What is currently holding you back in the dating world?

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Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

Selfish people that don’t know how to be in a committed relationship, that don’t know how to resist temptations , that can’t stay loyal and faithful, that don’t know how to remove selfishness , Most people in general say they want to find true love and to settle down with just one person , but when they receive that , they no longer want it , unless things go their way. Most people can’t admit that they are wrong , it’s always someone else’s fault , a cheater will always blame someone else for their own selfish actions they don’t point the finger at themselves first. Me personally isn’t going to stay committed to a girl that can’t stay committed to me period , why I no longer jump into committed relationships with girls ‘ until I know for sure she is in it for the long haul and is choosing us over everyone else , when I find a girl that can do that , I will do the same for her but sadly these days it’s so hard to find because most people in general are selfish people that only truly care about themselves I have been on both sides of the spectrum , so for me to trust a girl completely , she has to give back the same that I am giving to her or it won’t work period. For any relationship to last and to survive both partner have to make each other their top priority over everyone , if you can’t do that for your partner, they will not be able to do that for you. Understand you can’t always be right and your partner is wrong , Most relationships fail because most people can not remove selfishness for each other , it’s their way or no way

abc3643 · Accepted Answer

Well, I am married, but assuming I am not...

I just wouldn't date.

It's not that I am being held back by myself - it's just that I would have moved past that phase of life. I am at the point where I want to be happy just being me and no one else can help me with that.

A woman would just be a constraint on my freedom draining my time, energy, money, and will to live just to help her get what she wants? And what do __I__ get out of it? Nothing. Not a single fucking thing. Sex is out and, if I wanted to sleep with a woman, I might be able to do an friends with benefits on rare occasions, but, why bother?

>>> Freedom is underrated and relationships compromise freedom.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I have no money and no car and my family is racist so it definitely lower the percentage of people I can go out with. They don't even like White people with curls in their hairs cause they say it look "not White enough"

If the end of my hair get waves a bit they say to me to go straighten it because I look like an Arab to them if I let it stay natural

Lack of chance to me, majority of guys I had a crush on were POC no dating material unless I want to get insulted and throw in the street.

sheenagwapa · Accepted Answer

money... i simply cannot move without money but other thing is agw i have been in a long term relationship and so i'm no longer that interested on meetinb a lot of people because i'm simply old. i think it's different with men but as q frmale i just don't feel fooling aroynd. well i've always been the serious goodie2 type so i guess some things just never change

scentoflavender · Answer

Myself. I find myself wanting a relationship at times. I'll meet someone. Hit it off. He'll be a genuinely good man. But it starts with social obligations interfering with what I want to do in the moment. It leads to annoyance. Which is never good. I guess I'm just content with being on my own. If that makes sense

Static_In_The_Attic · Answer

As for me I’m single & accepting applications & as of the moment I’m single because I simply choose to be. On the flip side if I happen to meet a lovely lady & magic happens I’ll welcome a relationship all the way. I’m an offline dater & I have tried online dating before & if truth be told the dating pool was a cesspool & a freak show as well.

ReynoldsPhilip240 · Answer

It's a mixture of lack of confidence and lack of money. I have an extensive history of anxiety and depression that makes it hard to socialize or to regularly maintain relationships outside of close acquaintances and relatives.

On top of that I simply don't have the money to spend on dating, not that money is absolutely necessary, but I would feel like a bad boyfriend if I couldn't take my dates out to dinner.

I'm not the type of person to blame others for my problems because in reality, other than economic issues, my problems are my own fault when it comes to dating and it would be incredibly unfair to blame women for that.

Anonymous · Answer

In 2016 I got rejected by a single mom, she was my neighbor. It's not that she rejected me, but how she desperately tried to sugar coat it. Saying I dont have children of my own, so she doesn't want to take that chance aesy from me. The fact that she doesn't want anymore kids is one of the many reasons that made her more of the perfect candidate. No woman decides on my behalf what I want or feel towards others. They chooshe who they are friends or who they date but not what others want.

I have been rejected by all the ones I liked, so that rejection completely broke me to the point that I can ask anyone out on a date. One more rejection could lead to me killing myself. My entire dating life has been trying to figure out what I have to do today to get accepted tomorrow by a pretty girl. Key word is pretty, because tjat is the only thing tjat sexually turns me on.

andreasderjuengere · Answer

What's holding me back:

#1 My favourite website has a 10 minutes limit between messages, unless you're silly enough to ''subscribe'' and pay

#2 My favourite website already has provided me with a really nice date partner that leaves no wishes unfulfilled :D

#3 - thus... at my age I could not handle additional dating...

