Almost 6 months, and not in love?

[lyssabugg35]

We've been together 6 months and neither of us have said it, I'm not in love yet.

I'm wondering if maybe we get along great, like each other, but will not ever actually fall in love.

How long should I give it?

[Lioness]

Well it depends... how often do you guys see each other? How much time do you spend with each other? Does he give you butterflies or any kinda excitement to be around him? Do you look forward to just being next to him/touching him? Have you guys been intimate? All these must be considered to see the bigger picture here :)

[lyssabugg35]

We see each other almost every day. He's practically my best friend. I don't get butterflies. But I feel good around him and I like being with him/cuddling. I look forward to seeing him. We've been intimate

[Lioness]

So it sounds like you guys just don't have 'chemistry' and with out a romantic relationship can not really thrive. let me ask you this, when you kiss him does he taste good no matter what he's eaten? Does his smell turn you on? Basically his natural taste and odor does it get you excited?

[lyssabugg35]

I don't think he tastes bad, or smells bad, but I don't get excited.

[Lioness]

Ok, so when you guys are intimate do you really enjoy him and crave him? I mean does he turn you on by just looking at you or a touch perhaps? Do you turn him on without even a touch or just a hug?

[lyssabugg35]

No, but I've felt that way about someone in the past. I mean I enjoy him as a person, but I don't think I crave him.

[Lioness]

I think you know your answer then,

[Lioness]

Just thought of something... Do you guys have a strong mental connection>? what did you like about your ex or crush? Sometimes a nice mental connection can make a big difference.

[lyssabugg35]

He and I are both hard headed and I misread him sometimes. He like invites me, but tells me I don't have to go, which makes me feel like he doesn't want me to. But he says it's not that.

My crush before him, he melted me with a look.

[Lioness]

Oh wow that kind of miscommunication/misunderstanding sounds like me and my ex.. hmm yeah that could grate on your feelings and keep them at bay a bit, so why don't you tell him? The reason my ex did that was cuz he didn't want me to feel obligated that is just how he was brought up. once I realized I understood it wasn't just me, that's how he was in general with everyone. Ok, so your ex you were highly attracted to so what happened?(if you don't mind)

[Lioness]

*I mean crush

[lyssabugg35]

It's a long story, I'll private message you

[bombamboum]

There is a difference between not saying you're in love and not being in love. If you don't feel in love yet, I don't think it can really change.

[lyssabugg35]

I have mixed feelings about a guy- if that's holding me back could I maybe still get there?

[bombamboum]

That probably doesn't help. It depends on how much time you spend with your boyfriend. I just know from my personal experience that even after a month, I was growing big feelings for my boyfriend and quickly realized I was falling hard. I can't imagine letting that love suddenly appearing after six month

[lyssabugg35]

I was falling, but my crush hit me up and told me he liked me. It made it all just vanish and I haven't been able to get it back (happened 2 months ago). I don't talk to my crush and I don't think he wants to talk to me anyway.

[aficionado]

Both of you like each other, so it seems like your relationship is just missing that spark which transforms 'like' to 'love. You need to jointly figure out what that is. Good luck! :)

[lyssabugg35]

Can that spark just be found? Or is our just something that's not there?

[aficionado]

It's obviously not there now. But since you both seem to be so compatible in other ways, it would be a shame to let go of each other. if there is no spark, you need to CREATE one. Have a talk about this. Do stuff together. You CAN make it work if you really want to.

[lyssabugg35]

I'm not sure how to create one. He's very logical, I go with my feelings more. We've gone ice skating, a hockey game, cooked together, sex is good.

[lyssabugg35]

I guess I'm not sure how to talk about that with him.

[aficionado]

Try to tread the middle path. You can start being a bit more logical, while he can try showing his emotions a bit more. It needs efforts, and won't be easy. But still very much possible.

[Anonymous]

6 months and then you'll know. If you don't know by now end the relationship and move on