I feel like I can’t talk to guys. ?

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i don’t know how to flirt at all, I’m great witg them as friends but once there’s romance involved you can forget about me.  i ruin it completely, I stop functioning and act weird. And if I like someone ir think they are cute I just run away. When I’m with someone I bully them basically 😂 (not that much but definitely no romantic energy)  Why am I like this? This makes so many men escape because you know their ego and all is there a way to practice being more gentle and romantic?

Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

This is a tough question because only you can change the way you are , but from what I read from your post , it sounds to me you lack self esteem within yourself which is causing you to be your own worst enemy , when you become your own worst enemy by bashing yourself , making yourself feel like you aren’t good enough , nothing is ever going to be good enough in your mind , you feel like nobody would want you or you feel like you are too good for somebody , so in a sense you tend to assume the worst case scenarios. The best advice I can give you is focus on yourself , understand that you are a beautiful person , don’t compare yourself to others , comparing yourself will damage you , just be yourself , and don’t worry about what others think , if you are attracted to a guy , just walk up to him and say Hi , it’s nice to meet you , introduce yourself , don’t worry about whether he is going to deny you or not , and don’t worry about if other people are staring at you or laughing , they should automatically mean nothing to you because honestly they are nothing to you. So just talk to him like you would talk to your friends , treat him the way you want to be treated , if he chooses to walk away from you , oh well at least you tried. We aren’t going to get everyone we are attracted to or that we are interested in , but when you be yourself and treat people the same way you want to be treated , your chances of getting that person increases because most people in general are shy and lack confidence and self esteem within themselves , most people assume the worst case scenerios and that’s when they start to look weird and creepy. I can’t speak for all men but most of us men loves when a girl shows interest in us cuz a girl knows what she wants , and a girl like that turns us the fuck on , when a girl chooses us over all the other guys we instantly choose her if we find her attractive Al that has a good heart , Always remember we don’t walk around with signs flashing aboove our heads saying what we are into , or what our current relationship status is , we are all just people , we all pretty much eat the same and shit the same , so no one is better then anyone , we are all imperfect people , so it’s better to take the chance over not taking the chance at all , I know it sounds easier said then done , but ask yourself , what do you really have to lose? Yes it sucks to be denied but it’s better to have an answer then no answer at all , and more than likely you will probably never see that person again , so it’s best to take that chance while it’s right on front of your face

ohsheeT · Accepted Answer

Yes so DM me and I can show you where to practice this the other thing is I can tell you something that I used to go through

When I was in grade school or high School things like this would happen to me.

In grade school there is always these two girls who would yell across the complex Steve and they would wave come here

Sometimes I would pretend not to hear them sometimes they were right in front of my face and I used to hate when this happened

Because the moment we started walking towards each other I would start getting all hot and sweaty my mouth would be getting dry we would stop right in front of each other and start talking

All of a sudden I would get this weird sensation rushing through my body as if I was getting turned on and I just wanted to run my face return beat red I'd start sweating

But years down the road I started talking with this lady and she asked me how long I've been an empath for
I told her I didn't even know what that was

She asked me a series of questions

And I couldn't believe that she knew exactly what I felt when I would tell her yes to one of the questions but we spent like 3 hours talking and I mean she had me dialed in like would not believe

But I started paying attention to everything and she was 100% right on everything that was going on so I would acknowledge it when something would happen and my whole life started to change and I would watch it myself start happening through other people so yeah if you want some help or find out if you're an empath I guess first

Or I can help you with that maybe and then like I said it's very beginning if you want to learn how to flirt and not be a bully I know why you're being a bully but I can show you how not to be and why you're being a bully that's the whole key

RealMarek · Answer

If you have trouble flirting verbally, you can always use body language that shows interest, like twirling your hair while you look at him, leaning in a little bit toward him, or even briefly touch his arm while you’re talking with him. After that last one the guy will know you’re into him unless he’s clueless.

Pacquet · Answer

I’m constantly figuring out how to flirt but what I realized is that flirting is just playing with the idea that you like them. Flirting looks different for everyone but you’ll know you’re doing it when it feels like you have an inside joke with your crush. If you’re a woman you don’t have to do much just take a deep breath and talk to that dude.

serious · Answer

See if this helps

djmzes · Answer

Nobody told you to flirt and nobody ask you to do so. Be urself and just because everyone is doing does not mean you should. Most of the time, the m is mass is silent.

DarkWinterNights · Answer

Do you have males friends you can practice with? Some people are born with it, but introverts need to hone the skill. I think public speaking is similar, so the same tips and tricks should apply.

ProbablyClueless · Answer

Lmao their ego isn't what's making them go away; it's the fact you're being unpleasant with them. That's just basic self-respect.

Anyway, the reason you can't talk to guys you like, like many other women, boils down to insecurity.

LiamJHayden · Answer

You're just nervous. You need to find a guy who understands this.

Anonymous · Answer

Weird question because girls don't really need to know or learn how to talk to guys because guys approach girls, girls don't approach guys and plus it's guys that have to be the ones to spark and ignite the attraction

ericclayton · Answer

It's hard to try to relate to the opposite sex, but remember, they're only people with insecurities, no matter how attractive you think they are.

BarryLiverstone · Answer

Just keep getting experience talking to people. Can’t be solved overnight. What makes you think they run away?

lloull34 · Answer

You reminded me of myself I need an answer to that too tbh

Mybeachlife8888 · Answer

Dm me….. I feel like I’m the perfect person to help you fix this problem!

BigDog1989 · Answer

It's more what you're doing with your body, than what you're saying. Look up "body signals" and flirting

Lokiion · Answer

Yeah anyways dm so I can help you out more and find the root problem and find the best way to fix it

Danny_dan92 · Answer

Work on it. I once couldn’t talk to girls. Practice makes perfect

007kingifrit · Answer

instead of talking, try putting your hand on him, doesn't matter where men respond to touch

Anonymous · Answer

You're a feminist. So you get your career and no man cause you don't need one.

Anonymous · Answer

That's ok. You're allowed to stay single. 👍

lightbulb27 · Answer

Fear of intimacy because of? Sensitive person?

Ironic_Method · Answer

Lol all these thirsty men in here

Anonymous · Answer

You need a hug 🫂

MaxUsefull · Answer

yeah just run away from feminism

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