Which is more important: what you say or how you say it?

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LaFemmeFatale_1 · Accepted Answer

Probably In the end it’s the most important what you say.

Someone can tell you something hurtful in a very nice way, and make sure they make it sound as good as they can, but in the end, it doesn’t change the result and the truth.

It’s a but about the product and its marketing.

Doesn’t really matter what you pack your product in, if that’s not good, that’s not good and it can’t be changed by the wraps or advertising that you use.

The product will still stay the same.

So, while I believe sometimes it’s very important to choose your words as gently as possible, I think it’s still not as important as the message you try to send.

CubsterShura · Accepted Answer

How you say things can make a huge difference. It's definitely more important because we should be honest to ourselves and others. So if you're upset with someone you shouldn't have to worry about having to express that, but you should think how to say it.

AviatorTom · Accepted Answer

This is an interesting question. In my years of experience (I'm in my mid-50s), I've noticed a general difference between men and women with repect to how they communicate.

Men generally pay attention to what is said, not how it is said, while women generally consider how it is said as more important.

Maybe it's in the genes? Research ahs shown there are significant differences between the male and female brain.

normalice · Accepted Answer

To me "what you mean" is more important and "why you want to mean that" is most important.

Ninania · Answer

Most often, people understand my intentions regardless of the words I'm using (cause I sometimes mix up words, or can't find the right words so I improvise my explanations).
How I say it is more important than what I say.

On the other hand, I'd usually interpret "what I say" as "what message am I trying to convey," and as such, it's more important to make myself understood, than choosing fancy words or retoric.
What I say is more important than how I say it.

purplepoppy · Answer

What you say is important about the topic, how you say it speaks volumes about what type of person you are.

OfMiceandMen · Answer

I'd say... how you say it. I don't know how many times I've conveyed the same message and depending on how I said it, I was either in hot water or not.

Anonymous · Answer

Definitely how you word it, tone and body language. Just this week, a girl I work with who tries so hard to defend herself on her degree in higher education regarding communications or what not has let her down. She doesn’t know how to talk to guests or read the room or know what’s going on has caused a bit of conflict. I helped remedy the situation and that’s just because my experience with people.

Iron_Man · Answer

It’s what you say is more important. A lot of people can’t put their words together properly and make it sound right but at least the girl knows what the man is saying, but me I don’t have that problem it comes from the heart

catarecute · Answer

both are equally important. what matters is how the person ends up feeling at the end. regardless if a person means it or not if you feel bad it means it was bad. if you feel good it means it was good. just listen too your gut.

Chthou95 · Answer

2+2 = 4 2+2 = fucking 4 At the end of the day, one may sound harsh but you still get the same result

exitseven · Answer

it is how you say it. or maybe what you dont say.

RealMarek · Answer

It depends on the circumstances.

midnightmoon05 · Answer

How you say it.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

What I say is important

CoolCatMar1 · Answer

The context matters

Anonymous · Answer

Because what we say can me misunderstood

Which is more important: what you say or how you say it?

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