Would you rather date someone who is sexy or smart?

Question

And you can't say both.

Brainsbeforebeauty · Accepted Answer

Seeing you said can’t say both😞: smart… don’t matter how sexy they are if they as dumb as a box of rocks😂…

there was a guy at my job that yeah, he was physically attractive, very buff 💪 but not someone I’d ever have dated cuz he was also slow af (and don’t mean physically)

WhereIsMyMind · Accepted Answer

Someone could be the sexiest person alive, but if their personality is lacking they soon lose their sexual appeal.

I'd rather be with someone who is smart, their interesting personality can make them more attractive physically.

Avicenna · Answer

I would generally prefer to date a smart woman

jennifer_bloom · Answer

Smart - even if he is ugly

normalice · Answer

I'm going to split this into two questions. A girl who is sexy or smart and aware of her limitations? Or a girl who is sexy or smart but thinks she is both?

For the first question I think a sexy girl. Intelligence is overrated. People have been telling me I'm smart all my life and the cumulative effect of that has been a job, that I do like, but is nonetheless alongside people who were not told that. It just hasn't make a difference. Having a girl I love to bang on just can't be substituted with a girl who can do her own taxes.

For the second question? Hm. I'm not sure. I think again a sexy girl. It's going to be annoying either way but her expectations will be easier to meet if they are realistic for her body but unrealistic for her mind rather than vice versa, I think- that is, if she thinks she's hot but isn't she'll expect to be banged upon and I won't really want to. But if she thinks she's smart but isn't she'll want to think she is engaging in intelligent conversation, and that's easier to fake as long as I've blown all my loads.

I suppose a bonus third variant to your question could be "what if she's both but doesn't know she is one or the other?" In that case i think I'd want her to not know how smart she is. Girls who are confident in their sexiness tend to be more interested in using it to its full extent, when the time comes. Whereas confidence in intelligence doesn't really get anyone anything.

mobiusforniner · Answer

A lot of women answer "smart" here.

A key distinction however, a woman's definition of "smart" carries with it more than just one form of practical intelligence. Smart means possessing a certain level of charisma. It is being quick to understand social cues and thus having high emotional intelligence. It is having a general well rounded knowledge in all things- from cooking a solid dinner to tuning a carburetor.

It's not the buck tooth coke bottle glasses wearing nerd with a pocket protector and his name printed on his underwear.

LiLee77E · Answer

Smart is sexy a lot of the time. It’s about the package. If he can’t or won't engage in intelligent conversations, he’s boring, just eye candy. Men like that are everywhere. A man who has his own thoughts, opinions, draws from his knowledge, intuition and life experience - that’s sexy!

Sweetsurprize · Answer

That's hard.

If you're sexy, you can be proud to have them as arm candy.

But if you're smart, it can take you places.

Maybe it would depend on what you are looking for in the moment. A short term fling or a long term thing. If you're just horny and like someone for superficial reasons, then well...

However, I have also seen people who are BOTH sexy as well as smart. So..

Miristheiss · Answer

Sexy.

I'm more interested in her being kind and sweet and warm and loving.

Her acing the SAT/ACT doesn't make me find her attractive. Being mature and interesting to talk to also doesn't mean she had to make straight A's in school.

Bricealan · Answer

I confess Coach, I have made some Major errors in making that choice. Had a blind date with a girl, ( we were both young) that looked a 'TINY" bit like Peter Sellers, (the wire rim glasses) Had a great date, and she was a 'joy! Dumb ass Bruce did not continue to go out with her, a major mistake. Brains over beauty anytime coach.

Brittanyroseee · Answer

Im sorry but both. I don’t date nor fuck guys im simply just not attracted to physically. No attraction, no chemistry. If im not attracted to someone i will not be interested in speaking with them. I hope it makes sense😂

provokeesmokee · Answer

Smart.  It's easier for a smart person to become sexy as well. Stupid is not something I can tolerate for long.

WolfBaneHunter78 · Answer

Smart - contributes more to my life.  Sexy - if I wanted to be bored to death & be stuck with some dimwit, I'd watch paint dry.

ShadowYamihiro · Answer

Definitely smart if i have to choose but being sexy or smart doesn't really tell me anything about their personality which is the most important, don't need someone arrogant who thinks they are above other people just cuz they are smarted than most or sexier either. True beauty is withing. Like i always say : looks capture attention but personality captures the heart.

Stella234 · Answer

I will go with the smart person coz it doesn't matter if he is attractive or not. The smart person can get through many life obstacle with his smartness and he will be very helpful and kind person. and with the sexy guy I will not date him coz beautiful things get more attraction from others but sometimes the values is very low. He thinks he earns the world coz he is attractive. And I dont like it that the person is attractive but has 0 manner, its a direct noo for me. Hope its helps , have a great day 😄❤️✨✨

BlackBeauty90 · Answer

Hmm... brains vs brawn.

Entertaining conversation, events, etc vs a slow minded imbecile with a mirror.

Seriously WHY is this a question. The only sort of person whose gonna go for sexy is looking for cheap sex and nothing of importance.

Anonymous · Answer

Smart to me or smart to her. Because it's like the word "independent". And most the time that doesn't really mean independent. They're typically just as needy as an avg. woman. It just typically means they're belligerent and have a hard time me getting along with people.

Of course I'd choose smart over sexy.

Nikki1989 · Answer

Smart, sexy alone will never do it for me, but smart always does.

ZackBan · Answer

Problem with a question like that is 99% of people will virtue signal and say smart but if you look at their track record it paints a different picture

Sour-rose · Answer

Sexy. Just because smart means they're probably smarter than me... so could kill me and make it look like a suicide :c sooo smartitude is fine... but smarter than me? Not a good flag.

