I love him but my family doesn't approve...

[ashleiigh15]

im 16, and I've been having an on off again relationship with a guy whos 24 for about 3 years. he's my bestfriend and has helped me through alot. but here the thing my cousin use to go out with one of his bestfriends and ended up fighting my guys sister (befor us) and she put in my familys head that he's a bad person. which he's not he's caring and everything we lived together for a year then we broke up and went out and broke up but we would always end up back together, even when were in other relationships we would still be having an affair till we start going out again. I was going through major depression and having major problems with my self and he still stuck by me, I've met his whole family and we know everthing about eachother. when we first started going out we would always be partying I would always end up fighting girls that try and break us up he ended up getting introuble with the law but so was I at the time and we went on the run for 6 months until we came back home and we got our court stuff dealt with but when we were on the run he had nobody not even his family would help him I was the only one there. I would love for him just to be accepted into the family but I don't know that's one of the reasons why it would always end, but he always told me no matter what we will always end up together, he has a new girlfriend know I'm single I hate her I think he's just with her to get me back. we always talk on msn he calls me when she's not around. we hang out when he can get away, I just want to know if I should really go for it and make it work like I seriously do love him nothing can change that I've never been closer with anybody else. I just don't want to loose him, we still tell each other ilove you all the time, and when he holds me I feel like everythings allright. I don't know any advice would help

[Lea1986]

I think you need to take a step back from this situation. Love can seem so involving and intense and that makes it easy to forget everything else in your life. But, you need to start thinking about your future, like what are you going to do if you can't depend on this guy? Are you going to be able to support yourself? Are you getting a high school degree? If you are, then good for you stick through it, if your not or you have dropped out: get your GED as soon as possible. Right now, you're is the most important thing in your life. Now, as far as this guy goes, you need to back up from this situation, especially since he has a girlfriend now, don't set your self up for major heart break by telling yourself that he's gonna come back one day: that may not be the case. Take things for what they are: you are young and the adrenaline of young love is enough to make you think you'll spend the rest of your life with the one you love. But that may not always be the case, keep that in mind. If you can have a healthy relationship filled with mutual respect and love, then good for you, wonderful, I wish you the best of luck. But things sound shaky so you have to be careful of how much you invest yourself with this guy. Now, the age thing. I believe that age doesn't matter to an extent. But you said that you have been with him on and off for the past 3 years. That means that he was 21 and you were 13. That is not cool. I am 22 and I could never imagine myself dating someone that young, I think that is perverted and border-line child molestation. Sorry to put it so cruelly, but I think most people will agree with me. I know you will resent that comment, but when you are older, you will understand more clearly.

Right now, just take a step back, really try to evaluate the reality of this situation, all factors included: the age difference, the fact that he has a girl friend, the fact that you are young and the fact that you need to get through school.

[paintbynumber123]

um no duh he was getting in trouble with the law, do you know how much trouble he would be in if they found out he was in a sexually active relationship with a 16 year old? especially if you started a relationship with him when you were 13, that whole thing is sick. just push him out of your life in any way possible. don't talk to him and don't call him. find someone your own age that you love. you will always find someone else that you will love. CUT HIM OUT OF YOUR LIFE NOW!

[Mademoiselle]

I'm 24 and I couldn't imagine dating a 16 year old. Especially, when you have been dating for 3 years , so that wouldve made you 13 and him 21. That is very inappropriate and that is why your parents do not approve. Maturity is a big thing in a relationship. 8 years is a big gap at these ages. It sounds like your guy is not mature since he is still talking to you while with other girls. It puts the question out there.. did he talk or see other girls while he was with you?

[paigep929]

i know it hurts but he has a girlfriend, if he wanted 2 be with you over her he would, it sounds lyk ur just a bootie call to him...