Why after 6 months do I not feel in love anymore?

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I was head over heels for my boyfriend a few weeks ago. Now, it’s been 6 months we’ve been together and my feelings are conflicted. I care for him deeply, and i want to be with him. But, my feelings just aren’t there anymore. I still get worried when he doesn’t text me back for a little while. Or, I’m worried he doesn’t like me either. But, i told him how i felt a distance, and he said he hasn’t felt that way at all. He got really upset because he thought i didn’t want him anymore. I do. But, my feelings are confusing me. I just don’t feel those same loving feelings as before.

little_bird1 · Accepted Answer

I think it's normal. I was also head over heels for my boyfriend just a month ago, and now it feels more like we're best friends. It's a different, kinda stronger kind of feelings, can't really explain it.
I used to listen to love songs all the time and think about him, smile and think about him 24/7, fantasize about him, about future, think in advance what I'm gonna text or say, freak out and sometimes even cry when he doesn't text me back for hours, couldn't fall asleep without his goodnight message, would constantly stare at him, smile like a retard when he looks at me, get jealous when he cuddles his CAT, talk about him to my girl friends, always wear the best outfit, best perfume, best hairstyle, best make-up on our dates, etc.
And now all of it has kind of decreased. It's still there, I still do all those things, just not that often. Now happens spontaneously. And I honestly like this more. It's more relaxed, I'm more me somehow. There's no more anxiety, only more and more certainty. We are more like humans now then when we started dating, lol. I go to sleep even if he still didn't wish me goodnight, I don't jump to my phone when he calls, I would sometimes rather hangout out with my friends or family then with him (I kind of went MIA on all of them when I started dating my boyfriend because I wanted all my free time to spend with him), I don't always wear the best outfit anymore I'm comfortable in anything and without make-up around him, I sometimes dose out thinking about work or something when we're together (and before that would never happen because all my focus was on him), we fool around and I make stupid jokes and he teases me and I tease him back, I'm more comfortable being more honest with him, our conversations are more meaningful like about life, work, goals, deep stuff, I fart around him and MOST IMPORTANTLY - sex has become WAY better. And it's not just me, I also see a shift in him as well.
I know I am still in love with him, just in a different way. Feelings are maybe not there 24/7, but there are moments when they hit really hard, harder then in honeymoon phase, and I just think to myself "God, I love you".

xEmmorixX · Accepted Answer

Around this age range we're all still very young, and we all still have many relationships to blow through. We learn from them over time.
We're not exactly sure of what we want yet. Even if we think it's what we want.
Depending on the person though. It's still like a learning period. Love is a strong powerful word though.
It takes a while to know if that's the person.
If it's not working out it's best to end it on good terms.

PoliceLivesMatter · Accepted Answer

I think this is normal, and expected. What is known as the “honeymoon” phase of a relationship, is what I believed to be feelings of love, coupled with a bit of nervousness, anxiousness, and excitement. It’s when things are new and every kiss and sexual interaction is exciting and causes a little nervousness or anxiousness. After this moment, things start to die down. It’s natural for things to not be like what they were in the “honeymoon” phase, because it’s impossible for that to last indefinitely. You’ve already said you care for him deeply, and want to be with him , so where’s the ambiguity? You and him are partners and unless you don’t like him anymore and want to be with him, this is normal.

Tuomaaash · Accepted Answer

It normal for your feelings to change within time. Don´t take them too seriously. Give yourself time to figure it out. Long distance can play tricks on your mind.

Finchie40 · Answer

Maybe you realized you dont have much in common with Him, i think you care about him but usually in the beginning of a relationship people tend to accept someone cuz they are new and exciting but after awhile you realize it was just a faze you start to realize you dont have much in common so the love starts to fade , just be thankful ypu aren't married to him and really take ypur time with someone before u marry them , so you're best to end the relationship Now before it gets real deep , just be honest with Him and tell him you dont love him like ypu thought you did and move on

Anonymous · Answer

You were infatuated... fostered an ego based, purely mind to mind connection. Those connections do not last and then boredom sets in. This is your fault as much as it is his. Love has no opposite, but egoic based love does... it's indifference, boredom, and / or hate.

This has either happened before, and if it hasn't, it will happen again and again. Most do not understand and confuse their thoughts to be themselves... your thoughts of infatuation... to be love... but it's a fallacy.

The sadest thing is that as long as this continues, you prevent yourself from feeling authentic love.

Seppe_Hannen · Answer

Do you want the truth?

Feeling in love, that feeling, usually only lasts a couple of months. And this goes for every person even your “soulmate bla bla”.

You have to make yourself love each other by really comitting. Its your own job to keep getting that. Its a team effort.

Just consider, do you want to be with him? Yes? Then work on loving each other as a tema effort.

SWitching partners will only give that feelinf for a couple of months and you will be back to where you started..

Piteka5 · Answer

You experienced biological love, driven by our brain and hormones wich lead to a strong feeling, lust even, that doenst last long, since it's only objective it to lead to a child. Things will calm down now, and now you get to the commitment and work phase, because that is what will keep things rolling, I hope, forever.

lernulo · Answer

Well may happen two things:
1 grow in love
2 discovering he was more a friend that a boyfriend.
Answer some questions to you and decide after it.

1. if you stay one or two weeks without fucking anyone, do you want to fuck him?
2. How long has it been the longest relation you had?

3. If you break up tomorrow how would you feel?

I think them will bring you the answer.

Krazzymike321 · Answer

This exact scenario happened to me and my girlfriend. I was in your shoes, it was actually the same time as well. We both cared for eachothers and after 6 months, I was worried she was cheating on me and I think it was my insecurities that caused her to dump me...

dwayne93ddp · Answer

You've just got through the honeymoon phase. Every relationship has one. If you dont wanna be with him now is the time to leave dont waste his or your time prolonging something you already know won't work out.

mysticghost · Answer

Your have gotten over the euphoria phase and you both have become comfortable and are not keeping the relationship fresh. It can also be the you're both not really best friends. If you were, you wouldn't be thinking about any of this.

Mohamedmo · Answer

I think this is normal. i experienced that this is related to hermones. Don't worry your feelings will come back in same days but that will maybe repeat again and thats your role you have to conserve community and love even you don't feel that. and that's true love is about sacrifices. And im sure that your love will be better and bigger.

JudgmentDay · Answer

Because it was all delusions, falsely misleading you to think, feel and believe what really isn't really there in the very first place.

Gottabsavagee · Answer

Girl you do care, you’re just confused. Try to get closer with him.

Johnnie1000 · Answer

Could it possibly be that you never were in love. Maybe infatuated but not really love. Be sure you really kn ow what love is and entails.

Lance1965 · Answer

You were most likely never in love. People do this all the time, especially women. A woman will think or even say she is in love just from texting someone. It is not real.

call_me_scar · Answer

Unfortunately the feeling of being head over heels love only k last 6 months to a 3 years befir the chemicals in your brain die down I would suggest to talk to a close friend who's been in your shoes

naynaym · Answer

I have the same problem but its like after a month or two it just like I just detach I think I have commitment issues

Anonymous · Answer

Because you just stop being in love, it happens sometimes

ToToRoUNKnoWn · Answer

Humans get used to things and our love for that thing weakens but it's only natural I suppose.

corkr900 · Answer

Lust fades. You may have misunderstood your original feeling, which you understood as love

jimmy2 · Answer

Well at your age love can be confusing. Just think of what you really want. Do you really want him for life

groundbreakingpost · Answer

Love is something you cultivate. What you are describing is biological drive.

Why after 6 months do I not feel in love anymore?

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