I’m gonna try to be vague for obvious reasons. I’ve known him a few years now and we have slept together in the past. After that, I confessed my feelings and he told me he likes me too but didn’t wanna relationship etc so oh well I went in about my life. A couple years have passed since that night and he reached out to me again, showing interest. We talked on and off for about a month before he asked me if I wanted to come see him. I went last Friday and stayed the night with him. He’s always been upfront with compliments but I don’t know if that’s just how he is or what, especially because he’s rejected me. So when I got to his house, he said I looked cute, said he liked my makeup, said my eyes are beautiful, and was also lightly touchy. I liked it a lot.
I really missed him, we ended up having sex again. However, we got into a tiny argument. I left the next day pretty early cause I like to get home and shower. I messaged him that I got home and I apologized for our argument and that I caused it. He laughed it off and said “it’s all good. Don’t worry about it you’re so cute”. I felt really guilty so it made me feel better, until he asked to see me again. I said “yes I would, let me know when you’re free” and he said “well I’ll be busy for a little while, but maybe some time.” Which was a weird way to say it I thought. We don’t talk a lot because I know he IS busy, and we haven’t talked much since. I’m not too worried about it, but with his dismissive response I’m a little upset.
I don’t want to ask him and get rejected again. What could he have meant by calling me cute? I’m reading into that a lot cause it made me really happy but then my happiness changed with him saying he’ll be busy and not trying to follow up.
Does the cute comment mean anything? Is it physically or my personality or just me apologizing? I had suspicions he just wanted to sleep with me but why even throw that comment in there after he got that if he’s not interested in me more than that?
I really missed him, we ended up having sex again. However, we got into a tiny argument. I left the next day pretty early cause I like to get home and shower. I messaged him that I got home and I apologized for our argument and that I caused it. He laughed it off and said “it’s all good. Don’t worry about it you’re so cute”. I felt really guilty so it made me feel better, until he asked to see me again. I said “yes I would, let me know when you’re free” and he said “well I’ll be busy for a little while, but maybe some time.” Which was a weird way to say it I thought. We don’t talk a lot because I know he IS busy, and we haven’t talked much since. I’m not too worried about it, but with his dismissive response I’m a little upset.
I don’t want to ask him and get rejected again. What could he have meant by calling me cute? I’m reading into that a lot cause it made me really happy but then my happiness changed with him saying he’ll be busy and not trying to follow up.
Does the cute comment mean anything? Is it physically or my personality or just me apologizing? I had suspicions he just wanted to sleep with me but why even throw that comment in there after he got that if he’s not interested in me more than that?
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Girl, this situation does sound a bit confusing with the mixed signals he's giving. A few thoughts:
- The compliments and being touchy-feely do make it seem like he's into you on some level. Guys don't usually do that if there's no attraction.
- However, the rejection before and now his vague "maybe later" response after you spent the night are suspicious.
- Calling you cute after sex could just be an ego boost for him since he knows you like him. But maybe there's also still feelings there. Hard to say for sure.
If I were you, I wouldn't put too much stock in that one compliment or get my hopes up again until he actually follows through on plans. His actions aren't really matching his words here.
I'd say keep your cool for now and don't double text him being needy. See if he puts in effort to properly hang out again soon. If not, you may want to start distancing to protect your heart.
You deserve someone reliable who's excited to see you and makes you a clear priority, babe! Don't settle for gray area situations like this. Hope he comes through!
Honey, wise up. He is using you for sex...🙄