Which gender is more shallow towards the other gender?

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DiegoO · Accepted Answer

Both are just as shallow.

This gender war is nonsense.

Us men's, looks for a woman young enough and healthy enough, to have children. If we don't look to have children, we usually date women's who also don't want to have any parental responsibility.

As to men's who wants to have a family. Some make a family, some gain a family.

What about flings?

Flings are prevalent more, among men and women's in their teen age and in their 20s (which could involve infidelity or not). Most people start settling in their 30s.

What about women's?

Women's usually date within their age, or older. Not much with younger men's. While we men's seek for a healthy and youthful partner, women's oftenly seek for a healthy and wealthy partner. Well, wealthy enough to provide the basic.

They usually look to fulfill the goal of been a mother.

For the sake of having resources and protection, they prioritize a man with status, within society. He can be anything, but for a woman, he got to have a decent status (police, military, cheff, architect, etc). He can not be a nobody, which usually means, he can not be unrecognized or ghost in his town.

In other words, us men seek for a healthy and youthful woman.

Women's, looks for a healthy and wealthy man.

Men looks for health and youth.

Women's looks for health and wealth.

GenderEqualityMyth · Accepted Answer

Women.

They evaluate men on height, fashion and income just to consider who to date. Really, they only care about men as long as they provide some sort of utility. Once that utility is gone, 90 % of them are too. The relationship is a generally a pretense for a service. Most women are functionally hoes.

Women also have this trend of "dating up." They're constantly on the look out for a "better man," i. e someone fitter or richer. It doesn't matter how long the relationship is. This just goes to show how the objectify men as mere public services. They have a whole catalog of men for whatever service they want: the boyfriend, the attention guy, the favor guy, the work boyfriend to name a few

I'm not saying men don't have their shallow sides. Most of us care about ass and titties a bit too much. But relationships for us are usually about the person, not what we get out of them. Most of them are usually heart broken for a long time after losing an unreciprocated breakup. With women, it's the opposite. They get over it much faster because they have a more ready supply of men to do what they want then vice versa. So men can essentially be swapped out like an old car part at any moment.

Rei13 · Accepted Answer

It is definitely men if we are generalizing. Men typically go for the most attractive women they’re able to get. A beautiful woman can have an okay personality and she will still have more success than an ugly girl with an amazing personality. There are so many things about a woman’s appearance that will determine whether a man will pursue her or not. You can be the kindest, most considerate woman with a great sense of humor but if you’re overweight or your features don’t sit quite right then she will have a very hard time compared to her male counterpart. However whenever it comes to women choosing partners they are more likely to overlook physical aspects and go more for personality. If he has a great personality, is stable, able to provide for her, etc women are typically not going to care as much if he isn’t the most attractive man they’re able to get. But honestly men and women just look for partners differently on average

BlackBeauty90 · Accepted Answer

Men

There's many men - as proven on GAG - that say they don't want a slut but they chase women who dress like a prostitute. Like you gotta be dumb not to realize 1 + 1 = 2.

There's many men - as proven on GAG - who say they don't want a woman who works but on the reverse they don't want someone who is a "gold digger" after their money.

There's many men - as proven on GAG - who say that women above 30 have "less value" but whine when women below 30 aren't mature enough for a serious relation

The list is endless of such comparables that seriously... make you wonder.

nastyb · Answer

well if you take a look at what men judge women by:

weight - must be skinny,

height - must be under 5'5'' (men hate taller women),

face- pretty , no wrinkles,

body- must have an hourglass figure. wear corsets

age- must be under 30,

fashion- must spend large amounts of money to fit into society's standard of appeal.

versus

what women judge men by:

having decent income- as long as he doesn't make minimum wage

Not being less than 5'8''- any height taller than her will usually do.

whose standards seem tougher?

Anonymous · Answer

Men

Even if a woman makes 6-7 figures, has a PhD from Harvard, speaks 10 languages, has a plane license, is charismatic, intelligent and funny they won't date her, if she fails to meet their own - often unrealistic standards. On the contrary, they will. On the contrary, they will date a girl, even if she doesn't have an amazing personality, and is kinda rude or arrogant to others, as long as she's beautiful and isn't a convict. How men couples have you seen, where the man was less conventionally attractive or younger than a woman?

TipsyFr · Answer

Out of all my friends the ones who objectify women the most are other women. There are guys who will look at a woman walking by because nature made him physically attracted although most of my friends aren’t the pigs depicted in movies. Saying that I know women who do the same just recently the Massimo référence came up between female friends talking about some guy we met. Massimo is apparently a tall dark guy on a Netflix movie who had wild sex with a girl on a boat among other stuff 😂. Saying that the biggest thing for me is women who badmouth other women out of spite it’s always looks or sexual history. Guys don’t do that at least not the properly educated ones. Oh that and height like you women don’t even pretend to hide that one 😂 I say all this but it probably depends on your country it’s very possible that in the United States it’s mostly guys but I struggle to believe it. ✌️

lilithscandle · Answer

Not gonna lie, women are known to date questionable looking creatures, so much so that other males see them and ask "What am i doing wrong", but dudes will have a decent looking girl and dudes will go "as long as you're happy" A lot of people are basing their opinions on social media influencers who don't represent the majority of women in reality.

