Men, do you relate: Finding people online is hot garbage because 9 times out of 10 they are catfish?

[Juxtapose]

Finding people online is hot garbage because 9 times out of 10 they are catfish looking for your money.

As a bisexual guy I notice a lot more masculine looking gay guys don't want money while the feminine gay guys act like women and want money.

Why are so many feminine people online (I'm not saying all of them so lay off mods) such bums?

"I need a commitment fee."

"Please help me pay for my bills! Are you just going to let me starve like a bad boyfriend?"

Etc. Get on welfare if it's so bad for you lol.

[Реrverted_Сreeр]

Because fire does the work. Water is used to put out fire. These are two elements representing the genders in alchemy. One could conclude this, that to be the best version of yourself, one must get trannified like a politician, embodying both genders.

How is money made? Through hard work. But, of course everyone will say they always work hard. Still some people do more work than others. I think the amount and difficulty of work someone is willing to do depends on the hormone testosterone. Not only does it make your muscles stronger allowing you to perform physically demanding work while perceiving less difficulty in it, when testosterone is high you're mentally stronger as well, less likely to give up.

You see, testosterone is masculinity, and without it one cannot "make" money, femininity can only convince others to give momey willingly, such as for through webcam modeling. That's why femininity focuses so much on appearance and showing off what @BoobSlayer appreciates, females have the special ability to lactate and nourish babies, a significant amount of female's work goes into this task which men aren't capable of, and babies never pay them money!!!

You speak of feminine men rather then women, there is only one suggestion I would give them. Listen to this daily:

https://www.youtube.com/embed/dG5cZzbKvW0

Baby @BoobSlayer never paid money to slay boobs as a child

[Jersey2]

I don't know what the hell you said but its hysterical. :D

[DubiousIntentions]

You will find that on free sites like PlentyofFish or OKCupid. They have no money to lose by catfishing. On pay sites, like Match. com, you may have some better results, though you can't be guaranteed of anything online. However, if you are looking for perfection you won't find it on a dating site, especially a hot woman because they are usually prostitutes looking for a quick buck, or they are already spoken for or kooks.

[Sweetsurprize]

True, but weirdly enough, my brother met his wife on OkCupid. He was one of the rare lucky ones! Met his ex at the same place. I guess the lesson was don't give up!

[D_Bone_Steak]

Your viewpoint is interesting to me because I'm straight. All I can tell you is these dudes won't take "no" for an answer. Like they'll keep yammering on like they're going to talk me into it. Here is where my viewpoint coincides with yours... they (the masculine dudes AKA they're buff like me) are interested in sex.

When it comes to anything else including my target audience (women), sex seems to be the last thing on their brain. Obviously, I wish it wasn't that way, but it is what it is. The few women who do bring up sex are literally just looking for customers for their chosen profession... which is anything from onlyfans to being a straight-up hooker.

For some reason, these people give a list of demands and don't even say a word about what they have to offer (unless they're in the sex trade)... if that... because a lot of them don't say anything at all. There are exceptions here and there, but exceptions don't make the rule. For instance... she says she's just looking for friends... underwear and tiddy pictures. Just friends... right. lolz

[BoopBoopBeep]

I don't do online dates. I don't have enough time between my other obligations to attend to the women in real life that I meet. I had three women invite me to their running groups after the race today. I told them my races were already scheduled through the end of September, and it's pretty much every Saturday and Sunday, with three weekends adding a night race to the mix, and with the end of the fiscal year at work, I am burning the candle at both ends and I'm not sure if I'll be here in October at all. We've tentatively put in a night race the third weekend of the month and one gets up early too so we'll doing a 5k together on the second Saturday that I have a morning 10k later on, the third one I'm still trying to figure out when that is. I guess if my job didn't suck I'd have more white space on the calendar but what little I have is not going to be used for online games.

My rescue kittens can be very demanding, and if they're feeling lonely/needy then all bets are off of course.

[OlderAndWiser]

Like @AviatorTom, I have used dating sites with great success. In the last 16 years, I have had four good long term relationships with women I initially met online. I am not currently using dating sites because I am engaged to the lady I met on zoosk and we will be getting married on April 27. Many people are negative about online dating but I think most of them simply do not go about it in the best way and the results speak for themselves. That doesn't mean there is something wrong with online dating.

