Why do guys always try harder when they realize they’re losing you?

[Anonymous]

Currently going through this and it’s honestly pretty annoying. Long story short, I have this guy in my life that things just don’t seem to work with since he is so busy and can’t make any other time for me except late night, once a week (I never go, but he still asks). Anyway I’ve met someone new, who is just as busy but makes time and effort. We went to the bar 2 nights ago, and I’m pretty sure the first guy saw because he was calling and texting, asking to please talk. Then he texted the next day say “things won’t always be like this, once I finish this project and things settle down. I’m really interested in you but just need you to hold on a bit”. It’s so frustrating, like why try hard now that I’m backing off?

Updates

+1 y

Thanks for the feedback, guys. I’m going to focus my attention on the new guy, since he’s been more consistent and actually trying. Happy Holidays!

[kyleelyn199723]

Hmmm I’m not sure if he is trying harder in this scenario. I think there’s just miscommunication between you two. Also if he is making time for the bar that he clearly saw you at, he should be making time for you. I’d say continue seeing the guy you have been seeing and has been giving you a great time though

[Asker]

That’s a great point, especially with him making time for the bar but too busy for everything else. It definitely makes more sense to just stick with the guy who’s actually putting in effort. Thanks for you comment☺️🤍

[Wise4myage]

Tell him, actions speak louder than words, and if he feels lucky, than he might get another chance. In the mean time, continue seeing the other guy.

[Asker]

Definitely wise for your age lol thanks for commenting 🙏

[Wise4myage]

Sure, any time.

[Marypindea]

Hmmmmmm