Anonymous · Answer

i had no experience with men (single mom household, all-girls school,) and so when i went to a mixed school, i was trusting and naive. i had many bad experiences, thus leading me to repress all romantic feelings and to push everyone i liked romantically away, in manners that were often difficult for both parties.

i am far too insecure to even consider a relationship, so dating is out of the question. i'm much safer being lonely.

dragoblack · Answer

I honestly don't know aside from, i have absolutely no interest in hookups and that's how most people get into relationships around where i live. Weirdly enough not a lot of women find me attractive, and everyone i do find attractive turns out to be in a relationship or just not interested in men. So... absolutely horrible luck when it comes to romance.

007kingifrit · Answer

i accidentally clicked the wrong option but i can't change it.

anyway the dating world is filled with so many arrogant stupid women who think they're all 10/10 in value, like this girl i know is 35, in therapy, yells and ends any conversation where you disagree with her, is on SSRI so has no sex drive. yet she still thinks she's worth SO MUCH

Anonymous · Answer

That I'm in the U. S., and in an a part of the country where there are virtually zero immigrants... and I'll be in this region for another 6 mos. It's not just dating... I don't want anything to do with these people at all. I don't trust them at all, and their culture is completely self destructive.

nastyb · Answer

dating is one of those things where people complain all day about but never give up on. if you're having so much trouble for so long, why not just give up?

rachel776 · Answer

my boyfriend probably doesn't want me out in the dating world 🤷‍♀️

Anonymous · Answer

When you put it like that I wonder if dating seems difficult mostly because no one can be bothered to do it, perhaps for all the analysis its no more complicated than that.

Sugar100 · Answer

Men don’t like me so I don’t want be rejected by men again so I have no confidence try date men. It’s impossible get a boyfriend.

Miah05 · Answer

I don't want to date. Dating is boring

Robertjo16 · Answer

Dude i lay in the middle of roads like that all the time! Is he singing "Hit Me With Your Best Shot " too?

Nikki1989 · Answer

Nothing ever held me back, it was all too easy.

Andres77 · Answer

Women are psychotic and very few are worth it. There are a few gems, without a doubt. But most women, like most men, are shyte.

Redstang88 · Answer

Growing lack of interest in the bullshit game that is dating, and a lack of appealing options

Fireguy17 · Answer

My wife prefers that I don't date. I tend to agree with her.

S_Rose · Answer

Time and guy close to me does not like my look.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

Haven't found the type of woman I'm looking for unless you count outside the US.

Jersey2 · Answer

Bitterness. My wife would be pretty bitter if I was in the dating world.

AlbantheGreat · Answer

Traumas I got from my last break up. Since then, I have deep trust issues towards women on a romantic level.

DummyThiccFeraligatr · Answer

1) I'm autistic. 2) I don't care about having nice things. 3) Most western women are unrealistic in their expectations.

Unit1 · Answer

Money problems and lack of love from the opposite sex.

magiusX26 · Answer

unwilling to date as there us none worthy in existance

genericname85 · Answer

lack of options that i can find a genuine interest in.

scooogy · Answer

I am in love, but I wanted to find a job first. While my ex crush who used to turn me down seems to try and act like she never did.

OddBeMe · Answer

My abs are just so tight right now. (What?) the second from the right is twitching. It needs sustenance

Anonymous · Answer

I’m surely not holding back. More like not getting pulled in. I’m always busy on the go taking care of my responsibilities. Squeezing in time for strangers doesn’t appeal to me

Anahiluv · Answer

I wanna wait until I can truly find someone I could trust

Anonymous · Answer

Most women I date have little to nothing to offer except physical connection.

Jmmmfi4 · Answer

The realization that no girl would be interested in me

Anonymous · Answer

My health, my lack of money, my working hours and plenty more reasons

Anonymous · Answer

Why is physical unattractiveness not on there?

zato1abuser · Answer

My non-existing will to live

bobthe1st · Answer

Girls want money, the end.

aquamarine321 · Answer

Finding that compatible mate is the main issue

WhiteBoyChill · Answer

Hardly any good women to be found

whistlingwh0res · Answer

I have no sex drive

slatyb · Answer

Being married.

Danny_dan92 · Answer

Social norms

REX_JSWL · Answer

I am married

DreamLife7 · Answer

Nothing lol

msc545 · Answer

Women

Engin12 · Answer

nothing

Ata_can · Answer

I don't know

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