Anonymous · Answer

In Western culture they're both shallow as hell... the only difference is that a lot of guys-even publicly -will freely talk about/praise a woman's looks, letting it be known that he values those first. The VAST majority of females deny, deny, deny that they're attracted to douchebag low rent drug dealers because of their ride, clothes, cash... even as they're with 3 of them simultaneously and being rude and abrasive to guy working at the convenience store counter. They deny more than Bill Clinton, even if the mountain of evidence in that moment is taller than Denali. That's the only difference.

Kaamraj · Answer

Women are much more shallow towards men, simply because they won't give most guys a chance until they are older and desperate. They are shallow in the sense that most women dont have anything else to offer than their looks and youth which they get for default. Most men are sexually invisible to most women.

KrakenAttackin · Answer

The women stating "men are more shallow" are Chad Chasers.

There have been several studies (dating back to Kinsey I believe) that women "fall out of love" much easier than men. This has to be especially true with younger women who have a lot of Sexual Market Value.

Women are a loyal as their options.

convo_king89 · Answer

I honestly think we’re shallow, there is a reason women got to put make up ons wear cute sexy outfits by wearing them tight or revealing and further more they have more curves then we do. I’d say they are more attractive compared to our “natural” face, fully covered loose fitting clothes and square body. We have to go by our money and materialistic, possessions, and standard of living.

Anonymous · Answer

Men are more shallow. If a woman has good ( in their opinion) tits and ass, no matter how crazy she is, men will date her. My own brother has dated the craziest, laziest, vapid chicks because they were blondes with big boobs. His friends are the same way.

Apple1996 · Answer

Men... they are always going after women purely for their beauty. Women don't do that as often and go after men for personality

Anonymous · Answer

I'd say it's pretty even. I think society as a whole have become a s***hole when it comes to dating nobody tries to get to know anybody anymore. They take about 10 minutes, read you like a balance sheet and determine whether you're worthwhile or not. You can't determine that in 10 minutes. Half the time you ain't even meeting the real person even. Just the person they're pretending to be for the world.

Anonymous · Answer

Men. See how most women try so hard to look perfect while most men are frumpy? It shows the dynamic. Women must look good because men care a lot and I would even say only about looks while men can be accepted as they are.

Spongebobssocks · Answer

honestly both. its feminist women and red pill men that all act the same. They're all toxic. But if i had to pic one i'd say women cause its easier for them to get away with it

blueonblack22 · Answer

You realize it’s damn near impossible to ever get an accurate read on this. Gender divide is to be expected.

DextroShade · Answer

Women by far, as they will disqualify men for the most vapid reasons, like not having an iPhone or being under 6' tall. Men just want a woman to not be fat, not be a hoe, and not be a bitch which is very reasonable.

Anonymous · Answer

I hate gender wars. It's always just drifting us apart instead of trying to be in peace. I put men because they are always bragging about being visual creatures but we all want a partner whom we find appealing.

Hinaaaaa · Answer

Not the Gender but the Culture itself... People Follow culture more...

MikeTheBartender · Answer

A lot of men will fuck anything with a pulse. I don't see any plus size male models. Women are more shallow.

_piotr · Answer

Women. For me, looks is an inherent and inseparable part of a person. While money, that women are after, is something completely external to the "loved" one.

normalice · Answer

It depends on the definition of "shallow".

BrightBubblyKat · Answer

It’s a matter of age and maturity. Everyone starts off shallow.

DarkLegacy · Answer

Women are more shallow then men but they will say it is men, they are more judgmental on looks, and are less likely to date the disabled.

Friendlybro79 · Answer

Who cares? What a pointless debate. More men vs women nonsense. Both can be shallow and it's both equally stupid

dolemite58 · Answer

id say it’s women because they have much more criteria than men get to have. Men are shallow about looks but women are shallow about looks, height, status, dick size, money, etc

Chthou95 · Answer

Lets just put it this way. A man has to become something to be noticed. Women are just born and get noticed without having to do much

turnpost · Answer

lol I didn't think this poll would be that polarizing

clampfan101 · Answer

Gender doesn’t effect how kind someone is or not in any way.

LiamJHayden · Answer

Not sure. I've seen a lot of what I think of as shallowness from both.

BigManSAB · Answer

Women are more shallow, they just pretend they’re not!

Anonymous · Answer

Men have all the insecurities.

ShesRad80 · Answer

these days i would say its even

artgorgeous · Answer

Those that like pronouns they/them

RingOfFire · Answer

I love these vote results 🤣🤣🤣

InsecureLivesMatter · Answer

female because fe-mall-e. ... tamale

Iron_Man · Answer

Women

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