I told her I loved her and she ran! is there any hope?

Well, she most definitely led you on.
If I were you I wouldn't want anything to do with her any more.
Why on earth would you want to continue to involve yourself with someone like this? You are letting your feelings blind you and take away your pride.
She toyed with you.
She told you all the things you felt were right.
Then when you reciprocated that response,
she distanced herself.
Don't allow yourself to be treated that way.
"She said that she must have led me on but didn't do it intentionally" what? she did have you thinking she loves you ,duh,she said it several times..I don't understand her thinking,she is hard to read,just back off for now,give her time to miss u..
childish games
maybe she is getting even with you for asumming she wasn't interested at the very beginning and moving away. you know ...a womens scorn
I thought about the getting even thing. I did forget to include in my post that there were several times she would get very irratated when another girl would talk to me or flirt with me around her. she made the comment "" that bitch better back off" because you are mine. she said that several times and I could see the jelousy in her eyes. I have been played before just like everyone else but something was different this time, don't know what, but different.
can you ask her ?
wth her problem is..and why she became distant after you told her you love her? you deserve to know if this is going anywhere and if not...peace out
If I ask her what the problem was, will that violate the back off give her time tactic? and how much time is usually given before I say to hell with you. She did tell me when we were talking four nights ago that everyone that has ever told her that they loved her didn't mean it and that she has been really screwed up by the last several guys. she also closed up on me a few weeks back and I asked her why and she said so that she don't get hurt, the next morning she texted me " I really do love u
ok then give her a few days then send her a text saying you really do miss her and that you are here if she needs u. that's it.
im really wondering if all that I don't wanna get hurt and last boyfriend treated me wrong verbage is just an easy way out, that's why I really wanna give her a few days say to middle of week and then if she still won't come around , then ill just have the sexiest girlfriend I have come up and hug me and flirt with me right in front of her, wink at her and walk off!
that may backfire,exclude the hug and just have that sexy girl talk to you flirty and you act cool..she will wonder why you ain't all over that and realize you could be that way if you were the type of guy to just replace someone that quick.that would impress her more,but don't let her know you know she's watching..be clueless.
shes confused
I don't wanna be mean or rude to her, I really do care for her, saying I love you sometimes is stronger than what you actually feel. But you can't take it back or pretend it never happened. that's the bad part. I'm hurting not because she won't reciprocate affection, but because I lost someone in my life that means a lot to me. But you can't be friends with someone that you want more from, it will only cause further damage.
u are right its hard to go back to friend zone,thats why she didn't put you there..give it a little time,i don't think she played u..shes just scared I think.
pray about it
Ok so last night I was watching the TV and saw something that reminded me of her, I text her today and said " hey I was watching TV last night and saw something that reminded me of you and I had a good laugh. I also told her I really missed her and I was here for her. She responded back and asked why did you think of me. I told her because of what she did in the car that night. she then said LoL and said oh yea, I forgot about that! I have not responded back. Should I or not? What do I say?
let her reach out now
I will, also I stoped in at the store tonight and she wasant there but her friend that works there asked me why I have been in a bad mood, I told her, you already know. she said not, and swears she has no idea. I don't think she was told. Is that odd? not to tell your frind what is going on, especially one that she hangs out with. It just struck me as wierd, I would have thought she would have at least confided in her knowing that the friend knew that we were spending time together.
but don't you recognize the game? her friend is now asking why you are in a bad mood,she wants to hear you say its because of her...she set it all up just like when you said they were asking you other times...she wants to know you are affected by this,nexxt time say something like,im not in a bad mood,i just have a lot to do before my trip to so and so..make something up doesn't have to be a trip,something they will want to be digging at,make her wonder for a while.
You know I forgot to mention that the only rise I got out of her the night we talked about it was when I mentioned that I made a mends with an old girl friend, that she was no longer acting crazy around me and that we had a decent converation. when she heard that her eyes went straight to me and she tilted her head. she was the same ex that she always got jelous over when I mentioned her.
the rise she would get would be knowing something is wrong..if you are in a bad mood,things aren't going your way ...including the old crazy gf..which would now not be a threat because men are ecstatic when there's a new love..go in excited , like things are wonderful..
I don't understand that, lol it certainly looked asif she was jelous when I mentioned the ex. I have been by her work several times today, not going in but just passing by. seemed like every time I was neer, she was comming out side to do some task like pick up paper in the parking lot and so on, then when I passed by she went back in. I just don't get it! she even looked over my way a few times and had the most miserable look on her face. its beyond me.
games...keep playing along,she will come around.
good things are worth fighting for..
how long has it been now? if its been more than two weeks,can you shoot her a text and say that she stays on your mind and you miss hanging out with her
its a waiting game and how long you can handle is will be up to you,meanwhile start talking to other chix it will free up your mind of her,if you constantly think about it over and over it can block the process,like a wall..tear that wall down by clearing your thoughts of her,hang up the phone in your mind,so she can call in,the line is too busy,hope this makes sense
Ten min after she left me from giving me the cup cakes, she text again and said something about a frog jumping on her. so I text back and said thanks for the cup cakes but why did you decide to give them to me. she replied back that she knew I was working because I was around the store and I didn't stop and say anything so she didn't want me to be driving around hungry!
aw she's reaching out...and she fed u>>>>wow great start.. don't text her unless she texts u...u will have her eating from your hand soon
me too
Hey I need an update
Ask her this exact question, “Do you want to be with me or not?”
If she says anything other then yes, cut her loose and find another woman. She's not taking it as seriously as you are, and you deserve someone who does.
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