What Does It Mean When She Gives You "Mixed" Signals?

Question

1. I met a woman (Susan) on Tinder and we exchanged phone numbers.
2. We went out on 3 dates and everything was excellent. She told me she quit all her dating profiles because she just wants to focus on her job. She isn't focused on finding a relationship anymore.
3. However, getting those dates were difficult. When I asked her out Susan would say, "I'm busy that day, maybe next week. I'll let you know." But she wouldn't. I had to text her the following week and ask again.
4. I really like her and I asked her out for a 4th date and the same thing, "I'm busy that day. Maybe next week. I'll let you know."
5. I was tired of it. I was no long on Tinder. I decided to give Match. com a try.
6. The day I signed up Susan messaged me. She had a paid subscription to Match. com. She wrote, "Hi John. How are you doing? I really like you and I'm interested."

If this is the case, why is it so hard to get a date with her?

What Does It Mean When She Gives You Mixed Signals?

AviatorTom · Accepted Answer

Most women give mixed signals. That why we guys have a hard time figuring out what makes women tick.

Basically, a "mixed signal" is when you see the woman do something that you (the guy) interpret one way, she really means it another way, but you don't know that.

An example might be the girl wearing very skimpy clothes on a date, which the guy may interpret as meaning she's interested in sex, when she's really just wearing something comfortable in the heat.

Or, the girl gives the guy her number and says "Call Me" which, of course, the guy interprets as meaning she's interested, when in reality, she knows she's going to be out of town with her LTR boyfriend for the next two weeks but didn't want to hurt your feelings.

Staximus · Accepted Answer

If she was actually interested, getting a second and third date would have been easy. She wouldn't say "I'm busy that day, maybe next week. I'll let you know". She would say "I'm busy that day but how about next Saturday?" Or something like that. If she was interested, she would suggest a day she was not busy.

If that is an actual text from her ("I don't know what my plans are yet but maybe"), then she was waiting to see if she had anything better to do than seeing you. I would just not call or text her anymore. She had no plans and was waiting for an excuse to ditch you. If she actually liked you, seeing you would be a priority over doing other things that had not even been planned yet.

Lily_lilac · Accepted Answer

Have u try and ask her why is it always hard for her to he available? She might have a legit reason.. for example (not applied to ur case probably, but if the girl has a strict parents, then she will find it difficult to find a free day for her to go out and one is expected to receive “im not sure if im free” from her most of the time) so yeah, back to it, but if she didn't have any legit reason and everytime u plan on a date, she always come up with various excuses, i think u might just as well move on.. its not a great sign, she might play around with u and not sincere

Alli39 · Accepted Answer

She's probably just like "interested but not that interested" and probably also too busy for an actual relationship even if she wants one. Up to you if you want to try and work with it or just quit.

SnowedIn · Answer

@KrakenAttackin is right.  At best, her life and work are more important than you.  So, don't waste your time. Go out with other women.

Anonymous · Answer

This is an epidemic with many women today my friend. They say they're interested, they may even truly believe they're interested. But when the rubber meets the road what the really mean is they want you to fulfill the fantasy they have in mind. You're never really going to have a relationship with her because it's too one sided. Relationships take the participation of two. So she's down to continue as long as you want to carry the full load of keeping it going or until some guy that comes along that provides a better fantasy for her.

This will likely never improve dude. Sorry I wish I had better news for you.

DarkWinterNights · Answer

It’s hard to tell from a short paragraph to know for sure, but she sounds like a career professional. You’ll probably always be competing for her time. If you aren’t in a hurry and really like her you can test the waters for awhile, just be careful about becoming too emotionally invested.

KrakenAttackin · Answer

It means she is waiting to see if a better option comes up. Do not tolerate this.

ProbablyClueless · Answer

Mixed signals means "you're kinda cool, but I don't feel enough urgency to make you a priority over other things in my life."

Don't hold your breath, my friend. Don't burn the bridge, just start talking with other women.

Yannishka · Answer

It can mean two things. She either is bad at getting her message across and sucks at flirting. Or she is playing games and a waste of time.

serious_miss419 · Answer

Most women don’t have time set aside for a stranger. We have other things on the go that need our attention and to talk to some guy just isn’t a priority in a day to lives.

WhitneySnow · Answer

She’s interested but she’s also really busy with work

JesseP1nk · Answer

Had same thing happen to me. I just dropped her. I dont have time for silly games. Figure your shit out!

jeffend888 · Answer

Zero interest in you and she's waiting for you to eventually give up.  So, give up.

KingHalo · Answer

Ghost her if a girl really likes she won't make excuses, she'll move mountains for you trust on this one king !

tomgrosse77 · Answer

She’s just playing one of the many games girls like to play when dating. Best just to move on.

Pinay_ako · Answer

I say NEXT!

Anonymous · Answer

Because her name is Susan

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