Why could I be losing out to guys that are worse off then me especially when you not show sign of being desperate in front of women your into?

[Anonymous]

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I have lots of hobbies/interest to discuss in a conversation, confident , good job , I've been working on learning jk and have started working out yet other guys are winning always against me but doing less or only having half of that going for them?

[Truthatanycost]

Regardless of what a man owns, earns, or his hobbies, how he makes her feel is what she will remember. Thus the man that makes her feel excited, and stimulated emotionally , intellectually and sexually is the one she will likely be more interested in. Something else to remember is that less is more too.

[Asker]

You do that how?

[Truthatanycost]

Flirting, teasing, not placing her on a pedestal, not trying to win her approval, being masculine, being on your purpose, breaking the touch barrier (depending on her bodylanguage), being present, never being desperate and not being afraid to say no all play a part.

[SnowedIn]

Are you nice? Kind? Thoughtful? Good conversationalist? Outgoing? Friendly? Polite? Treat servers and baristas and others well? If not, then that could be why you're losing out. I didn't see any of those things in what you wrote which concerns me because those should be the first thing you should focus on, not the other stuff.

[Asker]

Yes I am for all of those they came to naturally growing up apart from the fact I'm not great at conversation in text compared to in person though.

[Anonymous]

Don't try to understand women's choices man. Trust me, they'll never make logical sense. I once got rejected by the woman for a guy that always smelled horribly like armpits and ass.😆