Is “the wall” more of a problem for women than it is for men?

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Lliam · Accepted Answer

There's no such thing as a "wall".
1. It happens gradually. You don't just smash into it suddenly.
2. Different people age at different rates.
3. Some people remain attractive, depending on their genetics and how well they care for themselves.
There are examples of male celebrities today who are sexy af into their 60 and beyond, and female celebrities in their 50s who look damn good.
4. Different people have different preferences, especially as they, themselves, mature.

I think men tend to have it easier if they stay in shape. A craggy face can be sexy. Facial hair can make them look distinguished. If they experience balding they can shave their heads.
The ideal male body is lean and muscular. So, if they stay in condition, they don't droop, sag or lose the ideal male figure.

Women, on the other hand, are prized for youthfulness. So facial wrinkles reveal aging. Their figures are not determined by leanness and defined muscle but, rather, by subcutaneous fat.
So, as their skin begins to lose elasticity, it becomes less taut and doesn't contain their boobs and subcutaneous fat as tightly.
They may develop cellulite.
Due to hormonal factors, they tend to thicken around the waist or put on weight in general.
Their fat deposits begin to shift and dissipate in old age.

Pegases · Accepted Answer

The wall is simply when a woman no longer receives the same attention from men that she did when she was younger. This happens because men on average are biologically wired to be most attracted to fertile women. So "the wall" can be any age, not necessarily 30, especially if you're taking care of yourself. As for men, our value is dicated by what women find most attractive, which tends to be what we can do. Money, resources, and status increase what a man is capable of. And women are biologically wired to be attracted to those characteristics in men. Because those things take time to attain, men tend to become more attractive as we age and attain them. This is why most women tend to be more attracted to older men. So the wall concept has some truth to it, and it simply stems from what each gender tends to prioritize and find most attractive in the other sex. Women are born, men are made. The key is to take care of yourself. Lots of women age backwards so to speak, so the wall is what women that haven't taken care of themselves face.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I hate the term "the wall". There is no wall. It's a continuum, not a specific point in time or age, and it's different for every woman.

To your question, the phenominon you are referring to is more of an issue for women because youth and beauty are the things men are naturally attracted to because they are proxies for her ability to successfully reproduce and raise healthy children

For men, there are other things that are important to us, like being able to provide for and protect us and our children, having the emotional maturity to be a good husband and father. On average most men don't have all of those things until age 30 or so, and they actually increase from there. But at age 30 we women have already passed our prime in terms of our value to men.

Apple1996 · Accepted Answer

The wall for women doesn't exist. We stay valuable all of our lives. It's purely a thing for men. They are born at the wall and have to try to get over it. Unfortunately most never do and are seen as not valuable by society. Sad but true 😕 poor guys tbh

Avicenna · Answer

Wel, anyone who ties up their sense of well-being and identity in their physical looks will always be disappointed when they’re no longer at their peak attractiveness. It’s better to be a more balanced person.

AmeerX · Answer

If you are a God fearing person than don't be afraid of becoming hideous. But if you think of your looks than it will be a problem for you.

I mean I know women who are past what people say is their prime and I love them a lot )). Too bad 😔 they are still trying to make a certain man that they have spent the life with to make it work. Even though they are not married they still think they can get the man to marry them. It's their loyalty but at the same time I just wish I could be their husband 👀.

They are just that good. And I didn't lie about it too. One extreme case is of a woman who got angry with me when I told her she is loyal to her man that after 15 years with no marriage she is still waiting on him.

She said I made her life meaningless:/. I love her from all my heart but I felt terrible that she thought her life is meaningless.

Another woman was divorced (husband cheated) and she had 2 sons )). She thought she wasn't beautiful but I really found her beautiful. She seemed to have aged but alas she caught my heart and melted it with her words. We were penpals 😅. And their were two women in their 40s one was a widow, the other was with her husband. You wouldn't believe how loving they seemed. I still miss correspondence ever since the Russian special operation I can't seem to get a correspondence despite mail addresses. I always pray for such souls. And guess what 2 of them looked quite old but somehow they had this aura on their face that still gave them more angelical appearance. It's not just beauty. It was their words that always made me happy 😁.