[AviatorTom]

My experience is totally different. After my divorce, I tried out two different online dating sites. I met interesting women on each one, and dated a few. I don't recall any catfish.; they were all very honest and open, other than lying a bit about their age... what woman doesn't lie about her age?

[LiamJHayden]

I gave up on online dating when my typical matches were like these

[NYCQuestions1976]

That first one HAD to be exaggerating/joking. lol

[Juxtapose]

You can filter out single moms.

[NYCQuestions1976]

I'm a single parent myself, so I'd be a hypocrite if I did that. However I don't hold it against anyone filtering out single parents if they don't have any kids themselves.

[LiamJHayden]

The point is that, for me, online was a wasteland of high maintenance women with absurd expectations. I do much better in person.

[PrettyCrumblBb]

This is actually funny 🤣

[NYCQuestions1976]

@LiamJHayden Well at least you weren't getting matched to Bots. lol

[LiamJHayden]

@NYCQuestions1976 I might have been. I did not hang around for very long.

[BlissfullyCurSed]

Milf Magnet

[Avicenna]

I'm just waiting for the usual suspects to come to this thread and tell us that single mom of 12 with her hand out is better than a woman with no kids

[NYCQuestions1976]

@Avicenna You're not wrong, and I'm a single parent myself and I agree with you. However I still say that the first one was trying to be funny.

@LiamJHayden I wish I still had "in-person" as a consistent option. All of my friends are married. No single wingmen, unfortunately.

[Avicenna]

@NYCQuestions1976: You're probably right about that, but I don't doubt there are some horror stories on a smaller scale than that one.

[NYCQuestions1976]

@Avicenna Absolutely. lol

[Sasahara]

Yes. This is true, even on non-dating sites. There is a reason "Internet is were men are men, women are also men and kids are feds" is a saying. I have read somewere about a guy pretending to be a woman to join a wmen only "safe-space" complain that that place turned out to be just men and troons because the actual women never joined

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

If I was to meet a Lady online, she would be required to go through a background check. And of course I would do the same for myself.

[shortster]

Plus there are a number of dating apps that are scams too. They hire people to talk to you; but then charge you for every message you send. Typically they use a third party contractor to directly hire them; so they can say they aren't scamming people to the people who moderate such apps.

[TrueConfection]

A "commitment fee"? 😂😂😂

I'm going to try that line on my husband.

[Juxtapose]

If he has had any online presence then he will probably have a lot of stories to tell you.

[TrueConfection]

I certainly hope not!

[NYCQuestions1976]

I get matched with women in the Eastern Hemisphere and/or Southern Hemisphere. Or straight-up Bots. lol

[exitseven]

I have never used on line dating but I imagine most are using a 20 year old picture of themselves or maybe a picture off the internet

[ChiTown33]

I've never seen this. But then again I'm pretty good at picking up catfish vibes. 90% of the people online are NOT who they pretend to be. So I assume almost everyone is lying to me AT LEAST half the time, because it's a pretty safe bet.

[RingOfFire]

Last time I did a date with someone I met online I found out she had 3 kids each with a different father. I sympathize with her but it's a DOA situation for me. Wish I knew before I took her on the date. Next!

[jshm2]

Seems more like you're fishing in muck, but expecting to catch tuna.

Get your head together, sunny.

[annabananna]

With filters we can look very different in person. Are you typically able to tell if a photo has a filter on it?

[Juxtapose]

Bumble lets you verify pictures.

[Lynx122]

I haven't had this problem I just cut people off when I get bad vibes like that.

[Ironic_Method]

I mean... it's pretty easy to tell if someone is a catfish or not.

And I found my wife online and a few gfs so... no, can't relate.

[wishiwasfiction]

Only one of the catfish pics in the thumbnail was beautiful

[CoolCatMar1]

Not all "attractive" women on the internet are

💫 Catfish 💫

[PrettyCrumblBb]

Not a man. Just here to read the comments.

[Juxtapose]

You can comment all you like, I didn't restrict this question.

[BLP11520]

I have ran into many catfish, they all make the same mistakes and have a pattern of behavior

[BunBun369]

Most definitely on this website/app situation

[FreyaRed]

focus on inner values

[Fireguy17]

The bank of me is closed, so I would just move on.

[magiusX26]

not just online. just as much offline too.

[haana]

not a man. But that’s true tho !!

[DummyThiccFeraligatr]

Catfishes... or prostitutes / sugar babies.