Why dont guys talk to me? What am I missing?

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Hi, I am looking for genuine answers by the way!

I am a F 18, who lives in a predominantly white area a bit outside city limits. I go to college in the city the last 4 terms, I have noticed during my time in middle, high school, my time at college and even at events such as church when I will just occasionally attend, no guys ever talk to me, even ask my name, or even seem to look my direction. Additionally, I am not asking for large attention by any means, just yk a simple "hello, what your name?" and a conversation would be well appreciated. My friends who are white also notice this, but they do not understand why this happens either. Even in the city area where its more diverse where I attend college no one says a word to me except my 1-2 female classmates lol. I usually put a lot into how I dress, noting too revealing, fairly nice and put together well, including makeup and boots/heels. (I don't wear anything that makes me come off as unnaproachable tho) I keep a kind, yet confident bubbly demeanor; and I don't have resting bitch face or anything like that haha. I know I am not super-model pretty neither repulsive ugly, somewhere humbly in the middle I'd say. (For context I am 5 foot 7, 115 pounds, skinny/slim, slight tanned skin, dark black hair, Asian-white-brown mix, good hygeine) And yes I am not extremely introverted and do NOT only keep to myself, as I am very active in my community, I do volunteer work for disabled people, I volunteer playing piano at hospitals, I make free handcrafted coffee at churches and small events, compete riding horses, part of a competing organization (100% female), small business where I make affordable treats, clubs, honors student, and maintain my academic standing. Do you think its because of my race and demographics? Is it something else? Is it how I carry myself? I would like to start dating, but it just seems a bit hopeless tbh...

I will answer questions and am open to hearing your thoughts/help.

Staximus · Accepted Answer

If no guys are talking to you, it's usually because you are acting like you do not want to talk to them or have no interest in talking to them. Either that or you are too good looking and they are intimidated. I said this a million times here- The ugliest girl at my high school had boyfriends for all 4 years of high school. Looks are definitely not the issue, it probably has to do with how you interact with people.

ohsheeT · Accepted Answer

Well to be honest. You sound like someone I would date. I mean you painted a pretty good picture of yourself.. and being real wanting to figure it out

I read people pretty well and nothing you said makes me feel any red flags from you

It was actually all good things I think you even down played your self in a couple areas

So om thinking the same as you, what am I missing

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

They're just not interested and lack of attraction. All you listed was your resume here. So why should they talk to you? Are you fun? Are you funny? Are you pretty? They just don't see it. So I'd focus on college.

DryGermanGuy · Answer

If you stand out in a majority-white environment as you wrote, you have to put in the effort and actively approach.

jahaims · Answer

It has to be your "vibe"/demeanor. I doubt it has anything to do with your race. Try to take the initiative and make contact with people instead of waiting.

BarryLiverstone · Answer

You mentioned having friends so there are guys who talk to you. Are you asking about new guys talking to you while you are on the college campus?

Yohenis · Answer

Am assuming you're a person of "colour" if you're then it's not a big deal start initiating conversation from your side?

eagle1951 · Answer

maybe it's the way you act or look, I know if i see someone I check to see how the act or handle themselves around others

Anonymous · Answer

How big are your tits?

Anonymous · Answer

Are you white?

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