitlement is huge in that one. be thankful you even get that sort of attention. you should spend a day in a mans shoes xD you'll come back to being a woman being gratefull for every ounce of attention that you get.

[Sasha0426]

You’re disgusting. What you just said is why women hate you.

[genericname85]

@Sasha0426 i'm totally fine with what i said and your wishful thinking doesn't change that.

[Sasha0426]

What’s your problem anyway? If a woman doesn’t want a man’s attention that’s ok. Don’t ever fucking shame her and tell her she should be thankful. You’re an abusive prick and you know it.

[genericname85]

@Sasha0426 imagine a man would have asked the exact same question "hey guys, do you have a go to technique to reject women", you would have said exactly what you just said to me to the guy asking. by the way you need some emotional self adjustment training. you're completely unhinged.

[Sasha0426]

Are you pissed because I didn’t agree with you?

[genericname85]

@Sasha0426 do you think i'm pissed, cause you wanted to piss me off?

[Sasha0426]

You’re definitely not happy when women reject you.

[genericname85]

@Sasha0426 duh. are you happy when someone you like rejects you? xD what a statement...

[Sasha0426]

Let me rephrase. You’re so beyond unhappy you believe women should thank you and hop on your dick for giving them even the slightest attention.

[genericname85]

@Sasha0426 wtf. no. why the heck would anyone think that?

[Sasha0426]

I mean, you read your reply, right? You said women are entitled and we should thank you and be grateful for giving us attention. Even if a guy comes off creepy and rapy.

[genericname85]

@Sasha0426 you should read my initial commend IN THE CONTEXT of the question asked by the assker. i said women should be thankfull for the attention they get instead of finding "strategies" to beat guys down that dare to give them any attention.

you're trolling yourself, if you make up what people ment and then enraging based on the shit you made up... maybe stop that, then life gets easier for you.

[Sasha0426]

And by saying we should be thankful it sounds douchey.

[genericname85]

@Sasha0426 kontext matters. read the context. and don't try your best to missunderstand people just you can unleash your built-up aggression on them. get a therapist...

[Enlightenme21]

To be fair she's right about the way your coming off and I'm unsure what the poster meant but to me it came off more as best way to tell a guy your not interested since many guys don't stop asking or leave you alone at first attempt to being clear your not interested.

It's nothing personal towards men.

Me personally I actually wouldn't be telling guys anything about asking this kind of question, if anything I'd be giving out info on how to attempt to get through to a girl who is persistent even when your direct.

Some people just don't get that you don't want them to chase you or are not interested in general.

I think you and sasha0426 are just misunderstanding each other or just disagree.

Either way yes sash0426 is being aggressive but I think what you said just really upset her.

Do you believe a individual should be greatful for unwanted attention?

For me personally I don't enjoy attention from anyone other then a partner.

[genericname85]

@Enlightenme21 i don't really care how i come across. i say what i think and that's it. it's everyones own duty to make sure they understood right before flipping their shit and going aggressive and insulting on others. that's toxic as fuck and that's why i blocked her.

[genericname85]

@Enlightenme21 what i was saying was: live a live with no attention. then you learn to value the attention that you currently don't want anymore, cause you got too much of it. appreciate the things in life you get. i see nothing wrong with that mentality and if someone wants to missunderstand me, that's their problem.

[Enlightenme21]

@genericname85

Thank you for clarifying.

It's a different point of view and its a nice one. Simply be grateful.

I feel there is people who would not mind never receiving attention, it can be more uncomfortable for them and prefer it to be avoided over it being something they may feel entitled to and are ungrateful of.

How would you say a person best approach another with respect in regards to declining someone asking you out or it possibly leading to someone being so persistent they begin to follow you and disrespect your personal space?

[genericname85]

@Enlightenme21 my "personal space"? as in my house? because i don't consider the space outside of my property "mine". if someone comes into my house without permission, i'll call the cops on them. if someone follows me around in public, i ignore them.

[Enlightenme21]

@genericname85

Okay I understand, have you ever been harassed?

Did it work to ignore them and call the cops?

[genericname85]

@Enlightenme21 i've never ben "harassed" but i've been bullied all through my school life so i think i'm qualified to speak on the matter xD

[Raaj4you]

Many unattractive girls send nudes to me so that they can seduce me with their body and sex. I clearly told them, I am attracted to only beautiful hot good girls. I am not interested in your body, nude pictures and videos. I want to date seriously and marry. I have blocked many unattractive girls online.

[Sasha0426]

Have you seen yourself?

[Raaj4you]

@Sasha0426 Yes, you go get a life.

[Tina19]

I already have a boyfriend
Or sometimes just say married already lol

[DarkWinterNights]

I had a friend who would wear a fake wedding ring and just smile and point to it when approached. Rarely had to even say anything.

[Tina19]

Wow that's great idea actually

[virtualwasp]

i said i would prefer to be friends and never speak to then again

[WonderBell99]

“Hey, I’m not in the right headspace to date anyone at the moment. Sorry.” This is literally what I sent to a guy who asked me out recently. It’s the truth though.

[Kha0tiic_xo]

No not really I'm just honest and straightforward and I'll say I'm not into you like that I like you as a friend and only as a friend and if you don't like that too fucking bad for you!!!

[devilish-cutie]

straight up, sorry im not interested, if he is persistant i explain to him in great detail why not, men have never bothered me when i was very direct, hated yes

[Anonymous]

My go to is a wedding ring, I'm not married but hell it works when you want to shut people out and just have a few drinks

[Anonymous]

i talk about how great my husband is because he's just so great omg and they get the picture eventually omg

[JoyGirl]

No…lol

I just watch everything crumble, and I am not the least bit moved. 😂

[CaptainSmartass]

I like to use "It's not me, it's you".

Simples...

[rukus88]

ANYTHING that isn't you being a cunt is fine. Just don't be snotty or shitty.

[Boomchakalaca]

I just politely turn them down. “Oh i hav a boyfriend.” No need to be extra

[Lis-the-librarian]

And they go "but i identify as a woman and you don't have a girlfriend"😅

[mT2359]

Go-to technique for rejecting guys!!! Woww that a first of a kind question to ask!

[asphaltrhymes]

I sure do think they always say they're taken, lol

[OddBeMe]

Being a guy helps. Less I’m in a gay club. Then the jokes on me.

[Agape93]

Not interested.

[Chthou95]

Dont women already give lame ass excuses. Continue doing that

[Chthou95]

You can't bullshit a bullshitter sweet heart.

[Ms_Facesitter]

Being honest and saying it asap.

[Alex8736]

"I like you, but not like that "

[Minahh]

No need to they don't even ask me out

[mT2359]

Awwww

[gothbxtch]

yeah, just politely and gently

[Anonymous]

Resting bitch face

[whistlingwh0res]

Reject his sperm like a bugs do

[Guardian45]

HAHAHA!!!

[Anonymous]

The “I have a bf” still working great for u girls