I say No, you are not wrong for not being attracted to certain women or men, If you don't find someone attractive then you don't, you don't have to apologies for it it's okay.We are not meant to be attracted to everyone, the world does not work that way. Even the most attractive men and women in this world are not viewed as being attractive by everyone, There are some men that I found to be attractive but other people found those same men to be unattractive, that did not make me change my views, I still found those men to be attractive.
That's why they say beauty lies in the eye of the beholder. And by attractive I am not just talking about physical appearance, I am also talking about personality as well as interests. We all have preferences as men and women and that's okay.
Also don't delude yourself as a person and think everyone finds you attractive that's false, everyone is ugly to someone in the world so just love yourself the way you are, and stop making it seem like it's world war 180 when someone is not attracted to you because it's not. I bet there is someone out there who will definitely find you attractive.
Are you wrong for not being attracted to certain women or men?
No I would not think your wrong for not being attractive to certain types of people... what is wrong though, is when people think or want to propagate this believe that they should be attractive to all types of people no matter what.
Like when you are a hard working person that puts hours into the gym... and then you see some 5'5 foot tall 300 lbs women and you say she's not sexy to you... other people are like why is she not sexy because you, is it be cause you "think" she is fat?" I am like no its not because I think anything, I fucking know she's fat by looking at her and I don't think its sexy... why? What's your deal flubber lover get over it.
Why should I have to to think she's sexy, why should I have to over look the fact that she is over weight?
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you don't have to think she's sexy at all, if your not attracted to her that's perfectly normal.
Attraction s not a conscius choice. We don't think about it when we ht puberty and decide what we will find attractive. We are merely attracted to some and not to others. And pretending you are attracted to someone would be a HUGE disservice to them.
It's not wrong at all. I'm not attracted to guys that are shorter than me (or at least significantly shorter than me). This doesn't make me a bad person. I also accept that not everyone is attracted to me and that's fine.
Yeah I am white and attracted to black girls who are taller than me, doesn't make me bad just means thats what I find to be my form of perfect beauty!!! .. Everyones got their image of a perfect look for a partner and everyone has a preference so vilifying people based on what they like only further segregates us as a people.
If I a white man love a black women and she and I am judged harshly for it then is it us who are the problem? or is it society thinking that its racist for us to love one another? A black person loving a white person isn't internalized racism, its LOVE its muthafuckin Looove
@Table4YTwo If you're judged for loving a black woman then it's going to be a problem for racist people. There are always going to be racist people but that still shouldn't stop you from being with the woman you love. In fact, I'm the product of an interracial marriage. My dad is white and my mom is black. They have gotten some judgment in the past but they didn't let judgmental people stop them from marrying and my mom still gave birth to me.
No but I view it as wrong to notify people that you don't find them attractive. Its callus and low class.
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It's rude to walk up to people and tell them that yo don't find them attractive, but it's not rude to tell someone that you don't find them attractive if they ask you. Honesty is important and of course you can tell them politely there is never a reason to be rude.
It's not wrong though I wouldn't tell a women that I don't find her unattractive cause it would hurt her self esteem. I believe that certain people aren't gonna me attractive and the same be said for others. Beautiful is in the eye of the beholder.
Wrong implies incorrect, if a person states what they are and aren't attracted to, and that person isn't lying, than they aren't wrong. Opinions aren't relavant.
