Girls, what type of response do you typically get after rejecting a guy?

[Still-alive]

I have a feeling i know already but wanna see like a show of hands lol

they get very angry more often.

They act sad more often. Crying or sad face

They try to guilt trip me most often. ‘Ok but ill be lonely’ stuff like that

I pretty much get A, B, and C reactions quite equally

They react normal for the most part. Nothing terrible usually

Most of the time its a positive reaction. Not too many negative ones

I've not even rejected a guy yet actually.

[Apulu_Imback]

Yeah, I rejected this guy who was crushing on me from grade 6, I guess I was also flattered and hung out with him which gave him the wrong idea. He thought we were committed, even though he never said anything about relationship before. It was me who was terribly shocked. I was like "I'm already taken and in a relationship with my first boyfriend without knowing myself?". This thing became the biggest red flag, the fact that he announced his friends that we were official and the fact that he expected me to be like his girlfriend without me knowing. I said a big NO and scolded him for doing such a stupid thing and he replied with typical sad romantic movie dialogues like 'I thought you liked me too, I won't be able to bear it', 'Let's give this is a try', 'Just give me as less as half of the time you give to your piano classes' and after a straight NO NO from me, he ended things by saying, 'Okay, I'm sorry for all the disturbance caused by me. You are bound to win. You won and my heart lost you'. Cliche, so I blocked him. I was actually sad because I lost a good acquaintancship of 3 years but I don't want to be friend with people you are broken easily. I don't want those who think that they can do anything but if things don't work like they planned then they are depressed for months. Not as friends, not as partner. And yes, I don't want a relationship strictly at such a young age so this was bound to end.

After that day till our session ended, he kept the password of his digital watch as my admission number and the class clowns teased us till the 9th grade session ended. I heard from a friend that he would listen and sing sad songs, and he would stare at me for no reason🤦🏻‍♀️I hope he moved on now and he won't be in my classroom for the sophomore year. I'm probably like a cruel girl he liked because I rejected him, lol.

[Still-alive]

How much older was he than you?

[Apulu_Imback]

He's one year elder than me. He's also in same grade as me.

[Still-alive]

ok yeah unfortunately guys your age haven't learned the proper etiquette for handling rejection so its kinda expected lol.

it sucks cause you lost your friend but pretty common.

Even guys my age still haven't learned how to take the word 'no/ which is embarrassing. kinda makes it harder for other guys who can lol

[Apulu_Imback]

It's actually okay since they don't have experience and they are a bit... unintentionally stupid in this area. They should try and fail to learn how to handle a rejection. It's common.

[Apulu_Imback]

Thanks for the MHO!

[mandyfire98]

Angry, feel like they've been personally attacked and their pride is completely destroyed. Kind of a "how dare you" type of attitude. It's not that they're not fit for anyone at all. We're not saying that. It's just that we won't be a good fit together in my mind. It's not about worth. It's about compatibility.

[Still-alive]

'How dare you have a free choice in the matter of dating someone or not! hmmphhh!' :P

[mandyfire98]

Apparently if you choose at all then you are stuck up or only going after guys who look like Chris Hemsworth hahaha

[Still-alive]

Or the usual incel thing i hear ‘probably only wants some rich dude anyways pfft’

They always think women just care about money

[mandyfire98]

Yeah or literally every woman is sharing just like the top 10 percent of guys. So like we are all around the world just all sharing the same guys apparently.

[4ngelic]

if its like romantic rejection usually they take it well but look kinda sad. had one guy get a bit angry though and for the next weeks kinda be a bit irritated around me and say stuff casually about how how the other dudes wouldn't care about me like he does, i should give him a chance, and stuff like that, and try to convince me to go a date with him. also had another guy who said he'd try to change my mind and eventually make me like him, but he didn't act sad or angry or anything though

for like sex/dudes hitting on me, usually either get dudes who take it well, dudes that get a bit mad or upset, or dudes that dont take no and are persistent

[DizzyDesii]

99% of the time called a B word or stuckup but then they be like “I’ll give you one more chance to change your mind cause I might’ve came on strong”

[DizzyDesii]

One guy tackled me in class in elementary (yes like the way footballers tackle eachother) because i replied i was into his brother instead of him. We tumbled and fought. I won. I came. I saw. I rejected. I still conquered

[DancingQueen16]

I think a few months into my first year of high school my guy best friend texted me and told me he liked me and I was flattered but I didn't like him in that way and when I told him I'd rather us just be friends he wasn't like mad or anything like that

[Still-alive]

was that the only guy you rejected?

