Does a single woman who has kids make her less attractive?

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Hithere4567 · Accepted Answer

Not at all. She's just as attractive with kids.

LoverOfBooty23 · Accepted Answer

It does not

coachTanthony · Answer

Of course. Men don't want to raise other men's sperm.

ShadezMcgee · Answer

It does, for a lot of men, yes. Most men do not want to help raise or deal with another man's kids. He would have to look at them as a constant reminder that she was with someone else prior to him and to add insult to injury, there are instances when men want a kid of their own flesh and blood with some of these women and the women may not want any more kids. Fair, but how is it fair to the guy who may want his own flesh and blood to be denied and instead have to be okay with only being a step-dad and substitute in name only? Also, this is a kick to the balls if the man is supporting her and her kid as well.

They will likely not be given respect or have any say on how the kid potentially will be raised if he decides to settle down with the mother. The biggest thing that can overlook most of this is if the mother was widowed. Otherwise if it was a split and the baby daddy is still in the picture with mutual custody or child support, it is a potential risk the daddy can come back to rekindle the relationship they had or just be a nuisance to deal with.

Also, most women will be focused on their job and kid as they should be. Getting them to go on a date is not easy and the man will have to potentially have a lot of broken ones because of last minute scheduling problems or emergencies the kid may have. Plus, it isn't healthy to give a kid an insight to a revolving door of potential dads just for them not to work out.

D_Bone_Steak · Answer

I think what is unattractive is getting involved in a relationship that comes with little people created by other men and a dog, being expected to support all of them, and then getting treated as less important than any of them... including the dog.

See she's had her "fun" and now she's ready to be "serious?" So this magical guy is supposed to have just been working his ass off, gets with her, and he's just not interested in having any fun of his own. Expected to go from serious to more serious. No "fun" or random kids for no reason from him... probably not even allowed to bring his own dog.

I know women don't like to imagine it, but sometimes the men just want to have fun too... or at least some fun of their own. A woman strapped down with kids and responsibilities that all come from her own "fun" just doesn't look all that appealing compared to the other options you have in front of you, if you're that perfect fantasy of a man.

That perfect man is a fantasy for women who have been spreading their legs for dudes who have no intention of putting up with her in the long run. I mean... if I'm the 50 Shades guy or the vampire guy with big hair... I'm not going to be fucking around with the plain Jain mid-aged introvert with problems. I have my own fantasies to live. My fantasies include midgets and cocaine.

FellowTraveler · Answer

A single mother with children doesn't make the woman unattractive. It makes her darn nearly 'impossible'. Giving birth and raising children is a time consuming 24/7/365 commitment. And the more children she has under her roof, the more her leisure time is gone - baby - gone. Couple that with ONCE the child/children/flock realize that there is someone else gunning for mama's affections, they will actively do what they can to sabotage any relationship. I've had it happen to me, and witnessed it with my guy friends OVER and OVER -ad nauseum! The last relationship was with a very well educated, quite successful woman who permitted her full grown, middle aged daughter to play her something terrible.

Let me explain. Her daughter gave birth to a child when quite young. The girlfriend took in and raised her own grandson. Nice young man (now 17) with a good head on his shoulders, and yet the girlfriend claimed she was an empty nester. Then after I met her and the revelation that the girlfriend was NOT an empty nester, she then permits the daughter and verbally abusive son-in-law with infant in tow to move into her master bedroom WHILE she has her garage converted into a 'grandma suite'. This was all at the behest of her daughter. The girlfriend's other children, successful in their own right; no matter how many times they were invited would not visit the girlfriend, their mother - at her home. This was the clue that had me thinking that what was being said WAS NOT what was put into practice.

So IF she has a child, or children, boyfriend beware!

Mamaliv · Answer

I have found that a lot of men have this idea that single women with children are damaged goods. I do not agree with this assumption. Unfortunately there are plenty of single mothers that have ran the father of their children through the coals and taken them for everything they have. Some woman are looking for a man to help raise their children. BUT not all single mothers are like this, we’re just stuck with the labels and stigma. I’ve had men that wouldn’t date me because I am a single mother, but I’m at a point in my life that I don’t care, apparently we’re not compatible. I don’t depend on my ex or anyone for anything. I work hard, pay my bills, have my own home and truck. I’d only like to find a man that can be my partner in crime, someone I can free up with and enjoy life, unfortunately some men aren’t willing to see all points of view because a few loud mouth bitches ruined it for the few of us good women. Their loss.

