Why women are so insecure when it comes to men's dating standards?

[Vegasrunner]

[ProbablyClueless]

This might get downvoted or even reported, but I feel like it needs to said because I know it's true; you would be amazed at how much of what women do is centered around being attractive to men.

A lot of women make being attractive to men their hobby in life, for example. What's at the center of the feminist messaging about being a boss career babe? Being the kind of woman men respect, and usually also super hot. What's makeup about? Finding creative ways to use products to make women more visually enticing. Clothing, etc...

The list goes on and on. And that's ignoring the really blatant examples of female liberation like OnlyFans and Instagram, which almost entirely depend on women enticing men to make a living.

Women do shit to appeal to men CONSTANTLY. They do so much more to appeal to us than we do to them.

So when men say things to up the standards, women who are already living so much of their lives focused on men, understandably feel like they're being slapped in the face.

Imagine putting in all that work, only to find out that the people you did it for don't think you're good enough... yeah... that shit would suck.

[Vegasrunner]

@ProbablyClueless That's a really insightful reply. You really bring up some solid points.

[ProbablyClueless]

I'm glad you found my remarks helpful! I think it's important for guys to have this stuff spelled out sometimes because we spend so much time listening to the words women say that we forget to listen to the story being told.

[Vegasrunner]

@ProbablyClueless Agreed. I always say never judge a women by her words judge her by her actions.

[DextroShade]

They don't meet the standards so they see it as a guy preemptively rejecting them and, as women do not handle rejection well, they lash out with the shame, insults, and guilt. It's not really any different from a toddler throwing a tantrum.

[Vegasrunner]

@DextroShade Agreed.

[Anonymous]

Because despite feminism society still tells women as whole thier worth is determined by men that want her

[BarryLiverstone]

What do you mean? Every guy has diff standards

[Vegasrunner]

@BarryLiverstone If those standards don't fall in line w/ female standards they will he criticized. For instance if a man say he doesn't date
- old women
- fat women
- permiscuios women
He's going to he hit w/ shaming language.

[BarryLiverstone]

As he should be

[Vegasrunner]

@BarryLiverstone So then why are women so insecure about this?

[BarryLiverstone]

Many girls are insecure as they compare to other girls and don’t feel they measure up. They want attention from certain guys and don’t get it

[Vegasrunner]

@BarryLiverstone Yea, I realize that. I mean why do they become insecure over a man having standards, meaning if a man doesn't want to date a fat or permiscuios women they get all shocked.

[BarryLiverstone]

They are not shocked at all. They understand that guys want to date healthy people.

[BarryLiverstone]

How many times irl have you had women act shocked that you don’t want to date an obese person?

[Vegasrunner]

@BarryLiverstone There's literally 10's of thousands of hours of content of women shaming men for not wanting to date permiscuios women, wanting to date younger women etc. You yourself even said "as they should be" That doesn't even include the thousands of comments on anonymous forms like this. Even you conviently omitted the permiscuios amd fat part and are attempting to pretend as of I mentioned anything about"health". Which is an indirect way to avoid answering why women are insecure when men don't date "fat" women.

[Vegasrunner]

@BarryLiverstone That's a good point, however I don't ever remember being on a date telling a girl what type of women I don't date