Why are men ok to date broke girls, but girls aren’t okay to date broke men?

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Like why? In this generation?

DaveJord · Accepted Answer

Yes, I would date a broke woman. I say that because I have and did and would do again. The issue for me as not their economic status, because I make over 100K a year so economically it made no difference to me. But the women I did date, were super sensitive about it. Like in both cases these woman were. 10's of thousands of dollars in debt with no way ever ever getting out of it. But neither of them wanted me to do anything for them finically, because it made them feel inadequate, or less than.

They were prideful women, that wanted to bring equal value into the relationship, which honestly they did in many other ways and by other means. They were kind, and generious with thier time and effort. Thoughtful and caring people, and I do no think they every had an intent of taking advanatage of me. Which why I was probally attracted to them from the start.

But never worked out, because they were serious insecure about thier fincial status. Like when you life hand to mouth, and you struggle in every way to survie fincially with no savings and tons of debt... it generates a lot of stress and it puts pressure on the the relationship.

Now with this said, I have meant a lot of women who's exs were broke, they were broke when they meet, and they provided for them in the divorce. So do not think woman do not like broke men, but the bottom line is that their debt puts pressure on the relationship. Because event though its fun and emotionally fullfilling to date a good and postive person, there is no real future to it unless you as the man or woman are willing to pick up their financial debt. Because if you ever marry them, then you have to take on thier debt.

Now most men would date a broke chick, because men seem more willing to date someone without long term commitment. But women think long term much sooner and future into the future then most men.

Miristheiss · Accepted Answer

Because "provision" and "income/status" IS an attraction marker for women. Women are attracted to that. Men are NOT attracted to that. They are attracted to youth, beauty, healthy figures, pleasant personalities, easy going, good morals and purity... etc.

Most men could not care less what much money you make. Women don't share their income anyway. Men know they have to take care of themselves... we aren't looking for handouts. There is a saying about women: "my money is MY money and his money is OUR money".

All women who think the same things THEY find attractive are things we look for... they have been deceived. "I have a job, I make X per year, I have a degree, I am a pushy, boss babe, I've traveled the world, I been with all of these men so I'm experienced and I know what I want, I have my own place... men should just be drooling to get with me.

Men don't care. A cute, sweet, pleasant, family oriented girl with isn't a hoe is what most men want.

Feminism has warped women into thinking careers, sleeping around, being selfish is liberty and peace, contentment and happiness and being a mom is such a failure and a waste.

crystalline0909 · Accepted Answer

It is easier to get broken girls in bed. They'll drink and won't have any sense of control. Therefore the guy can get his way into her pants.

Girls won't cuz girls know the broken guy needs a rebound and she doesn't want to be one

sheikalana · Accepted Answer

It's been like this since forever is not a generational issue or anything knew. Kings always married peasants but a Queen would never marry a peasant. Women prefer someone who can provide for them as that is a masculine trait.

Avicenna · Answer

It's still problematic for men. The only scenario in which I can see doing it is if there is no money management or serious debt issue, but there usually is if she is broke. I want to put money into our common kids' upbringing, not paying for her profligacy, especially if she is a single mom.

ManOnFire · Answer

Women  are the ones who said it's not okay for a woman to date a broke man. But if she wants to, that's her choice, it makes no difference to me. I wouldn't date a broke woman because most just want to use a guy anyway.

Anonymous · Answer

It all started when women began entering the workplace. Women used to have to rely on men for money. Now women can make thier own. I'm not knocking this. It's a GOOD thing. But along with that there's always going to be unintended consequences. When you got no money a 100 bucks looks like a lot. And when you got no job a job that pays looks good. Well women have ALWAYS sought out men who could provide the best life for her. So women have always expected a man to give MORE. So if a woman makes 50k a year example. She expects him to provide at the bare minimum at least that. And with a lot of women she expects him to provide as much as twice as much as her.

Now I'm not criticizing the logic behind a woman wanting this. The problem is along with women's wants they seldom consider what is feasible. Anyone with a basic understanding of economics know that resources are finite. And now she is competing with men for those resources thereby reducing the amount of resources available for him to make. My only knock on many women today is they want to have it both ways. They want to make money and still keep the EXPECTATIONS of the past. And that really is not feasible. So many can cling to these expectations, but many will continue to be disappointed.

normalice · Answer

Tradition. The patriarchal system has resulted in men being paid substantially more, so if anyone is going to have money a relationship, it kind of has to be the man in the relationship.

