Is he really busy or avoiding me?

[Anonymous]

here's the deal. I've known this guy for about 9 months we seen each other a few times about 6 month ago and he kinda flipped when he wasn't really ready to date. we stopped talking and recently started text about a month ago. we haven't seen each other yet and we were text every day and the last week he has disappeared doesn't answer any text so I decided to text say I was disappointed and if he wasn't interest just be decent and say so. surprise he answered says crazy busy at work, ex wife pos he has 2 kids with her and he has them most of the time and he is tired of fighting with her what else do I need to know? is it his way of saying f*** off or is he just that busy and need some space?

[sklogic22]

I dont mean to sound different to everyone else but I've always believed that its never about having time, its about making time. If you really want something you'll find the time no matter how busy your scheduele may seem. When did he send his reply message back?

[Evenell]

He is probably that busy. Trying to balance that, me time, and a relationship? That can be quite a handful. However, he would make an effort to at least message you and let you know what's going on if he's interested. Good luck!

[Asker]

thank you for your opinion, I appreciate your thoughts and I agree at least make an effort , say hey I'm busy. it would make things much easier

[Waited]

You're an old lady just ask him

[Asker]

You are rude! I'm an old lady? funny old lady can get guys your age to go out with. I don't even try they approach me

[Waited]

So you're a cougar congrats 😂😂😂

[Asker]

I was looking for advice not to have someone say rude things. obviously I tried asking and didn't get an answer from him. I would assume you were never taught if you didn't have anything nice to say don't say anything. not my fault you find it offensive I date men in your age group. I am glad that they do not have the same mentality you do. Instead of being rude don't say anything it would be much nicer

[Asker]

any reason for being so disrespectful because I don't know you and you have no clue whether they sag or not and not everyone in their 40's have saggy tits. I have never seen another woman so intent on bringing down another woman. instead of being inconsiderate try building someone up and complimenting another woman. it goes a long way.

[ZODIACSUICIDE]

It may be both at the same time, it can be overwhelming to deal with a family on a side and a "date" on the other while working in the mean time.

[Asker]

thank you for your opinion. I guess I have done it for a long time and I can manage easier.

[bjstevenson89]

He probably really is that busy, but the fact that you're texting is a good sign. It means he doesn't think you're a crazy. If you think he's worth it, then be patient, and be a good friend to him. He might need that.