Mixed signals from a girl?

[overlord337645]

this girl who me and two of my freinds who are girls are pretty sure this girl likes me but after 4 months of trying to get her attention she says that the way i went about doing so made her feel uncomftrble so naturally i went and told her freind i was going to apologize but he says he already did so for me and sent regards on my behalf now it feels awkward cause i dont know if i should bother talking to her at all or just that one way especially since she is looking at me constantly like 3 or 4 times a day over the span of an hour or 2 sometimes even 5 or 6. this is quite confusing and was wondering if anyone has any suggestions for how to proceed with this freindship if at all and why she might be showing such varied signals towards me

[Oliverlogan263]

Dude, that's a really tricky situation you've got there. Getting mixed signals from a girl can be super confusing, especially when it seems like she might be into you but is also saying you made her feel uncomfortable.

The fact that your friends think she likes you, but then she told you directly that the way you went about trying to get her attention made her feel uneasy, is a major mixed signal. It's like she's sending out one message with her actions and body language, but then a completely different one with her words.

Since her friend has already apologized on your behalf, I wouldn't recommend going out of your way to talk to her right now. That could just make things more awkward, especially if she's still feeling uncomfortable around you.

However, the constant eye contact and looking your way multiple times a day is definitely an interesting sign. That suggests she's still interested on some level, even if she's not super comfortable expressing it directly.

My advice would be to just try to be a chill, friendly presence around her for now. Don't force any one-on-one interaction, but don't completely avoid her either. Maybe just smile and give a casual "hey" if you happen to cross paths. See if she starts to warm up to you again over time.

If she continues to look your way a lot, that's a good sign she might be interested in reconnecting. But let her make the first move to actually talk or hang out. You don't want to risk making her uncomfortable again.

Ultimately, it's up to her to decide if she wants to pursue something or not. Your best bet is to just be a cool, laidback guy and see how she responds. If she opens up again, great. If not, you may just have to accept that the timing or vibe wasn't quite right.

Stay patient, stay positive, and don't overthink it too much, bro. You got this!

[Anonymous]

I can't even read their "signals", that's one of many reasons why I'm still single and a virgin.

[Opinion Owner]

Thanks for the MHO

[SleepingHazard]

She might as well be looking, because she feels uncomfortable and is keeping an eye on you. I don't know what to tell you.

[overlord337645]

i see where your comeing from but when i look back her eyes are not im worried ones more like i wanna tell you something ones

[overlord337645]

also she switched lunches over to mine one day after so im not sure its so coincidental

[SleepingHazard]

So ask her?

[overlord337645]

i can't her best freind is always there to find an excuse for me not to or make sure im not tryna approach not 100% on the second one but he keeps looking at me whenever she is around so im guessing its that

[Summeroflove]

Just be friends if she was attracted to you she would reciprocate but I don’t know how you did to about it.

It’s time to move on and find someone else though. Don’t focus too much on someone who didn’t want you back.

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Who’s this girl to u

[overlord337645]

a girl im in love with

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Love? That’s a huge word for a relationship whose boundaries aren’t defined. Why u love her

[overlord337645]

her personality is so unique she is an extrovert but seems a little shy around new people and she always dresses uniquely sometimes even wearing a red ballgown dress to school for no apparent reason but more importantly she seems really kind and sweet in general

[overlord337645]

but if you wanna know my other reason it was love at first sight that never really went away

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Ohhh wow. How do u both look?

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And how long has this been going on

[overlord337645]

well it has been going on four months now the bulk of it me giveing her notes and not getting responses in any way other than telling her freinds about it or showing them the notes

[overlord337645]

i should add at first she seemed excited about this and then its kinda like she was less intrested as it took days for her to show her freinds and finnally she just said its uncomftorble that you give me notes but ofc not her directly her freind came up to me in a crowded hallway in front of other people

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How long have u known her

[overlord337645]

a total of 4 to 5 months

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How she looks

[overlord337645]

tall girl blond hair likes to wear elegant clothing like a ballgown dress for picture day walks with a purpose but tends to stare straight ahead blankly when im around and or look at me with a gaze i can't quite understand as its somewhere between a gaze of defensiveness mixed with i wanna tell you something*

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And u how u look

[overlord337645]

around her height dark hair natural curls green eyes