MissusFluffyPants · Answer

Smart IS sexy as far as I’m concerned! Smart guys I know are witty and funny and you can have amazing conversations. Being just sexy would get boring really quickly

Potteplante · Answer

Smart - can't have a conversation with sexy.  So if the man on that picture is smart - I'd take him over someone I find sexy. (I'm not that into muscles - I like fluff)

Screenwriter · Answer

Smart is usually sexy. However, sexy is not always smart. I choose No.1.

A_Bell · Answer

Frankly, lack of sexual attraction is a deal breaker for a romantic relationship. It wouldn't matter how smart he was.

Unit1 · Answer

Sexy for me.

Smart is ehhh... the biggest threat it poverty and being smart does not prevent it unless you do swing trading for a living like hopefully I will do in the future. Which explains why I am not getting sex 😒😑😑😑😑😑😑😑😑😑😑😑😑😑

Jdodkfndosn · Answer

By choosing the the sexy one, how stupid are we talking about? And likewise, by choosing the smart one, how ugly would the other one be? If the trait we don't choose is assigned an average rating, then id definitely choose the sexy one.

Most guy have all been scared to talk to sexy one so they all went to average one thinking itd be easier, and they'd have less suitors. But I don't 10/10 sexy so I'll donate 2 of those to the first chick on her knees.

electromagnetic · Answer

So Miami or Washington?  Off to live in Miami 😆

Anonymous · Answer

Kk well Im a sapiosexual and find that an intellectual conversation to be the biggest turn on.

But, if we're going based on stereotypical sexiness: muscles, charisma, confidence, I would typically lean towards that, because Im more shy and quiet, and find the opposite, extroverted/charismatic guys to be sexy.

Anonymous · Answer

I'll pick the one who is a genuinely good person and loves me. It's ok if he's smart and ugly or hot and dumb as bricks, just don't be a mean or cruel person honestly. In a real situation I look for more things than looks or intelligence but since there is no choice this is what I choose.

sheikalana · Answer

Smart. Although I appreciate both I prefer to have long and deep conversations with smart people.

loveslongnails · Answer

I'd rather date a smart woman, because smart IS sexy.

Lokiion · Answer

well it depends how they look if they smart if they like ugly then no if the mid or higher then sure but if she sexy but not like flat out dumb then imma take that one over the smart one

Z1pTD · Answer

Smart lol because even if someone is sexy you'll get used to them and forget they're sexy

Also it's interesting how some people connect intelligence to personality. There are a ton of people who aren't very smart who have amazing personalities.

XXblack88 · Answer

Probably smart. looking sexy goes once your old.

Sonorous · Answer

Sexy. Tf. I don't gotta have deep intellectual conversations the mofos. They're just there to help me propagate. And despite what would be best for humanity, I'm shallow af & am really only turned on by a beautiful exterior.

sue me

Staximus · Answer

Smart, because stupid people can you into a lot of trouble and problems that you would rather avoid

FunkyMonkee · Answer

It'd be better than dating someone that was ugly or stupid!

Rei13 · Answer

I mean the obvious answer is both but if it can only be one it would depend. If it was long term, smart, if it was extremely short term might go for hot.

charrissanextdoor · Answer

Smart - hands down 👏🏼 I wouldn’t want to date a rock that has nothing going for them aside from their looks because physical appearance will likely change with age- beauty fades.

DreamLife7 · Answer

Both 😩 cillian murphy

krin_m · Answer

Always smart! Smartness itself is sexy to me!

BarryLiverstone · Answer

Sexy. Because if I am not attracted then she can be a genius with no chemistry

Kayla45 · Answer

Smart, because a smart person will know how to look good regardless of what he naturally looks like.

Shiningtempest · Answer

@coachtanthony I don't care if she's sexy or smart. All that matters to me are shared interest in video games.

chrissykerdock · Answer

smart even if he's 56 pot bellied... i can't do that with a dumb guy... i really can't tolerate a simpleton.

molonski2 · Answer

I reckon I can have both , as there are plenty of both , they gotta be sexy , smart is good , but it depends how smart.

JesseP1nk · Answer

Smart. I can't do it if i have to explain her EVERYTHING.

slatyb · Answer

They tend to go together. The smartest person I ever dated was also the sexiest. You wouldn't suspect until you got her into bed.

Mamaliv · Answer

Smart. I really struggle with men that just don’t have it all up there.

TipsyFr · Answer

This is a hard one if you mean sexy and dumb or smart and ugly. I’m going for single 😂.

XHopelessRomanticX · Answer

If I had both it’d be like dating Spider-Man lol

Amy10223 · Answer

Smart, without bragging about it. That and a winning personality gets my vote.

OfMiceandMen · Answer

I'd prefer someone smart as that makes them 50% sexy.

Anonymous · Answer

Smart all the way.. smart is a hella attractive traits that not everyone can have it.. sexy, u can ‘build’ it. Smart? If u are, then u are, if u aren't, then u aren't. Nothing can change

Alwayreckles93 · Answer

Well smart because what isnthe point of agiy being sexy ifnhisna mommas boy.

summiter · Answer

I'd go with brains as opposed to dumb as a rock. The sex will still be great!

TrueConfection · Answer

Smart! 🤓 A sexy but dumb guy loses appeal. A smart guy gets sexier and sexier.

Alex-Snow · Answer

While sexy is fun and hot, I'd have to go with smart. I like a girl who has some smarts and can think for herself.

kevypatyy7 · Answer

I would like smart but don't mind nerd who is sexy too

DizzyDesii · Answer

Sexy but if they are street smart or skilled in a handyman type of way, thats veryy hot too

Yucy_Gluttony · Answer

SMART! HE MIGHT BE SMART ENOUGH TO GAIN SEXY!

justabuddy · Answer

I'll stick to the character of a person above all else.

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