I need some opinions on my marriage?

[Anonymous]

I have been dating this guy for 5 years now. We recently got married in March. When we first started dating, everything was very nice. He was quiet, shy and sweet. We both went out on a lot of dates and were very affectionate with each other. After some years went by, things started changing a bit. We started going on less dates, sex has been dwindling down, etc. He caring less and less about what he says to me (hasn't called me out of my name yet) but he goes a bit too far when he jokes and when i let him know that, he gets all defensive about it. He tends to hide his phone a lot when im around. He's starting to not care about his personal hygiene that much. Im starting to feel more down because our relationship is not what it used to be...

I'm starting to wonder, did I make a mistake going through with the marriage?

Try to stay a bit longer and work on the marriage

Just get out of it. Don't waste any more time

[ohsheeT]

And this is how most marriages work once they get married everybody gets a little bit relaxed and they think they don't have to try as hard anymore but I'm sorry to tell you you have to because life doesn't just stop right there there's always one of you that's going to want to keep growing and that looks like it's you you need to look good everyday you need to feel loads you need to feel wanted. You're going to always keep growing he's going to become a couch potato and not give a f*** I can't tell you what to do except for you need to speak to him about it and tell him how you feel

Because if you don't like I said one wants to keep growing one still wants to evolved in this world one wants to remain happy and keep getting more happier and the only way you can do that is keep moving at all times keep growing at all times

The couch potato becomes lazy Moody doesn't give a s*** is always going to point the finger it's your fault it's this it's that you don't do this for me you're in a crossroads right now and you need to figure it out quickly because if you let it sit there on his butt too long it's just everything gets worse


I'm going to go way off track here like I always do LOL and this means nothing except it reminds me maybe
Do you know what the difference between a good person is and a bad person

A good person has to work it being good they know what they want they know how they have to get it they know what they have to do to get it they have to work on themselves all the time to become who they want to become and when you do that you get happiness you get a clarity you get respect you respect yourself and you just keep growing and that's what we're here on this planet to do is experience and keep growing becoming the best we can possibly become

If you've ever noticed bad people are lazy they take they lie they cheat they still to get what they want because they're lazy they don't care what they say they don't care what they do they care how they hurt other people as long as they get what they want they'll sit back on their ass and take take you know why because it's the easy way they don't have to give a care a s*** and nothing about anything except for themselves

The good person keeps going and growing and then pretty soon it just comes routine because that's what motivates it is happiness and being beautiful on the inside of the outside because it's the right thing

Bad people sit their ass on the couch if they want something they take it they don't care from who they don't care how they think they're entitled because they can get away with it I guess so

It's only your choice on which direction you want to go if you don't fix it now it's going to be even more difficult to fix and you're going to have to take even more pain and as far as I'm concerned that plan was not in your destiny so don't allow it to be don't allow it to change who you are

[Billlewis]

You might want to consider doing something to make him jealous; that's often an excellent way to put a spark into a relationship that's gotten boring.

[Asker]

Ooo what kind of thing do you recommend to make him jealous?😮

[Billlewis]

Tell him that a guy you're working with is flirting with you constantly, and that you're really anxious for him to fuck you -- and tell your husband that you're probably going to let your co worker fuck you whether your husband likes it or not. Tell him this when you're in bed with him, and touch his penis while you're discussing it. If he gets hard when he hears this, you'll know you've been successful.

[Flower7]

It does sound like you should have gotten out of this before going through with the marriage. It seems like things were going downhill when you were only in the dating phase.

At this point, you just have to figure out whether his shortcomings are something you can live with for the rest of your life.

[NuitBlanche]

Not enough hygienic? Wouldn't work with me. Agressive or didn't try to talk with you from adult to adult? Wouldn't work with me too.

[ButthurtGAGpeople1]

I HATE MARRIAGE.

What it entails, what it means, and why it usually winds up in failure

I don't want marriage, or kids

However, keep in mind, that, my parents aren't having sex, because I'm here. Why should they?

[slatyb]

You could try counseling. It's he won't go, go yourself and talk through it. Them you can make a decision you will be happy with.

[Anonymous]

Spice it up. Put on some lingery. You work for sex.. to happen

[Celticwolf78]

Time to get out of the situation and don't look back

[BLP11520]

Don’t quit yet