Haven’t been in a relationship in a 8 years. Is that a red flag?

[Anonymous]

The past several years were challenging. Covid. Car breaking down, having to buy a new one. Moving. Job changes. Health.

Also, I’ve had social anxiety. There were times I was into someone yet I was too afraid to make a move. There were a few times when girls were hitting on me, and I was hesitant, so I sort of just didn’t reciprocate it.

I’m in a much better position now though. I’m happier. My self esteem is getting better. I lost a lot of weight and kept it off. I’m saving money. I think im ready for a relationship.

But I’m also afraid if a girl asks me when my last relationship was.

[Tiishyy]

I personally don’t see it as a red flag. If it took you 8 years to work on yourself and putting yourself in a better space mentally and physically then it’s better. I call that a green flag, just be honest if that question does come up , a decent person will know that shit happens in life and doesn’t give anyone the right to pass judgement.

[Anonymous]

No.
I’ve been single since 2013 and I’ve been very busy as a mother and coping with my child’s abusive hostile father. I don’t want a relationship when my kids dad can be as mean as he’s been. I’m busy. When my child is grown, I can explore the possibility of a relationship. But for now I got things on the go.

[Anonymous]

Its not. It would help if you explain to them why that is. You have a very valid reason. A lot of people get into relationships despite knowing they aren't in a good place. If a guy i meet had the same situation and the same reason, i wouldn't cut him off over it.

[Raeannox]

I personally don’t think that you should be worried in any way. Just tell your truth. Anyone who thinks not being in a relationship for x amount of years is a red flag is a red flag…

[HelpfulWoman]

eh, i'd rather a dude who stayed out of relationships rather than jumping into one left, right and center

[Anonymous]

just explain everything you said here. it's the truth, so why not? and if they don't like it, then you can move on to the next one. you don't have much to lose, and lying is just not worth it. so just be you.

[Nikki1989]

8 years?

Damn.

[Sasha0426]

I’ve never been in one my whole life. So you got nothing to worry about.

[daisygreenlove]

Some people cheat every 2years... so i think you're doing good

[daisygreenlove]

Be confident am honest. You spent time focusing on you, growing and bettering yourself. That is a huge GREEN flag for relationship. You may have to hire a security squad to keep the ladies away.

[sheikalana]

Sorry for answering with a question but who hurt you?