How can I have any options for getting what I want? Does it require me to be completely different or can I be myself?

[SeaStorm1]

I'm just wondering how to get what I want from dating and relationships and I have to be completely different and be very femmine. I'm a little interested in some femmine stuff or a hobby. I am more interested in playing video games sometimes and a hobby that has more masculine traits. like listening to birds sing and taking photos of birds too. Like science and nature series. Is better to be myself or just pretend to be different and what are opinions for dating and relationships?

[caring__1]

Never pretend in order to get accepted by others. Always be true to yourself. Reality always comes to the surface, and then everything blows up in your face. There are plenty of guys who appreciate what you appreciate. Join a bird watching organization or photography club or volunteer at a science or nature museum. It's hard to meet people you can relate to if you don't associate where others like you associate. Video games tend to be a more solitary activity, so it's hard to get to know the true person by just playing games with them. Connect only with those who truly value you as you are, not for the potential you can become.

[SeaStorm1]

This is what a girl said to me here. I'm not pretending anyway and yep also comment that I'm not as femmine and need to work on my weight. I was on holiday/vacation at that time.

[caring__1]

It makes sense to continue to be true to yourself and not pretend. Slight enhancements are fine, but don't go to extremes. As far as weight goes, that tends to be a major factor in guys decision making. Different guys like bony, slender, fit, muscular, voluptuous or soft like a marshmallow. You can't please everyone. Just listen to Rick Nelson.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=60XTeHM9iLQ

[Anonymous]

What would be the point in pretending to be something that you are not?

Imagine that you have done this and now you have a person in your life, what now? Are you to spend your entire life pretending to be someone that you aren't?

How is that good for anyone?

[Thumper2thump]

Never change who you are for someone else. Always be true to yourself. Like it 'Love it or leave it

[SeaStorm1]

I was just asking before because my last question is one of the girls here not you. Said that my body was fat and around and said to be more femmine

[BoopBoopBeep]

Every female gamer I know is getting tons of options paraded before them. Take care of yourself, minimize drama, and you'll find who you are looking for.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Lay the cards on the table and tell the guy what you want but you want things to be kept for real and no games.

[Twalli]

If you are yourself, you'll find guys that like you. If you try to be what guys like they MIGHT settle for you when you stop pretending.

[SeaStorm1]

This is what a girl said to me here. I'm not pretending anyway and yep also comment that I'm not as femmine and need to work on my weight. I was on holiday/vacation at that time.