I asked him on a 5th date and he hasn’t replied, what should I do?

[Anonymous]

We’ve been on 4 fantastic dates, we get on really well! I haven’t seen him in 4 weeks as I was away on vacation. We’ve chatted since I came home. I asked to see him again but he hasn’t replied in 2 days.

[OlderAndWiser]

There are some possible explanations that reflect adversely on your potential future with this guy, and there are other possible reasons that are insignificant. Have you spoken to him at all since you returned from vacation? Did you stay in touch with him while you were on vacation? Was it all texting/DMs or did you call and talk to him?

[Asker]

We stayed in touch nearly everyday, sometimes he didn’t reply for a few days. We have talked since I came home. I was home 4 days then asked him on another date.

[OlderAndWiser]

Does "talking" mean DMs or actual conversations on the phone?

[Asker]

Just texting

[Wonderingguyy]

Give him a couple more days to see if he replies. If he doesn’t, I’d say he’s not interested. Don’t bother touching base with him

[Asker]

If he doesn’t reply I will think he slept interest, but this is where it’s confusing to me. How can everything change so quickly in a week.

[Asker]

*he lost interest

[Wonderingguyy]

Well maybe the idea of a relationship suddenly scares him, that often happens with guys unfortunately. They chicken out if they think things could get serious

[Yannishka]

All you can do is wait.

[Asker]

How long should I wait?

[Yannishka]

I don't know. Every person has a different life and life itself is unpredictable.
You already have 4 dates. Goodjob! It means that way of communicating worked for the two of you. Just wait it out. Maybe something happened.