How do I tell my boyfriend that I don't like it when he calls me fat?

[Anonymous]

ok so i am a thicc woman and i used to 'slay' this very proudly as many people commented on my pear shaped figure and curves which i was really insecure about but i stopped being insecure because of them compliments and social media. and ofc i started wearing clothes which complimented my figure more
so my boyfriend thinks I'm 'fat'. and he is obviously into thin and underweight girls and oftenly 'jokes' about how I'm fat. it just makes me feel a little sad and insecure about my own body which is rare and very sad for me. i even started getting thoughts of joining the gym.
but other than that, he's a guy full of green flags
how should i tell him that I don't like it when he 'jokes' about that?

[pianogirlmeow]

Just tell him you don’t find the jokes funny as you’ve struggled to be happy with your size. Remember he wouldn’t have gone out with you in the first place if he didn’t find you attractive. Most of the time when men put you down it’s to use your insecurities against you so you’re easier to control. I’m not saying he’s doing that but really sounds like a manipulation tactic. He could just have a dry sense of humour too, just communicate your feelings to him and see how he reacts.

[HelpfulWoman]

Have you actually considered that he may be right? Since you can be curvy and still be fat (I'm a member of this club for one).
Sit him down, and tell him you don't find those types of jokes appropriate and you'd want him to stop. If he can't take that, then it gives you a good look into how he sees you.

[jahaims]

You are brainwashed from a culture who is influenced by corporate America into consumerism. The reason why the delusion is promoted is it makes money. Your boyfriend cares about you and isn't in denial like you are.

[Billlewis]

Just tell him, the same way you said it here.

[Anonymous]

Well you're still with him so obviously 1. It doesn't bother you enough to dump him. Or 2. You know he's right and you know you won't do better than him which is why you're still with him.

[Luckycharms12]

No one likes to be called fat