Is it justified that I was mad at my boyfriend today?

[crazycactus242]

This morning when I woke up I rolled over to cuddle my boyfriend and he just got annoyed and said “stoppp” so then I just got up. Then he was eating before he went to work and I just wanted some attention but he was on his phone the entire time… then I got frustrated and said “I’ll just go have a shower.” Like 4 times until he noticed and even then he was just like “why are you mad? I didn’t even do anything.” When he literally wasn’t giving me attention at all today… most of the time he’s playing games or he’s just on his phone and I feel like I barely get attention

[Deformate]

Moght be something you should address with him instead of reacting to at him. I know there are times in the day when I just want some alone time to decompress and its hard to do if people are always trying to be noticed and get my attention. I'm not saying thats what you're doing, or that you're in the same situation. I just think its weird to need to tell someone 4 times you're going to have a shower. What kind of response did you need? Certainly not permission. You can go shower if you want to. He probably heard you and assumed it was a statement. "I'm gonna go and have a shower." Ok then. I get I sound slightly hostile and I swear its not intended as hostility, I just didn't understand why you had to say it 4 times. On the flip side though, if he spends all his time on his phone playing games and you barely get any attention then he has his priorities all wrong. He shouldn't enter into a relationship if he is just going to ignore his partner. Thats just insensitive and potentially very hurtful. You shouldn't have to endure that and again, I'd advise addressing the issue. His attitude with his response and folowing actions will tell you everything you need to know.

[crmoore]

Yes, though it's important that you communicate this to him. But keep in kind you two may be in disagreement on this.

Personally, I see where you're coming from. In my relationships, this is something I'd want to fix. But he might not see it as something that needs to be fixed, and he isn't necessarily wrong. What is or isn't required in a relationship is subjective and varies from person to person.

So if or when you discuss this with him, don't state things as if he's definitively in the wrong, even if some people online agree that your discontent is justified. Come at it from a neutral perspective and but let him know how you felt. And ask him if it's something he might be willing to consider more.

[Alli39]

Um. Not getting enough attention for a single day is really not a good reason to be mad. Like, sorry to be the bearer of bad news, but also. Girl. He might have just been having an off day, had a lot on his mind, or needed some time to himself. If it's a repeated issue then you should talk to him about it, but otherwise, you probably need to practice independence a little more. Not having emotional access to him for a few hours shouldn't be a major problem.

[Anonymous]

You are 18. It problaby won't last. If I were you I'd break up. And save myself for marrige. You might not like the advice now but you'll be very happy about it later

[OlderAndWiser]

1. Your feelings do not need to be justified. If you feel annoyed, that's just how you feel.

2. Why in the world are you living with this boy?

[Anonymous]

If your boyfriend is your age, he's probably more interested in games than in seeing that you get all the attention you crave. Sounds fairly obviously that you're an attention hound and will act out either aggressively or passive/aggressive when you don't get enough of what you want. Combine that with the fact that he's likely immature and treats you like an add-on rather than a priority, and this is what you get.

[MementoMori777]

It's justified but instead of coming on here to share it with us, you should've shared it with him and how it made you feel, communicate with your boyfriend, it's important.

[JackCarter]

Justifiable , if he is like this most of the time!

[ProbablyClueless]

I don't know how often he does this, but if today was an unusual circumstance, you probably don't have much reason to be mad.

[TallAnon]

He did nothing wrong, you wanted attention and were inefficient in explaining this to him.

[Agape93]

Yeap especially since it's consistent behavior