Do you have reasons for why you're not attracted to certain people? If you aren't attractive to a lot of people, is there something wrong with you?

[Anonymous]

I hear some people say, I don't have reasons for why I'm not attracted to people, I have reasons for why I am attracted to certain people

No, No

Yes, Yes

Yes, No

No, Yes

[OlderAndWiser]

There are two very important things to understand about attraction.

1. For most people, I think attraction is a subconscious process. I don't see a woman and then think about whether I want to be attracted to her. If I am attracted to her, I feel the attraction almost immediately, without ever talking to her or knowing anything about her. I can tell you the kind of woman to whom I will most likely be attracted (petite, small features, blond, blue eyes) but I can't tell you why I find that kind of woman to be attractive. I can't look back in my past and remember a time when I met a girl who matches that description and suddenly that was "my type."

2. I can be physically attracted to a woman who I know is not a good match for me. I can be attracted and have no interest in pursuing her if I have learned something about her that is a deal breaker.

3. When I was a young man, attraction to a particular woman either happened instantly or it never happened at all. As I have gotten older, I have met women to whom I was not immediately drawn but an attraction developed as I got to know her. And I can't explain what caused the attraction to develop. I can see that I became comfortable with her and enjoyed being around her, but I can't explain why that caused me to develop a physical attraction.

4. Many people think that they need to "force themselves" to be attracted to a diverse range of people or they will be considered narrow minded. Pretending to be attracted is a very stupid idea that would be unfair to the woman as well as unfair to myself.

[Avicenna]

I'm not attracted to women I don't think I'll be compatible with

[catarecute]

i am attracted to kindness and intelligence. some people face look either stupid to me or unkind so it puts me of. i like to pull those faces myself sometime to repel people who piss me off. retard faces or mean faces. and it works tbh.