Randogirl491 · Answer

Most men and to be honest most women too who aren't older/divorced parents don't like it when a potential partner, especially a woman already has kids. There are misogynistic reasons but plenty of valid reasons too. Men get a better pass as they often aren't he primary caretaker of their kids but still. I would actually be very wary of a man who acts super supportive and accepting of it, there's chances that he wants to prey on the kids. Be especially wary if you have a preteen/teen girl. Too many horror stories involving "awesome supportive step dads 🤪" out there. It's not impossible for them to find a childless partner but still, the best bet for single parents is to date other single parents/ parents who have already grown kids.

DarkWinterNights · Answer

Less attractive? No. Significantly more drama, prior relationship baggage, and risk- especially when it comes to possible child support payments for children that aren’t even yours is the issue.

A friend of mine recently got divorced and got involved with a very attractive woman with 2 kids, who lived with her ex and he has so far spent thousands moving her, getting her a new vehicle, paying for her kids and then paying for her to go on vacation after her got fired from her job for not showing up for a week. Are all single mothers bad people who exploit their potential partners? Of course not, but there are enough out there to consistently taint peoples opinions.

Giddyup · Answer

This depends a lot on the guys situation. If your dealing with a single guy that has no kids and maybe never been married, children will be complicated for most, attraction or not.

If the guy is widowed or divorced with children, then a woman with kids might be comfortable to him. As a divorced guy with children, I've learned that women in a similar situation seem to understand me more and I also understand them more.

It's just an example of relating to life's circumstances. I know when single attractive women see me with one of my daughters, I might not get the same glances than if I was solo.

magiusX26 · Answer

there are some attracted to such, but many more do find it as a turn off. so yes it lowers a womanxs chances at a meaningful and commited relationship. mind you, there can be circumstances that mitigate that a little such as the father met a tragic end being why she is not with him anymore, or he walked out suddenly (not as mitigating as the tragic ending though) and the father's history matters some in the tragic ending too. for example, his ending happened because of him being involved in sonetging shady such as a drug deal gone bad means less than say he was hit by a drunk driver on his way home from work. sorry but it goes towards her character the man/men she chooses, and if her choice is a less than societally desirable partner, it deminishes her character. also it gets worse the more children she hasn especially if there are multiple fathers.

HighValue · Answer

Yes. A woman having kids from past relationships makes her MUCH less desirable as a partner/mate.

From what I have seen IRL is that the majority of single mothers are bad people and not good to be in a relationship with or friends with. It is best for quality men to avoid them.

Static_In_The_Attic · Answer

Attractive she is & attractive she will always be & although she has kids or a kid less attractive she won’t be however less appealing she could be.

lightbulb27 · Answer

no and I'd wonder how the women see a single guy with kids... because there are two parents.

but some guys at that age range don't want to take on kids. some might. reduces the options probably.

time to make a "brady bunch"...

Miristheiss · Answer

I would never have dated a woman who had kids.

The only kids in my life were going to be the ones I had with my wife after we'd married and dated a long time.

I was never going to be with a woman who already had some other guys kids and to where there was ZERO honeymoon phase of just her and I lost in each other and spontaneous all the time. I wanted a hot, fun, wife. Not a mom.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes in general, depending upon how she became single. If the father is still alive, then you have to figure out why he isn't raising HIS kids.

Either way he's a problem, and if she had anything to do with it she might be an even bigger problem.

SUMAIREBRAHIM · Answer

I'm gonna be honest... yes single mother aren't attractive (don't prefer that lebal) guys in general don't prefer someone else kids I know this sounds rude but I'm just being honest, I'm telling things what exactly guys feel and think.(no offence intended)

LiamJHayden · Answer

Not less attractive necessarily, but the reality is that most guys who do not have kids of their own will take a pass on a single mom.

I do not limit myself so completely. I have dated single mothers in the past, but I do have one pretty strict preference in this. No baby daddy drama! Dad not in the picture (abandoned family or passed away).

Marklaw12 · Answer

Not necessarily.

What makes her unattractive is her still seeing her ex-partner. It makes the current relationship uncomfortable.

He will look at me as taking his sloppy seconds without even uttering a word.

However, you can make it work by setting times when he can come visit. Its gotta be strict and when we have disagreements, don't go telling him or rather running into his arms

Anonymous · Answer

Yes.

And yes.

Not just “less attractive” but “not even worth considering.” Why bother when you can find some other woman without kids? There are plenty of fish in the sea so why pursue one with children? Even if she’s smoking hot. Great. They get to be around your kid for the next 10-13 years... minimum.

