I am dating a guy for some time now. We spent some time this week but now he is ghosting me since 2 days saying he is busy. What does this mean?

[Anonymous]

We are together for some time now and he is not ready to be in a relationship thinking he won't be able to manage it

[ohsheeT]

When I'm with a girl I'm usually with her if I live in the same city I'm in constant contact with her if I come to you and I say to you I don't really want to get into anything because I don't know if I can manage my time

Well if I come to you and I say that it's basically over because basically I'm not being honest with you I'm saying it because I either have somebody else or you're being too demanding on him and his time but somewhere there's a problem and he should just come out and tell you

Okay so now in saying All the above I've been in online relations before. That were great. But I work for myself and when work call I go. To work it's how I pay my bills it's how I buy the things I want
And there have been times where the girl would not understand this when I say I have to go I have to go it's priority not taking anything away from her but it is priority because I need to live and sometimes I wouldn't say a word I would just go and I might not be back for a day 2 days a week depending on where the job is how big the job is in the moment I would get back I would say hello how are you blah blah blah and there would be an attitude and I did understand the attitude and the reasons why and I heard the same thing you're ghosting me I'm not gross from you I'm taking my job my livelihood serious yes I enjoy working I enjoy being busy and life is simple all of a sudden made into being difficult so maybe that's why he's saying he needs to manage his time better you know maybe he's there for you too much online and not getting appreciated for other things that he's trying to do I don't know I'm just guessing but no matter what you can't assume anything there is a true answer and that's what you need to know but if you're putting demands on him that he cannot do because of time wise work-wise financial wise you have to understand that too and if you don't I'm sorry to say but he'll probably end up just walking away you probably doesn't mean to do it that way but I guess that's just what happens I don't know but he's not ghosting you that's a whole different world he's taking care of his priorities and his financial priority comes first over everything if he doesn't have kids

[ManOnFire]

If he's ghosting or flaking, don't spend time hoping he'll change his mind or put up with him yanking you back and forth. If someone is truly serious about you and the relationship, they are going to go through with it and not have feelings of doubt or not being able to manage it.

If I were you I wouldn't text or call anymore. If he really wants you he'll prove it and make that relationship work. Don't sit around waiting, hoping, or even feeling bad. Give him what he wants and move on to someone better.

[Anonymous]

Well if he is ghosting you and telling you that he’s not sure if he is ready for a relationship then there is the reason he is ghosting you. Maybe he needs time to think about if this is what he wants.
I will tel you this, although this may be hard advice to follow…. If he’s taking space, give it to him. Don’t call him, don’t text him. Because when u do that- all u do is give him more of a reason to stay ghosted. You will actually push him away faster than you can blink. If he doesn’t hear from you, it’ll give him time to figure out if he misses you. Sometimes as women we get scared because we think if we give them space then they’ll never come back but tbh- if that’s true, do U really want to force a man to be with u when he clearly doesn’t want to? You will just hurt yourself in the end.

[Anonymous]

Then the response is:

“ Oh you don’t have time to be in a relationship. Then I don’t have time to give you P—SSY 🐱 “

Simple, then give someone else the goods. Because your so called “future partner” couldn’t give it to you

[OlderAndWiser]

. . . and you are hoping to change him?

[Finchie40]

If he is ghosting you then he just likes the convenience of you while he is weighing his options , so your best bet is to go weigh your options as welll and maybe meet someone that does t want to ghost you period , When a guy truly values a girl , he does t ghost her period

[slatyb]

"he is not ready..." What does he mean by that? He's already in a relationship with you. Don't try to read his mind or anyone else's. You can't. What do you want? Ask for that. What are you going to do if he can't give it to you?

[Flower7]

Sounds like he either doesn’t have time for a relationship in his life or he’s simply not interested. Either way, it’s not good for you to continue trying to date him.

[Anonymous]

He is not ghosting you, the guy might actually be busy and his own time is limited, and most guys are not wedded to their phones the same way that women are.

And your concern that you haven't heard anything 2 days is nothing to be concerned about.

[madhatters4]

it may just mean that he is busy. it's good to have reasonable expectations of your partners availability so when they say they aren't available you can trust that this is all that it is.

[MementoMori777]

ask him whats keeping him busy like "yo what you doin thats keeping you away from your lover bro"

[sheikalana]

If he's saying that he's busy that's not called ghosting. People get busy sometimes. He could be avoiding you tho. Do not text and do not chase him for a few days and see how if goes.

[SnowedIn]

Telling you he's busy isn't ghosting. It may not be seeing you but it's not ghosting.

Also, he may be busy.

[Boomchakalaca]

He probably was bored and found u, u spiked his interest but now he dosent need u anymore. The vibes im getting

[Anonymous]

If there's anything I've learned about being in a relationship with someone who says they don't think they're ready is that you should listen to them.
That's just a precursor for future shitty behavior

[Opinion Owner]

It also gives them one hell of a fair excuse to treat you like shit.
Which is, "I warned you, but you didn't listen"

[princessxx2]

I’m wondering if you were his hookup while his girlfriend was not around?

[Jazzy54]

Take his word for it. If he’s not ready, don’t push it.

[Iron_Man]

Talk to him about it did you have sex yet if you did probably big red flag

[RHK36]

He's talking to someone else. You will know when a dude really wants you.

[Anonymous]

He wants out so give it to him and never talk to him again

[Anonymous]

Then move on. You know he doesn’t want a relationship, so sticking around is wasting your time.

[mommymommymommy]

He's saying he's still playing the field. At your age, you should be too

[driven159]

he might be moving on since he is not ready for a relationship

[Anonymiss1234]

It means he's not ready yet to go "All In" yet, but he cares about you. Give him space and save some for yourself too.

[humanearth]

Maybe he really is busy

[KrakenAttackin]

He's not that into you.

[Anonymous]

It means he is busy

[Vikkrram]

Dumb guy

[bananapeels]

Depends

[In_Trance]

he's not interested