Why is it that men can't pursue a women without sex being involved?

[shy_siren]

[CrazyKittyStyx]

Got to say even as a woman, I don’t understand why a man would pursue a woman without the hope of sex at some point? You don’t pursue someone to be friends with them, you do that to build some sort of romantic relationship with them, which should involve sex. I’d be offended if a guy who was pursuing me didn’t want to have sex with me.

But I think the issue is more that sex seems to be the ONLY point of dating for some men, rather than pursuing women for a relationship WITH sex. And there’s an assumption you have to do it really early on in the relationship or you’re just wasting his time. Like he has a right to it because he’s made the effort to ask you on a date and then actually turned up. That’s the part that irritates me. I need an emotional connection first and that might take a few weeks. If he can’t wait at least that long then we’re going to have issues.

[shy_siren]

Yes! This is exactly what I meant.

[Nikki1989]

Give them an inch, they want a mile. That is just the way it works for most men.

[shy_siren]

That's valid.

[Anonymous]

They can and the irony is, when women meet a man like this, the women want sex even more. Any man with self control can do this. But since most men are completely desperate, led by their desire and brainwashed by societies obsession with sex and placing women on the sexual pedestal, few men have the self control to do so. Add porn to the mix and it's even worse.

[shy_siren]

Exactly! If a man could show restraint and respect, I'm more likely to give it to him as opposed to some needy desperate jerk.

[Opinion Owner]

Well the last time that happened to me, she begged me to come upstairs so it was a bit more than just 'more likely to give it to him'. In contrast my friend that liked the same woman said he would do anything to get with her and she wasn't interested in him at all!

[zero444440000]

am assuming that by pursue you mean dating? if so the answer is easy. what is the point of dating and begin with a women in a romantic relationship if you won't get to have sexual fun? if you just wanna have none sexual fun with a women then you don't pursue them. you look to befriend them instead.

[AviatorTom]

If there's no sex involved, what is the pursuit for?

[DerekC321]

I have women friends whom I'm attracted to and hang with. I have one friend who happens to have large breasts, and depending on what she's wearing I sometimes get hard and I end up having long conversations with her with an erection. But I don't let my dick think for me and behave myself even with a boner.

[Billlewis]

We're very capable of being involved with a woman without any possibility of sex, but unfortunately we don't demonstrate that ability very often.

[shy_siren]

Why not?

[Billlewis]

I think this is due to a variety of reasons -- laziness, carelessness, selfishness, etc. But I'm very pleased to tell you that I've been having some wonderful conversations with a lovely young woman who has been teasing me relentlessly for weeks now, and this is very helpful, in terms of helping to properly train me to accept my existence of unending frustration.

[shy_siren]

That's good?

[Billlewis]

Oh, absolutely. Not getting any pussy has been a tremendous blessing for me, and the more teasing and frustration I receive, the sweeter it makes me.

[Bricealan]

They don't know how. They are a slave to their hard/hardening penis.

[Laura_fo2208]

It depends on the man. Some can and some can't. The ones, who can't are not able to control their desire

[BoopBoopBeep]

We're not pursuing your great cooking skills.

[LazerBean]

They can, then men who want you just don't want to.

[slatyb]

Sex is the main reason heterosexual men date women instead of other men. Why do you date?

[SawerBrown]

Probably because most of us males are rather shallow

[BarryLiverstone]

Because a relationship with no sexual attention is a friendship. Isn’t it?

[Anonymous]

That's a good question. My guess is because regardless of how good of times we're having together, at some point she's going to bring it up.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Because the whole point of getting with a woman is to have sex.

[Anonymous]

If a man marries a women ofcourse he wants sex what's the use his married, im not saying he shouldn't be patient. No partner male or female should be embarrassed about it.

[William_96]

Why are you saying it like it's all Men not every guy is like that I know I'm not.

[spartan55]

What, like be her friend? 😂😂😂

[sheikalana]

Cuz they're pursuing the flesh.

[ProbablyClueless]

Because it's boring.

[Anonymous]

What would be the point?

[Äxlbäksölöl]

Thats sexist as f*** what the hell do you mean