[melanieeeB]

Often? "Oh okay, bye then" type of responses (Again I'm sooooo thankful that the society I live in, is in the 21st century with modern grown men)

Occasionally? Insults, "You are not even pretty" "You're a hoe!!!" Etc or arguing about why smh

[melanieeeB]

Or well, at least I don't walk into bitter guys in real life... thankfully 🙏🏼
The once insulting are mostly macho men, eastern guys or nice guys

[AyaMya]

Angry... generally, which is upsetting since I am usually as polite as possible when telling them I am married and so not interested. And they still insist I go out with them or try to hassle my phone number out of me with absolutely no regard to what I've told them. Then if I walk away I'm the problem and apparently deserve a verbal battering 🙄

Obviously this isn't always the case and some men are very polite and respectful about it. But the former outweigh the latter, sadly

[Monalisa77]

Well, i dont know if that counted, because i dont know for sure what happened. Well does yelling at one count as rejection? But whatever happened he clearly felt hurt about something because he gave me a really moody/weird look, he then goes to act like i didn't exist, blocks me from going to his party then blocks me on fb. Bruised ego?

[petitedollbabee]

A, B & C reactions very often, equally. Usually they start with sadness, then move onto guilt tripping when you don't feel sad for them, and then when you don’t fall for their guilt tripping, they get angry.

[petitedollbabee]

I’ve had maybe 3 guys take rejection really well and not react those ways. 3 guys out of like, 40+ though.

[Still-alive]

thats a bad record. are most of them local? new zealanders?

[petitedollbabee]

Yeah, most have been from my current town and some from my old town.

[petitedollbabee]

Only a handful of them have been overseas.

[Sour-rose]

the worse thing that I have happened of a guy getting rejected by me was him being petty. in 11th grade.

• blaming stuff on me
• acting stingy
• trying to blackmail me
• telling anyone who would here I'm not dating him because I'm a cheater

:)... every other "man" i reject take it like a man and let it go... okay not all of them. Some have called me a bitch, so that's nice

[Jess_D]

I’ve had every reaction from “Ok that’s cool!” to “You’re an ugly bitch and I wouldn’t date you anyway!”

[Still-alive]

but which one was most common for you?

[Jess_D]

Sadly, angry reactions seem most common.

[Minahh]

I haven't rejected that many guys yet but each one I did had a totally different response: my ex got mad and tried to make me go back to him, this other guy acted like he's cool with it and the last one I saw that it made him unhappy a little but he didn't show it at all.

[FreyaRed]

Depends. Mostly no response at all. But I heard invectives of guys I didn't even notice before, they imagined something and my reaction didn't fit to their imagination.

[Littlejugs99]

One guy was angry and buthurt. Sent me some angry fbook messages before going to sleep after pleasuring himself to fbook pics of me on holiday at the beach and pool

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Mostly they take rejection decently.

But once a guy threw a tantrum, called me a snake and shouted that he hates me…

[Nikki1989]

I have seen the sad face the most.

[FifiJones]

Depends how. To bitchy they get angry. To friendly they move on.

[fonduegirl]

"Yeah well you're a bitch"

jkjk those are just the incels

[AngryAngle]

It's my personal experience and guys tend to hide their feelings behind anger that's the best they can do because from start they are being taught that men are tough and cannot show other emotions

[itsalyssaagain]

Usually don’t take no for answer and keep trying.

[Visionary7]

This.

[Still-alive]

but do they get mad each time you refuse? or more sad about it?

[itsalyssaagain]

No they just act like they’re ok with it and nothing happened. And then they persist.

One guy literally said you said no to what? I never asked you out. But anyways you free next week? After I just. Said. No.

[Visionary7]

They just play it cool