I'm 27 and a Christian and basically grew up in my church. I love it. Last year, I met a guy named Isaac. He's a year younger than I am. For the past year we would say hi to each other but would be too busy to have an actual conversation. Two weeks ago, we actually had our first conversation in person even though we met a year ago. He said he wanted to get together and go eat so he asked me for my number. I gave it to him. I wasn't eager on texting him because I didn't want to get my hopes up. He text me that same day but didn't respond all last week. I saw him yesterday at church but he was just on his phone and he was looking at me and smiling. I thought it was weird because he would get close to me but not say hi, he just kept doing that... Yet he didn't text back ( and I text him once last week after he didn't respond and nothing). After service, he said hi to my brother and THEN said hi to me. He told me he was sorry to not text me because he has two fellowships he leads and two ministries he's a part of. Plus, he got a new job. He did text me more last night and this morning but I'm confused. Why would he ask for my number if he's acting like this?
Is he interested?
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Yes, it sounds to me like he's still interested.
The way I'd read this would be: He was genuinely busy. Or at least he wasn't able to reply to you soon enough to continue that particular string of conversation. Then (along with continuing to be especially busy) he felt bad/dumb/awkward about not having replied yet.
And the longer that went on, the harder/weirder he felt about "replying" so he thought to himself "well, I'm going to see her on Sunday, so I'll just talk to her then." But... he still felt bad/weird about not having replied... so was acting weird-ish. He knows he screwed-up, and was embarrassed to face you because he KNEW he was in-the-wrong.
At the same time he does actually like you. So he did his best to "excuse himself" for this behavior he KNEW was... not ok (whatever happened to cause his non-reply).
Now, he is doing his best to basically, redeem himself for being an idiot/too busy last week. It sounds like he would basically like to forget last-week and "start again". Like a do-over. To do things differently with you this time.
At least that's how I hope it all went down.
This is NOT a situation where I'm saying "I can totally read-that, and tell you confidently explain a third-person's motives and actions." That is often the case... but this isn't one of them. I just don't have enough information to be "confident" that I'm correct here. But this is how I would "read" what you've mentioned. 🙂
I think he's interested. He has a LOT on his plate. Two fellowships and the ministries? And a job. Please cut him some slack. But, you have to option to ask him. Stop waiting for texts back. Invite him to a specific place on a specific day at a specific time.
Why don’t you ask him?