Anyhow you are young, probably not understand what I am talking about but may be years later you will understand the value of inner beauty. You don't have to be on Instagram to find someone who appreciate you. Or show your skin to attract someone 😊

Anonymous · Answer

Yes and No.

I'm really glad you asked this question because this is the single most misunderstood thing by women. Yes, "the wall" is very REAL. But that doesn't mean a woman has to be a victim of it. "The wall" is relevant only to women who have nothing going on for them whatsoever beyond physical appearance. A good woman NEVER loses value. But it affects so many women today because so many women today are not good women. They live a vapid life chasing shallow feelings. So much to the point that 30 is here before they know it. But it still doesn't register till her phone stops ringing, text messages stop arriving, her dance cart becomes empty. Oh, guys will still f*** her. But they're not going to make any real effort anymore. Because there are younger and much more fair looking women to be had now. So she becomes the 2nd choice the fallback. And why would you woo a backup.

The reason the wall isn't a problem for men is men take the brunt of rejection. Simply put, we're used to Women don't understand this because they think a guy not pursuing them is rejection.😆 It's not rejection because she did not risk anything. She did not put herself out there. That conversely is the ONLY way a man ever gets anywhere on the dating front. So he has to constantly risk, constantly put himself out there for at best a 10% success rate. We do this because a GOOD woman is worth it. But back to my point. We're tempered by all the rejection we took. By the time we we start getting old and ugly we accept we were never really attractive to any of you women in the first place.😆 We know that 90% of what we are are what the goblins in your head create anyhow. At this point our attitude is "are you ride or die or not" cause if you're not f*** off. I'm not playing this game anymore.😆

jshm2 · Answer

Don't be daft.

High value people, and good people, never hit the wall.

However, usually when someone is alluded to as "hit the wall" it means they are either a shit person, or not the person they portrayed themselves as.

BourbonAndBacon · Answer

Generally speaking yes. But only only because I think more guys work on themselves and that pays off later in life. We do it for various and I do it because there's only so much I can do about my looks so I have to become a better person to be more successful in love and my career. From my experience, most women don't do this but the women that do are very desirable.

abc3643 · Answer

I don't see why. It was an iconic album - the most important album at the end of the 1970s!

DarkLegacy · Answer

Yes it is, women looks fade after 23 and for men it is not the same. Men prefer younger women which as we have seen on here brings out the bitterness in women who have hit the wall. Women prefer men their own age.

Also women go through the menopause and stop being fertile but men remain fertile until death.

love_conquers_lust · Answer

The wall was created by asshole men treating girls like shit and girls allowing it. The wall doesn’t have to exist if women don’t want it to. Say no to bitch bad boys.

Anemone978 · Answer

LOL nice picture.. she also was a drug addict, that is why she looks so rough.. I don't think "the wall" matters as long as you look young and are pretty/handsome..

Anonymous · Answer

Sort of, yeah. Think about what men value in women versus what women value in men. I mean the specific characteristics.

What happens to the things men value in woman as they age?

What happens to the things women value in men as they age?

exitseven · Answer

I think the wall is more of a problem for illegal aliens.

4ngelic · Answer

i think yea because i think how hot a girl is impacts a bit more how much people think she's worth then a dude. so when dudes hit the wall people dont devalue them as much i think

Nikki1989 · Answer

The wall doesn't exist, never did. That is just some BS made up by insecure men.

Mansearching · Answer

Wall really doesn't exist. Women and men have a choice to live the life they want to and how they want to.

Plus using Lindsey Lohan for this question? Really? At least you didn't use Brittany Spears. Two on top of list of crazy.

ProbablyClueless · Answer

Yup. I don't think I've ever heard of the wall being used with men.

Staximus · Answer

That girl could have been the highest paid actress in Hollywood if she could have kept her nose out of the dope bag

Willlovewinintheend · Answer

No the men hit the wall go bald and can't attract any women after a while.

zagor · Answer

What wall are you talking about? Obstacle courses?

dolemite58 · Answer

something tells me this question was written by a guy cuz women don’t like to admit it

Masterodd · Answer

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