Yay.

Honest-Matt · Answer

Honestly, yeah but only to younger boys at least in the terms of meaningful long term relationships. Moms otherwise are fun and hot for all ages of men, but relationship side of it, is definitely a mature man's game.

Slim57 · Answer

Yeah, shows she picks loser men, if the spouse didn't pass away, especially if multiple from different men, most men, or women, don't want to raise someone else's kid or have someone else's kid take time away out of dating someone, but not to worry, I don't know why so many single mothers care, because there are plenty of men out there proud to have someone else's sloppy seconds, so

BoopBoopBeep · Answer

I don't want to deal with the added complication of someone else's kid.

patrick994 · Answer

I do not think it is less attractive, rather some people find it rather expensive and demanding to date someone with dependent children.

annabananna · Answer

Honestly I wouldn’t want it for my son as it can be more difficult but I think if you are a female that’s attractive and a good personality you’ll still be able to find someone even with kids.

justabuddy · Answer

It's scarier because it's more complicated and their is much more at risk, for both partners. Its not as detrimental as you think. But you do have to be prepared, take things slow, be committed and understanding.

TheUniqueOne96 · Answer

She can still be physically attractive, but I probably wouldn't date someone with kids.

Paris13 · Answer

Maybe not so Hot like in Hot Shot, But More Loving and Dependable and Faithful. xxoo

Fireguy17 · Answer

not at all. As long as there is minimal drama between the ex's and the kids aren't in the middle of it then I'm fine with it.

BourbonAndBacon · Answer

No less attractive but I wouldn't date a single mom. No kids or no kids living at home is what I looked for.

exitseven · Answer

Yes it is a sad fact. I would not dated somebody with a baby

Heolurt · Answer

Yes and no, the idea of raising some other guys kids isn't appealing and they are hers so they are a package deal, some guys care about raising someone else's kids and some don't.

dolemite58 · Answer

i’ll hook up with a girl that has kids i’m not interested in dating her though. I don’t have kids and i’d like to only date girls that don’t have/want kids either.

jimmy2 · Answer

That's a maybe I would go with that if..
. she was Fine, Hotter than fine, sexy as wow, well you know I do shallow. Lol
Not the real reason is that if you had family before amd successful you more attracted to single mom

Unit1 · Answer

For me it ruins my interest in the single mothers since i'm childfree.

sheikalana · Answer

I wouldn't say less attractive I would say less interesting in the dating world.

ronaldo75 · Answer

100% yes. I dont deal with single mothers past a few sexual adventures. I will never wife one, ever.

Djaay · Answer

YES. Not at all attractive in any facet or variable. Unless a legitimate reason obviously out of her power.

Nifrayu · Answer

In this stage of my life it does. When I was younger I was actually attracted to single mothers.

Bobbysworld · Answer

Not at all. The opposite for me. I find women with children more attractive

AnusNdaPainus · Answer

in comparison to a young single woman with no kids? Less attractive.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

It definitely puts her at a majority disadvantage to be with her long term if she has small kids.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes absolutely and this will always be the case.

Staximus · Answer

Maybe to young guys, but when you're my age most women have kids

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Yes. But it's not as bad as if she's had an abortion.

maroon_eyez · Answer

Not at all.. I met a few single moms and they are strong, independent, loving and caring, and doing their best to raise their kids alone

Luckycharms12 · Answer

No but don't want to play daddy yo kids that aren't mine

shades777 · Answer

definitely to a single man with no kids, as for men with kids... probably not

Anonymous · Answer

Generally, yes. And usually for good reason.

Anonymous · Answer

Why isn't she with the man who is literally 50% of the DNA of the kids?  We already know fathers who are actually related to their kids are 10x more likely to care

Chthou95 · Answer

Yes it does. Men in general dont want to be responsible for kids that aren't theirs

Anonymous · Answer

Fuck no.. I have friend she is single mom n trust me I get best sex from her.

Anonymous · Answer

for me having kids more attractive... but don't want single woman label...

HelpfulWoman · Answer

To some yes. To others, it's irrelevant

Pacquet · Answer

No, it’s not about attractiveness.

zagor · Answer

No, but it complicates matters.

riverrat3 · Answer

Only to shallow minds

Anonymous · Answer

I mean no offense but it is a big no for me.

DariBoy · Answer

Yes it does.

Redstang88 · Answer

Yeah

Bitterness · Answer

Not at all.

Anonymous · Answer

He'll yes.

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