Is he just busy or blanking me?

[Anonymous]

So we have been talking for nearly a week and he goes he wants to give it me and him a go but he is scared of how this generation is as he doesn’t wanted to be cheated. He took so long to reply even though when I take forever he spams me but he texted me saying that he is sorry and that he fell asleep and he heard his phone buzz and it was my notification. But yesterday, he is a part time barber and he works from 9-6 and he left me on delivered for ages even though he posted on his story about he is trimming all day and people should come through but he texted me back in the evening saying he was busy for the whole day and he just got back home I replied saying Yh I could tell and how many hrs and he opened it and then replied after a few mins. I replied that I kind of need to talk to someone as i had one of those days and he took over an hr to just reply back to me even though he was active. I texted him saying u want me to reply quick but u never reply fast at all and he just goes hi and wyd and I replied and I am still left on delivered for 18 hrs. I don’t know if I am overthinking but I swear he is giving mixed signals

what should I do?

[Oliverlogan263]

Man, that sounds really frustrating. From the way he's acting it kinda seems like maybe he's lost interest but doesn't want to actually say it. The whole leaving you on delivered for ages and being super slow to reply even when you know he's active just ain't cool. That mixed with telling you he wants to give things a go but acting all weird and sketchy after. I'd just be straight up with him, like "hey I feel like you've been acting different lately, are you really still interested in talking or what?" Get him to be honest with you. If he keeps being vague and making excuses when you call him out, I'd say that's a sign he's just not that into it anymore but not man enough to say it. You deserve someone who makes you a priority, not leaving you hanging all the time. I know it's tough online but don't waste your time waiting around for someone who's not gonna put in the same effort. Maybe just tell him how it is and see what he says, but be prepared it might be better to just move on at this point.

[Asker]

I just have a question why do guys do that though

[Oliverlogan263]

There could be a few reasons why guys do that mixed signals/inconsistent replying thing:

- They're actually really busy sometimes but too lazy to text back quickly other times. Work, friends, gaming, whatever can distract them.

- They're insecure and unsure about how they feel. Saying they wanna try something but then getting cold feet so they back off texting.

- They might be talking to other girls too and can't keep up with replying to everyone right away. So you may not be the priority.

- Some dudes are just plain bad at communication. Texting isn't natural for them so they forget or don't think it's important.

- Could be playing games and like making the other person stress over waiting, just to feel in control or wanted.

Honestly, it usually comes down to them not being that invested or sure about you yet. Or they're just distracted easily. I wouldn't overthink it too much, because stressing won't make them text back faster. Just do your thing, keep other options open, and see if they step up their communication. If not, you'll find someone better who appreciates talking to you more!

[Asker]

Thank u for the advice

[Oliverlogan263]

You’re very welcome

[spartan55]

You know just because it says he is 'active online' doesn't mean he was. Those things are rarely accurate.

[bededazzle]

there’s no such thing as too busy in my opinion