Weirdly, the redpill boys who most complain about women not pulling their financial weight in a relationship tend to be the same boys who don't want women to be paid equally because that's feminism or whatever. I guess in their mind every man should own his own factory that is fully staffed by his unpaid supermodel cockhungry girlfiends. Don't know who the customers are supposed to be in this fantasy..

Anpu23 · Answer

I think a lot of it is that most guys simply don't care what's in her wallet. Simply don't judge by that. And as its not a dating criteria for them it just has continued. Women are seen as valuable in themselves so don't have to prove anything.

But historically, and socially guys have no intrinsic value. Easily replaceable and therefore are judged by what they can bring into a relationship.

Just because women are now also in the workplace doesn't change the fact that they are gatekeepers to sex for most guys. And it gives them a value in and of itself.

Anonymous · Answer

For thousands of years women have depended on men to provide and protect them. Despite living in a modern society where women have equal (and sometimes more equal) rights and opportunities as men this expectation is still deeply hard coded into the female psyche. They generally feel less guilt taking hand outs from men or even expecting it.

It’s also hard coded into a male psyche. Back when I was in my early 30s I was having financial problems because I was chasing a dream to become a professional athlete.

My then 25 year old girlfriend once offered me money but I refused. I just felt emasculated by it to be honest. I just went further into debt and paid it off later. Even though she meant well and she understood the situation I just felt pathetic taking money from her.

Anyway there is a lot of confusion nowadays on what is fair expectations for genders vs what isn’t. These double standards are harming everybody.

prakhindev92 · Answer

It is as simple as, if a women date a guy who is economically stable , because she knows he is gonna take care of her by default if he loves her , but a woman with money who is economically stable not even looks at a guy who is broke , she can take care of herself so why need a man?😊 , Women and children loved unconditionally , but men are loved if only he can provide , some women even say , 'MY MONEY IS MY MONEY , AND HIS MONEY IS OUR MONEY' , basically , it's all just runs on money , true love and affection is like santa in a fairtale

Anonymous · Answer

Because you can't escape genetic programming, why is it okay for a guy to go to a third world country and marry up a girl, you really don't see a girl finding a broke guy in a third world country and bringing him back to a first world country. you see somewhere in our programming men are Hunters and women are the caretakers, and it will take millions of years to out program that. I don't really want to date a broke girl, but I would if she was the right girl since I make a lot of money, however I find it absolutely pathetic when a woman pays for a man, to me he is weak.

DryGermanGuy · Answer

In my country, dating has little to nothing to do with money, not that it should. Apart from the higher probability of a rich person meeting another rich person in a country club or a poor person meeting another poor person in a corner bar, everybody can pretty much date whomever they want.

soulOnDisplay · Answer

Women never want to be in the posion where they have to financially uplift a man. Imagine dating a broke man, and you're in the situation of having to pay for his meal when you go out, as well as everything else for him because he's broke. Men are in fact natural protectors, whether you want to accept it or not. In a relationship where the man has higher finacial status than she does he can fullfill this role better.

Unit1 · Answer

Why date a broke man when you can date a rich man? Which of these goes better with your social media (if you have any)?

jeffend888 · Answer

Because everything, and I mean everything, comes down to the primitiveness of what can bear us children.

Women don't gravitate towards broke men because how will they provide for their children?

And men don't care about that because they are going to be the ones providing for their children.

Everything, everything, everything, everything ties back to having children.

Everything.

DextroShade · Answer

Men are designed to provide, women are not. It is that simple. Women also make the mistake of thinking earning more money qualifies them for a higher earning man but in reality the more money a man makes the less he cares about a woman's money or career.

convo_king89 · Answer

Because girls have other more important things that men want besides money. At the top it’s sex then attractiveness and finally personality. As a guy we don’t have to worry about doing our makeup, “doing” our hair, getting waxes, having curves in the right places. A droopy saggy cock/balls is less attractive than a nice tight pussy with nice and firm tits that bounce when she moves.

Aiko_E_Lara · Answer

It is in men's instict to provide so we are hardwired to feel the satisfaction of making ourselves useful and broke women who are actually supportive drives men to earn more. Since a lot of women don't appreciate men anymore, it is one cause of men not working as hard anymore.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Broke men = lazy which means he can't provide for a family at all.

Women that date these kinda guys usually is for short term pleasure.

Men that date broke girls usually don't care about a woman's income but rather they are more concerned with how she looks and the sex that's coming in.

Anemone978 · Answer

Because men's only use is money.. if they don't got it why date them..

