Marriage Advice?

[Anonymous]

I planned a vacation for me and husband. We constantly fought everyday. We spent the last day and night in the hotel room wasting it, me in tears. And in separate beds not talking. We both felt whats the point of going anywhere when nothing together is fun and turns to fighting. We rather stay in bed. It feels hopeless for us if this is how it is when its supposed to be our happiest bonding time. Is my marriage over? If we couldn't be fine when we were supposed to be having fun is this it for us? We ran out of ideas for things to do & couldn't agree on anything so gave up on choosing and stayed in feeling upset. I feel disappointed and like a failure. I couldnt even plan a vacation to be successful and he did not enjoy anything. It was a disaster

[Anonymous]

One of you have to be that sweet turtle and let it go.
You can’t both be lions In a fight if so ofc it’s going to end in a disaster.
I am not saying You specifically it goes for your husband too. That’s part of love - to let it go sometimes let it chill. You don’t have to always be the winner when fighting. What do you fight about? Why can’t one of you understand that opinions can vary?
Warning : unless it’s related to physical or degradation to you or he doesn’t even let you speak your voice at all than my comment is a no no you leave him.

[tfan1]

Compromise - agree to some things and he will agree to some things. Communication is key. Ask him what he’d like to do. When he tells you, go with it. When he’s had his fun more than likely he’ll ask you what you would like to do. Then you guys will do what you want. 👍🙂

[Asker]

For example we went skiing and i hated it and i got too worn out, and i felt like passing out, he wanted to continue and i told him its fine if he wants to continue skiing, i can go do some shopping. Instead he turned in his equipment& said i ruined everything. Everything i would talk about no matter what it was he would correct me and tell me im wrong. The worst thing was when he told me he would rather do this vacation over with someone else who is fun and that he doesn't know why he came w a b**ch who is not fun and doesn't care about him. Shortly After that he wanted s*x, i said no im not feeling it after everything and he went to the other bed and slept through our entire last vacation day on purpose. Im so unhappy

[tfan1]

Damn something is majorly wrong with him. Sounds like you two need to talk about what’s going on or marriage counseling. Don’t give up.

[OlderAndWiser]

My guess is that there is an underlying conflict that you have not addressed. Have you ever tried couples counselling?

[KrakenAttackin]

Stop nagging the living fuck out of him and actually be grateful for him.