Are you wrong for not being attracted to certain women or men?

[Anonymous]

I say No, you are not wrong for not being attracted to certain women or men, If you don't find someone attractive then you don't, you don't have to apologies for it it's okay.

We are not meant to be attracted to everyone, the world does not work that way. Even the most attractive men and women in this world are not viewed as being attractive by everyone, There are some men that I found to be attractive but other people found those same men to be unattractive, that did not make me change my views, I still found those men to be attractive.

That's why they say beauty lies in the eye of the beholder. And by attractive I am not just talking about physical appearance, I am also talking about personality as well as interests. We all have preferences as men and women and that's okay.

Also don't delude yourself as a person and think everyone finds you attractive that's false, everyone is ugly to someone in the world so just love yourself the way you are, and stop making it seem like it's world war 180 when someone is not attracted to you because it's not. I bet there is someone out there who will definitely find you attractive.

[DaveJord]

No I would not think your wrong for not being attractive to certain types of people... what is wrong though, is when people think or want to propagate this believe that they should be attractive to all types of people no matter what.

Like when you are a hard working person that puts hours into the gym... and then you see some 5'5 foot tall 300 lbs women and you say she's not sexy to you... other people are like why is she not sexy because you, is it be cause you "think" she is fat?" I am like no its not because I think anything, I fucking know she's fat by looking at her and I don't think its sexy... why? What's your deal flubber lover get over it.

Why should I have to to think she's sexy, why should I have to over look the fact that she is over weight?

[Asker]

you don't have to think she's sexy at all, if your not attracted to her that's perfectly normal.

[Asker]

whoever tries to make you feel horrible for not being attracted to her is a jerk for doing that.

[OlderAndWiser]

Attraction s not a conscius choice. We don't think about it when we ht puberty and decide what we will find attractive. We are merely attracted to some and not to others. And pretending you are attracted to someone would be a HUGE disservice to them.

[Cherry234]

It's not wrong at all. I'm not attracted to guys that are shorter than me (or at least significantly shorter than me). This doesn't make me a bad person. I also accept that not everyone is attracted to me and that's fine.

[Table4YTwo]

Yeah I am white and attracted to black girls who are taller than me, doesn't make me bad just means thats what I find to be my form of perfect beauty!!! .. Everyones got their image of a perfect look for a partner and everyone has a preference so vilifying people based on what they like only further segregates us as a people.

If I a white man love a black women and she and I am judged harshly for it then is it us who are the problem? or is it society thinking that its racist for us to love one another? A black person loving a white person isn't internalized racism, its LOVE its muthafuckin Looove

[Cherry234]

@Table4YTwo If you're judged for loving a black woman then it's going to be a problem for racist people. There are always going to be racist people but that still shouldn't stop you from being with the woman you love. In fact, I'm the product of an interracial marriage. My dad is white and my mom is black. They have gotten some judgment in the past but they didn't let judgmental people stop them from marrying and my mom still gave birth to me.

[JessicaEarl]

No if you’re emotionally not attracted, you can’t control that. If you’re deciding against dating them consciously for other reasons, maybe

[Blueeyes81]

No but I view it as wrong to notify people that you don't find them attractive. Its callus and low class.

[Asker]

It's rude to walk up to people and tell them that yo don't find them attractive, but it's not rude to tell someone that you don't find them attractive if they ask you. Honesty is important and of course you can tell them politely there is never a reason to be rude.

[Man-O-Metal]

I agree with you. I can't reprogram myself to like certain girls (or all girls). We all have personal preferences.

[Blackcosmo]

Not at all. I agree that everyone's tastes are different. Like how one may find a certain food delicious but another will find it disgusting.

[art84]

It's not wrong though I wouldn't tell a women that I don't find her unattractive cause it would hurt her self esteem. I believe that certain people aren't gonna me attractive and the same be said for others. Beautiful is in the eye of the beholder.

[TheSpaceGnome]

Wrong implies incorrect, if a person states what they are and aren't attracted to, and that person isn't lying, than they aren't wrong. Opinions aren't relavant.

[SaartjieJane]

You got your preferences and you don’t need to explain why you like someone or not.

[exitseven]

Everyone has their preferences. Sometimes people can get better looking over time if they have other attractive attributes.

[Berethor]

I don't apology for not being attracted to ugly people.

[slatyb]

No, you aren't wrong. Either you are attracted or you aren't.

[FilmGuy93]

Why would that be wrong? You just don't find the person attractive.

[sheikalana]

Of course not. To whom you feel attracted to is something we have no control about.

[AdithyaR]

Yep, we can't control who we like or who likes us. That's just normal

[sirderpsalot123]

Everyone has preferences, even those who shame others for having preferences.

[driven159]

attraction is deeper than looks so I need to know someone first and she what in the depths of her soul and if she is a deep thinker

[LimitedBenefits101]

Nope you are not wrong

I'm not attracted to
Fat women
Feminist
Pro choice women
Libtard women.
Women below 5"5

[serious]

This is very well written.

[Asker]

Why thank you😸!.

[JohnK123]

No not at all Ik people who don’t like to date certain races…
that doesn’t make them racist

[Lunatic1]

No, not at all. Taste varies from person to person, just like with everything else in life.

[OddBeMe]

No its subconcious. Your past experiences and upbringing shape what you consider “ hot as fck”.

[RuthlessAggression]

I say yes. If you're basing your attraction based on the color of their skin, or their height, etc.. you're being what's called "shallow"

[JustiReno]

What if you want a white son? What’s wrong with that? A son that look like you?

[RuthlessAggression]

@JustiReno I don't want kids

[JustiReno]

Ah ok get that pussy then!

[RuthlessAggression]

Thanks?

[MountAverage]

Who claims it's wrong?

[Asker]

A saw a video of a woman who got upset when a man told her that he would not marry her because she is not what he is looking for, by the way she asked if he would ever marry her if they hypothetically got together and he answered so any ways she got angry and she went back to him the next day and she asked him why would you not marry me something along those lines so the guy said "to be honest I am not attracted to you" then the lady got all emotional and started crying saying that the guy said she is not attractive and saying that she is attractive and she started hating the guy... it was intense but the guy stood his ground, remained calm and was not at all affected by that lady.

[MountAverage]

Okay, so some random woman in some random video. Gotcha.

[Asker]

Nay, apparently most women throw a fit when men admit that they are not attracted them.

[Asker]

myself included I have thrown a fit when men appeared not be interested in me a few years ago but I know a bit better now, hence my post.

[MountAverage]

Most women, huh? Based on what? Your personal experience? Very reliable.

[Asker]

you don't have to believe anything i'm telling you i'm just telling you what i know now and what i've been told.

[MountAverage]

I generally don't believe people's generalizations. ;)

[Asker]

believe what ever the heck you want to believe hun, It's your right to do so, and refer to anything you like as a generalization do whatever pleases thee!.

[MountAverage]

Didn't get my joke?

Anyway, I only refer to generalizations as generalizations. You believing your personal encounters can be extrapolated to the the general population is by very definition a textbook generalizarion, you fucking genius.

So maybe it's better for you to just shut the fuck up, hun.

[PatriceONeal]

So #fatpride is done?

[lickysplit]

We all have different tastes

[Anonymous]

I'm not attracted to anyone, so even better

[thedeadpoet]

Right now, same.

[Waldoe]

I agree

[In_Trance]

Nope

[Anonymous]

No, absolutely not.