Am I wrong to feel cringe that my boyfriend called me sexy?

[Anonymous]

Hear me out. I'm a fat girl that doesn't really think I'm that sexy. Fat isn't sexy. So I don't understand why he called me sexy when I'm fat as hell.

Granted I've lost some weight but still not enough to say I'm out of the fat girl category. I am still very much overweight. Obese really and you can't really see my curves because of my stomach. So am I wrong for feeling cringe that my boyfriend called me sexy?

[KrakenAttackin]

HE thinks you are sexy. If he didn't have a base of attraction to you he wouldn't be with you. For you to call him "cringy" is really insulting to him when he is trying to be positive.

[Asker]

I know. I need to stop invalidating his feelings and realize that he does find me sexy and that I need to be more positive about it.

[Anonymous]

Dont questitonin it. If he is saying sexy you are sexy

[Asker]

Ok thank you!

[Screenwriter]

Why is your boyfriend WITH you if he doesn't find you attractive? You need to embrace what he tells you.

Some men are flexible about what they love. It's not all about "perfect" looks. It's about the WHOLE PACKAGE.

And love yourself WHERE YOU ARE. Congratulate yourself for the work you've done and look in the mirror to check out your "improvements."

Well, this looks better! I have great dimples and lovely hair. My hands a beautiful. My voice, my smile. I have a long neck. My legs are shapely. My shape is hourglass. I have great breasts...

As your boyfriend what's sexy about you. You may not AGREE. But that is what HE SEES and you should thank him, and maybe look at yourself differently.

If HE sees this, I should look more closely at myself and maybe I can see this too. Go see a therapist and get support on your relationship and weight loss journey.

EVERYONE has sexy aspects to themselves no matter what their weight is. But isn't it wonderful that you've found someone who sees you in this way? Don't forget to thank him for his excellent vision!

[Asker]

I know I do and I'm trying to. I really am. And I have thanked him for saying that even if I didn't feel it in myself.

[Screenwriter]

See a therapist and get support while you work on yourself. You gotta improve your self-esteen or it will impact this and other relationships.. Good luck.

[Asker]

Thank you! I can't afford one right now but I will try to get one as soon as I can.

[Billlewis]

Oh, if you're fat, I guarantee you that you're a lot sexier than you think. Really.

[Asker]

I wish I could believe that.

[Billlewis]

All you have to do is start acting like you're the hottest woman there is, because if you believe that every guy who crosses your path should worship the ground you walk on, guess what? That's exactly what they'll start doing. Coming out here and putting yourself down won't get you anywhere.

[Asker]

You're right. I should definitely be more confident in myself. I just don't know how.

[Billlewis]

Go back to your original sign on name and then follow me, and maybe we can talk about it, if you want.

[Asker]

Ok maybe.

[Ms_Facesitter]

You are. The cringe one is actually you. If he didn't find you sexy he wouldn't be with you.

[Ms_Facesitter]

He sees something you don't. He's a man, he has his tastes.

[Asker]

Very true. I guess I need to stop invalidating his feelings and realize that he does find me sexy and I need to learn how to deal with that in a positive manner.

[Ms_Facesitter]

I used to be insecure about my butt, but now it's a weapon ;)

[Asker]

Yeah I just have to get over my insecurities and learn to be more positive about myself. He obviously sees something positive and alluring in me so I need to definitely own it and start seeing it for myself.

[Ms_Facesitter]

You're right! It's not healthy for you and not healthy for the relationship either. Another example. Foot fetishes! To us it's just feet, but for some reason it turns these guys on, another weapon to use!

[laly520]

its ok if he calls u sexy

a compliment

[Asker]

Yeah I know but it's just I don't feel sexy at all in this body. I feel like he is out of his mind for thinking that about me.

[laly520]

u dont see urself with his eyes
for him u look sexy

[Anonymous]

Being attracted to your partner is cringe now. Interesting.

[In_Trance]

You're wrong