My boyfriend and I have been dating about 3 almost 4 months now. He jokingly calls me fat but I don't let it bother me. But yesterday his brother saw me and he said that I was fat. It really hurt my feelings. I guess because it came from someone else. I was 5'0 127 lbs when I met him which was back in April. Now I'm 135 lbs. I'm trying to lose weight again. But that kinda hurt my feelings. What should I say to him? He plays a lot and jokes a lot but I don't want him to think he can talk to me any kind of way.
My boyfriend called me fat?
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Anonymous
(36-45)
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Is that really you in the pics? Because I'm 5'5 130 lbs and I don't look anything like that... :(
In the end I didn't understand who called you fat, your boyfriend or the brother? I think you need to set the boundary on whether you're cool with him calling you fat or not, because it will be difficult to say "not when I'm feeling down, in front of other people or at X time".
Whether you make it cool or not, personally I think it's distasteful, disrespectful and not very caring of him to call you that to your face, much less in front of other people/ family. I would imagine how he would talk when the person is NOT in the room.
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Not that it matters, but according to the converter, I'm 5'5 126 lbs.
You're not fat. Please don't pay attention to those idiots, because that's exactly what they are. You need to speak up to the both of them and let them know that they crossed the line and you don't like it. And if he doesn't care, then you know what you have to do. You shouldn't have to tolerate that. He is still getting to know you, and it's clear that your hurt over what was said. But you also have to remember that men aren't mind readers, and unless he's naturally intuitive to sense your emotional state, you will have to say something to him if you expect to get your point across.
if you dont want him to think he can talk to you any kinda way, its too late. he already does. you're dating a guy who "jokingly" calls you fat, you've allowed it in the past, and now you're (justifiably) upset because he has gotten more blatant with it this time.
the only thing u should do is dump him bc he's mean and disrespectful]
you have a nice figure, but that doesn't matter bc its never ok for a man you're in a relationship w to put you down. there are women 200 lbs who have men who love and respect them so there is no excuse for this guy
Honestly and no I am not gay nor bisexual but I see no reason why he should call you that you do not look anything towards fat that's honesty there but even if you were words hurt and break towards us apart but u should tell him how that made you feel.. and hopefully he says sorry but at the same time your boyfriend should not joke around to call you that at all I hope everything goes ok for you Like both of your dresses where did you get them from
what the heck, you're not fat. I'm fatter than you.. im least 208 right now. I would love to be 135, you're boyfriend and brother are tripping mad hard. And no when someone constantly jokes about it, its not a joke its how they feel hidden behind as a joke. Tell him straight up if he got a problem then he can go somewhere else then.
They called YOU fat? They're immature idiots. That is not a good joke, in my opinion. It's just plain stupid - since you could leave him any second and find love in another (second). You don't need to lose weight. You're fine just the way you are.
This isn't even a question! He has mental problems and needs glasses!! Smh. My advice to him though, he should value you and not try to hurt your feelings (even if they jokingly say it). You are just fine.
It's very good to hear that he stopped. That's the best decision he could make. No matter who, never let ANYONE try to damage your emotions in any way. If your significant other doesn't like excessive weight that you've gained, then he should go about it in a gentle manner to support and help you in the process to reduce the weight. I'm sorry you had to hear it from him though! Continue to be happy.
You are absolutely stunning, your body looks beautiful, fit, and curvy! Don't you ever let anyone tell you something different... you need to speak up and tell him that what he is saying is not ok... whether or not it is a joke, it is taking a toll in your emotional health and should not be tolerated... in a way it is bullying... if that doesn't shut him up then just break up with him
Tell him upfront you don't like being told that.. tell him firmly.. if he has to be reminded.. your more than willing to tell him again (2nd chance). If he continues disregarding your thoughts? ... tell him to kick rocks. 😂
are they craazy? damn you hot as hell, perfecto. you shouldn't do anything about that, 100% best looking as you are now, if he is unhappy, you can find something much better then that asshole u got now
Believe me when I say you've a prefect body. My ex called me fat too but i know I'm thicc~ talk to your guy about it and if he's still a jerk, dump him.
These must be old pictures because you are medically overweight with a 26.3 BM and I just searched women with similar stats to yours and honestly most of them were fat. I unless you are very muscular he is correct in saying you are overweight however it was a bit tactless and not something a boyfriend should say
Very strange you must have some of the greatest genetics or your weight isn't right because I used this site www.mybodygallery.com/search.html to view women with your stats and some have bigger hips but look much fatter, However you still are overweight in terms of Bmi so unless you have a good bodyfat % you should lose weight.
Just Look at that site, your hips must be wider than your height because you are only 5'0 according to yourself and there are women with those same stats and hips that look just as large that are fat so You must have great bone density and fairly good muscle mass or those are flattering photos.
You are far from fat. Calling someone fat isn't funny. Ever. You haven't been with him long enough for him to be thinking it's ok to jokingly call you fat. You don't have to explain being hurt. I would be. I'd be pissed at him and his brother. Tell him your feelings were hurt and his brother needs to shut the f up! Don't let that slide. Say something.
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Anonymous
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i kinda feel like he might be calling you fat to put you down to his level. ... some guys are very insecure when their girlfriends are hotter than them. it's a way to make their girl feel ugly so they don't feel they are good enough to run off with anyone. how do i know? i had a guy like that.
you are fking beautiful i would kill for your body. trust me it's not you, it's them.
You are a curvy girl with fat ONLY in the right places? What is his problem? Maybe he's making you feel insecure because he's afraid someone else will try and you'll leave him. Quick question, how do YOU feel about your body?
You girlfriend are most definitely not fat and who cares if you were? Size does NOT matter. We are all equally beautiful! You should talk to him and tell him how you feel about his jokes on your image let him know it actually effects you and hopefully he'll understand and stop saying those comments. Also that blue velvet dress is stunning! Where did you get it 😍😊?
How the fuck does anyone call you fat and mean it, you have a killer body and should be happy how you are. If they truly mean it then they aren't worth your time.
woman, you are banging hot, if he and his brother have unrealistic standards and are judging your for not meeting them, get rid of them and find a man appreciates you for who you are.
I don't get it. Your beautiful, perfect shape, nothing is wrong with that. Plus I don't get it with your boyfriend being like this, maybe you got a little bit of a stomach and that's what he's talking about. I don't know!
The fuck? Your boyfriend and his brother are straight crazy. You need to have a meaningful talk with your boyfriend about how he and people he's close to talk to you.
He's a bully for calling you fat and he doesn't deserve you at all. You deserve someone that will accept you for who you are and compliment you no matter what
you don't look fat from the pictures of your body you posted. i would die to have your body. consider yourself lucky.
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Anonymous
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Not only are you not "fat", but, he's also not a very good boyfriend. I know, I know, "I shouldn't be attacking the guy you're with" because then it makes me look like "the bad guy", right?
Well, I'm telling you, what he's doing here is wrong. I'm not being P. C. I'm being TRUTHFUL
yes he noticed the increase in weight. if he's shredded. i mean shredded not flat belly, then its understandable. otherwise. you go girl. just keep healthy.
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