Paris13 · Answer

Girls Kindda Expect Guys to pay for at Least a First and Second Date. And Not Rely on Them. xxoo

Selliebeanz · Answer

That’s all I’ve done is date broke men. You end up being mommy to irresponsible and unreliable men who can’t keep a job. That’s the problem.

Meropatrick · Answer

Because thats the norm. wealth is not valued in woman. Only beauty and youth. Men are sought after for their status and resources. Its been like thats since the dawn of time and not only this generation

Nightblade23 · Answer

I don't care if a guy is poor or not I would date him if I really loved him I would stay with them through this and thin I don't care about the money I just want happiness

lightbulb27 · Answer

women require security... which includes finances and especially, emotional priority over the man.  men... who cares...

aquamarine321 · Answer

Broke girls are some times better, they are more calm , loving, respectful and genuine, etc, girls that are not broke are most time the opposite and that’s something most women will never understand or refuse to understand because they are not broke

BoopBoopBeep · Answer

I don't date women who spend more than they make.

inhua · Answer

you can replace "broke" with "short" and it'll also be true

front2back · Answer

Men are stupid. Thanks for coming to my TED Talk.

Sonorous · Answer

Because women are the child-bearers & men aren't.

Billlewis · Answer

Because women have the pussy, and men have to have the money to enjoy sex with them.

exitseven · Answer

It is a cultural thing. Guys are supposed to be the providers.

genericname85 · Answer

it has been the same in basically any generation. and the reason is: women are superficial. tough pill to swallow but that's what it is.

Pudsmucker · Answer

I never knew of anything like that happened in my side of the house. If I'm broke and a woman wants to date me and she says I'll pay for everything it's okay if my books.

tunoo · Answer

I wouldn't date a broke girl, in fact I wouldn't have any long-term relationship with a woman who makes less money than me or has a lower college degree than me.

Celticwolf78 · Answer

Some of us guys don't care about the money what counts is what is in the heart of the relationship if a guy and a woman who don't have any money can build a life together and make something out of nothing that is a real relationship

hbg84 · Answer

This isn't just a new generation thing. This is an all generations thing. Society has told us its a man obligation to take care of women financially.

BigDog1989 · Answer

Cause women would rather not be working. They want to be "moms". I dont want kids, or marriage

Guardian45 · Answer

As long as a girl can financially support herself, then I DON'T care if she is broke or not, because that's NOT what matters or counts!

LiamJHayden · Answer

Supply and demand. The average guy does not have as many willing girls as the average girl has willing guys.

Guido · Answer

Money does not make the person. If she has a good personality and we have a connection then it's fine.

Djaay · Answer

Bc men share and build a family with they're money. Women selfishly don't share it nor do they use it for anything other than for themselves.

MJtheCoach · Answer

because of different designs. Also, all the men k1ssing women's a22 have made them delusional.

nawtee_me · Answer

Because the girls are all about what someone can do for them and not what they can do for others. Selfish and self centered.

dolemite58 · Answer

i think women bear the physical burden of child bearing so it’s their instinct to be much more concerned about a partner having resources.

DummyThiccFeraligatr · Answer

Because women are much more picky than men are if given a choice.

Staximus · Answer

You tell me, you're the one who says you only date rich guys

AnusNdaPainus · Answer

Because men love for real  whereas women love opportunistically

Bitterness · Answer

Personally, i'm okay to date a broke man if i love him.

DreamLife7 · Answer

Yawn, guy uses fake account to pose as a woman. So authentic 😂

ronaldo75 · Answer

One of the many things women are colossal hypocrites over. Dont try to make sense out of it.

Luckycharms12 · Answer

Man and women my be broke today not tomorrow. All about the person not the money

whistlingwh0res · Answer

Broken men are ok but drug users, marijuana smokers, trouble with police, homeless, thief no no no

MaxUsefull · Answer

women naturally seek financial comfort from men, but the opposite does not happen

Anonymous · Answer

I'm not ok with a broke woman unless she's hot. 99% of the time she isn't cus she's got some sugar daddy somewhere hooking her up at least.

Peter_Penetrator · Answer

Because women have the one thing all men want.

DiegoO · Answer

We don't date for the same reasons.

OddBeMe · Answer

I don’t think “broke” is a disability.

Kingofkings1992 · Answer

Because women are basically grown children

eagle1951 · Answer

who came up with that bull

Anonymous · Answer

Cos men are dumb.

RedInnocent68 · Answer

Biology.

SUMAIREBRAHIM · Answer

It's basic biology

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